Any One Read, "Kosher Adultery?"

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    Have you read this book?

    KOSHER ADULTERY recommends voyerism to satisfy any cravings for adultery.

    At Borders, in the psych section not in the relationship section...There was this book:Kosher Adultery by Shumel Boteach, Hardcover: 336 pages ; Dimensions (in inches): 1.25 x 8.72 x 5.84 Publisher: Adams Media Corporation; (September 2002) ISBN: 1580627927

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    About the Author
    Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, author of the international bestsellers Kosher Sex and Dating Secrets of the Ten Commandments, is host of "Dear Shmuley," a nationally syndicated daily radio show on the Talk America Radio Network. For eleven years, he served as Rabbi to the students of Oxford University, where he founded the L’Chaim Society, which became the second largest student organization in Oxford’s history. His book Why Can’t I Fall in Love was a finalist for the Books for a Better Life Award, and his latest work, Judaism for Everyone, was published to critical acclaim. A winner of the highly prestigious London Times Preacher of the Year Award, Rabbi Shmuley has debated human relationship issues with such figures as Larry Flynt, Helen Gurley Brown, Elizabeth Wurtzel, the Rules Girls, Deepak Chopra, and Jerry Falwell. Rabbi Shmuley lives in New Jersey with his Australian wife Debbie and their seven young children.

    Book Description
    How can adultery-the worst of all marital sins-be considered "kosher"? As internationally bestselling author Rabbi Shmuley Boteach explains, what often leads to infidelity is too much trust and complacency, which causes routine, boredom, and waning attraction. You and your spouse must look to the principles of adultery-forbiddenness, danger, excitement, tension, and voyeurism-to achieve the outer limits of erotic excitement, passion, and pleasure in your own marriage.

    In this revolutionary new book, Rabbi Shmuley explains how you can rekindle the fiery attraction and endless lust that existed before you and your spouse became husband and wife: Kosher Adultery. Husbands must turn their wives into mistresses; wives must turn their husbands into lovers. Through the groundbreaking "Ten Commandments of Kosher Adultery," wives become their husbands’ private WebCam girls, while husbands have sinful affairs with their wives, who are completely unaware of the real identity of their mysterious admirers. Rabbi Shmuley shows you how to:

    -Create erotic desire in the mind, the source of all lust and attraction

    -Look at your spouse with the eyes of a prowling suitor

    -Bring the danger of an affair into your marriage without being unfaithful

    -Turn attraction and fantasies about strangers into an electric night of passion

    -Bring novelty into marriage by viewing your spouse through the eyes of an unsuspecting stranger

    -Have a secret e-mail affair with your spouse without anyone discovering your identity

    -Introduce erotic voyeurism into your marriage

    -Increase desire and sinfulness through the use of erotic obstacles and barriers

    Continuing where Rabbi Shumley’s classic Kosher Sex leaves off, this highly controversial and electric work challenges all past and contemporary scholarship about the marital bed, ensuring that it will be the most hotly debated and discussed book of the next decade.


    In most cases where I have seen posts of women complaining about pornography, it seems to me the wives could have been more cooperative with their husband's sex drive, and incorpoated pornography better into the marital love-making scenerio. Since secrecy is possible, wives who make prudish comments, may well be setting themselves up for failure. It may even be wise for a wife to occasionally rent a XXX movie, herself, to be sure that Hubby feels free to bring up his desires for errotica.

    To me, Porno Addiction is a convenient term used by therapists who are trying to find a way to avoid telling the wife to stop being excessively prudish. Certainly SA Whitebook gives a large number of psychological disadvantages to over-dependence on pornography. But the causes of problems with pornography lies primarily with prudishness, which is supported by public pretenses of prudishness by many, cloaked behind private and secret enjoyment of erotica.

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    I just wanted to keep track of valuable references on this site, so I guess this is as good a thread as any.

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    Update: It used to be possible to come back to threads and make changes without a time limit. For about a year, ther has been a 5 or 6 minute time limit to make changes to a post.

    Another change is that ther is now a designated thread, under Sex Talk, for posting Links to other helpful sites. There are links to other sites in two of my foregoing posts.



    Book Report

    I checked out KOSHER ADULTERY and KOSHER SEX from the public library. I have been reading over Rabbi Boteach's ideas.

    Boteach takes the opposite approaches on Adulter and Pronography, different from my views. I try to use Porn to keep me from temptation, and I try to keep from infidelity, nso I can best expect my wife to be faithful, or at least not embarrss me with public cheating.

    Boteach says it is a natural tendency for men to cheat. He says that poss show that some 62% of women are offended by porn. So Boteach argues that porn is BAD and Adultery is OK.

    In additon to the fact that I totally disagree with the guy, I feel that he should give some balance to his views. NO, he just puts his view in the books, and does not comapre contrast or raationalyze away otehr views. Boteach just omits the possibility that anyone might have a different opinion.

    If yuou arfe lookig to justify adultery, then I guiess his books are fine. If you are looking to improve you marriage, or understand your partner better, or negotiate more cosiderate compromises, I don't think Boteach is the answer. I will read the books further, to see if ther is something I can agree with.

    Ideas?