Any tips to last longer?

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    Ok, so basically I am planning on having a "play date" within the next few days. I don't have much sexual experience, I've only had sex 4 times with escorts. And the few times I've had sex, I've found myself unable to last very long. Like if I am fucking non-stop, I will probably cum in less than two minutes. And the one time when I didn't masturbate the night before, I found myself cumming upon putting my dick inside her.

    This time, I would like for it to be different. So does anybody have any advice for me to make it last like 5-10 minutes like normal people do?
     
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    The only thing I ever tried to gain control of my orgasms in my younger days was to take a pain med, about 1/2 hour before sex, that was left over from a toothache prescription - Tylenol III. If I took a whole tablet, I was unable to ejaculate because I couldn't feel the necessary sensations. It also helped me to stay hard during the hour or two I could spend inside her. A half a tablet allowed me to delay things, but I could still cum when I wanted to. With the additional ability to stay hard, I also found that relaxing a little while pumping would help me to prolong things. It's not recommended that you take any other med than one that was prescribed to you by a doctor or dentist. Others I know who have tried this needed more or less of the pain med than I did in order to get the results they wanted.

    By the way, after you've had 5 or 10 thousand orgasms in a woman, they probably won't be coming so quickly, and you'll be able to enjoy more of the details of the experience of the connection rather than racing to the finish.
     
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    You mean I won't be coming so quickly? Because I've never heard of men who have problems with women coming too quickly. It's usually the other way around.
     
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    What I mean is that after the urgency of having to have a lot of quick orgasms is satisfied or delayed, you will begin to enjoy the journey of sexual pleasure rather than the destination - kind of like slowing down to smell the roses. But this is a long way off for someone just starting out. I think now you might want to just have as many orgasms as you can manage.
     
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    I have that problem, coming to quick, I make a joke with my wife saying just after coming damn I did it agin didnt I but I find I can still keep on going, but hey just try foreplay and try also stopping and starting process when you enter, that helps me.....its hard because when your so aroused you cannot stop yourself, you just carry on so I find its a form of self discipline to stop that urge, NOT EASY MAY I ADD....good luck.......hope my advice wasnt too silly, trying to help mate
     
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    Just relax and enjoy the ride. Often times the anxiety you feel to last longer causes you to not last so long.
     
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    Yes, "Gecko" has a good point - the mental aspect is at least a contributing factor.

    "EnigmaticSpirit", being with a casual partner - rather than a serious relationship - can contribute to some people's anxiety, since by it's nature the encounter is more "performance" based. (On the other hand, some people claim they perform better with casual partners because they know there won't be any long-term consequences or expectations.)

    After you cum, DON'T just roll over and go to sleep! At your age, you should be able to re-charge and go again in 30 minutes or less. Use the time to satisfy your partner with mouth and fingers, exploring her body, learning her response pattern. I suspect she may be more impressed if you do it twice in an hour, than if you did it for a continuous hour.

    And if you are very brave - just tell her a little about your history and experience. (Don't say your partners were escorts.) Ask her to help you learn to be a better partner. I bet the majority (though not all) women will be turned-on at the chance to be "teacher". (The traditional technique is for her to use hands or mouth to bring you to climax during the foreplay stage. Don't fight it - let it happen - if she does this. You'll last longer once you're actually inside her.)
     
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    Actually, I'm never trying to have an orgasm, because since I am with escorts, after I come that's it, I don't have time to recharge and go again. And I have also found that unless it's a girl I am REALLY attracted to, after I come I usually find myself no longer attracted to the girl.


    Hmm, that's interesting. That's how they do it normally? And then after the guy recharges he gets inside her? So if she makes me come with oral first, I would last longer once I recharge? Would it also work like this if I just masturbated shortly before having sex with the girl?
     
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    Get an ugly bird. Always works for me[​IMG]
     
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    Train yourself to fight that loss-of-interest feeling. (Could be that you didn't make a good choice of the girl - which is understandable if she is an escort.) As I mentioned, at your age the lust should return rather quickly with just a little encouragement. You can use the time to get her plenty ready for the coupling.

    That's how my wife & I did it when we first started having sex, on the times when she wanted plenty of stroking and penis-inside-her time. Don't build it up to be your main orgasm - just a quick release very early in the foreplay, to take the edge off. Your mind will be better able to concentrate on pleasuring her, and it will take more stimulation to bring on your second orgasm. Some guys say they relieve themselves before the sex, or even before the date, but I never have.
     
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    I am a fan of Endurnz. For me it works the best and fastest.
     
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    Well, with one of them, I still find myself attracted to her after, like I still want to sit and talk to her for a bit. But I'm not "horny" anymore. Is it normal for it to take a while for that to come back? Like maybe half an hour or more? Or am I not normal for my age?
     
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    Keep switching positions and think about baseball.:lol
     
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    NOt sure if thinking about baseball is the solution, LOL
     
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    sorry, i didnt read the rest o the posts here so forgive if i repeat some...but basically, forgetaboutit....youre not gonna learn "control" in the amount of time youre giving yourself so focus on the things that you CAN control...like making your girl cum as many times as you can with your mouth, hands, toys....whatever. many women wont reach orgasm from intercourse anyway, but thats okay, if youve already given her a couple of intense orgasms no one will care if you only last a couple minutes inside her...
    And dont worry, you can learn "control"...there is much information about the topic available...just dont give up on it, it takes a while to learn. I used to be just like you, couldnt last but a few minutes, now, i can go literally as long as i want. in fact i dont cum until she asks me to. Or sometimes i push it a little farther and wont cum until she BEGS me to....but thats another story altogether..lol.....best of luck..
    And most importantly, dont put pressure on yourself, it'll mess your head up for sure . Sex is supposed to be fun, not stressful...lol.
     
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    good product.