Any guy watch his wife give blow job to another?

Discussion in 'Sexual Fetishes and Fantasies' started by gooseman1124, Dec 12, 2011.

  1. gooseman1124

    gooseman1124 New Member

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    Interested to know if there are any husbands who have watched another guy cum in their wife's mouth. Not counting swingers who may do this often, but looking for more unusual circumstances. More interested if this is the only thing she does, rather than part of a complete sexual adventure.
    I am fascinated by the possible psycology of it all. Wondering if it was his idea, her idea, a bribe, a lost bet, a sub/dom thing or something else. Also interested in whether the other guy is a stranger, friend, older or younger.
    Additionally, would entertain thoughts from guys who may not have had this experience, but would like to......and why.
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    No I haven't and it would result in a divorce. Homie don't swing that way.

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    no never happened with me and wife tho its been a desire for me, respect my wife who says she wud not do this with another guy....I have never pushed her into wanting this and never will....Any guy that pressurises a girlfriend or wife to do so is selfish
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    The thought of my wife blowing someone is kind of a turn on. But I would never act on it
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    Never did but if a couple wanted to do this I would let her do it to me in front of her man if the cir-CUM-stances were right.
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    Very correct on this.
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    I would love to watch my wife blow another dude. I have tried to encourage her to do it but she is telling me what she thinks I want to hear. I think she thinks that if I let her mess around with another dude I would then ask to mess around with another lady. The truth is my wife is 17 years younger than me and I would like a hand taking the pressure off me at times.
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    I met a girl through mutual friends who was having issues as to whether to stay with her male partner of a year. She decided to tell me the whole story and I found it confusing and difficult to understand.

    She lives with the boyfriend. She says he likes guys also but he does NOT want to touch, kiss, suck, etc. the other guy. He doesn't have her catch the cum in her mouth and show him, nor does he want her to show him that she is swallowing. All of this is the part that confuses me as you read the story.

    All he wants is to be on the bed with his partner and a friend of the guy. He wants to watch while his partner gives blowjobs to the friend and she swallows the friends load. Then the girl gives him a blowjob. After, she lays on the bed between them, one penis in each hand and rubs them until they are hard - and the procedure begins again.

    She says: "He is the kind of guy that likes watching his girl on how she satisfies the other guy".

    The other guy is not allowed to TOUCH her; no kissing, no rubbing, certainly no sex of any kind. He lays back and keeps his hands away. Their "job" is to get sucked and cum. He only allows a few very close friends to participate, in other words, she isn't doing this to many guys.

    The partner rarely has sex with his girl. And when he does, it is usually anally, after getting her off orally. He doesn't want her sexually pleased on a regular basis.

    He also is against having anyone else sexually please her.

    It is the first time that I have learned of someone who admittedly likes guys, but only wants to watch his girl orally please the guy, without his involvement at all other than watching. And of course, the other guy does NOT do anything to the husband at all.

    I thought maybe it was a pride thing or "bragging rights". The friends get continuous blowjobs and always tell the guy ("their friend") about how good his girl is at oral sex. He is proud because she is so good?

    He is not using her as bait which is what I was curious about initially. There are only a few close friends involved. He is not taking home strays, and even more curious, he is not wanting to be involved in any way sexually with the guy.

    It has been very interesting to me.
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    Barney

    Thanks for the reply. I find it very interesting.....and a turn on. Seems this guy has some very strange psycological issues though. The turn on is from me visualizing lying in the bed and having her service me to cum in her mouth while I am completly passive ....and BF taking it all in. His issues go beyond questions of his own sexuality, but to his relationship with women. The combination of mostly anal sex, and watching his GF suck another guy indicates his preference to dominate a woman....as if her sole purpose is to satisfy his wierd kinky appetite, without any pleasure of her own. I would also think it shows a general lack of respect for women as well.
    Now, how about her psyche? I find that fascinating.....and a turn on as well. What goes through her mind to perform like that, and maintain that relationship? I find it all fascinating. Let me know if you have any more.

    Goose
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    Hi Goose. Interesting reply. I tend to ask a lot of questions, so there is more to the story.

    She is in love with him. I haven't pursued the questions of what "love" is yet ... but I will. She needs him. He has been responsible for everything in her daily life. And that is typical in a relationship of true domination. Her job is to clean the house and to service him and his friends.

    She was living with him, but moved out for one month. It is possible she will be living in his house again shortly ... but she has been at his house almost daily. While in his house, she is not allowed to have her cell phone active nor go anywhere without his permission. She is not allowed to meet her friends. He spends most of the day away from her (with his friends) but brings food to her at home at lunch. He is then home in the evenings.

    From what I gather, he hasn't been able to obtain this type of relationship before even though it was what he sought. He was married and had long-term relationships that didn't work.

    He has also admitted to her that he will never find another like her. A very true fact IMO.

    Your comments on domination are interesting. A domination relationship requires a submissive -- and she truly is and would continue to be.

    You asked about her psyche: She would be happy to service her partner for any number of hours or positions or whatever, but does not appear to enjoy servicing the friends (there have only been a few invited friends, but they have participated on a regular basis). She thinks she would enjoy servicing them more if they were allowed to touch her, which would bring more feeling to the mix. He doesn't allow them to touch her though.

    In male-dom and female-sub relationships that I have read about, the male is usually 100% straight and has an interest only in woman. I have never read about a dom-man who has an interest in guys but who has a submissive female.

    She admits that he "likes guys" but I have been unable to get more about this other than he doesn't do anything with the guys as "he is not like that".

    I also understand that straight guys watch straight porn with camera angles focused on the penis in the mouth or the penis in another body part. In other words, the focus is on the penis, as it allows (supposedly) the viewer to interchange himself with the actor.

    Feel free to comment further. This entire situation has been interesting to me as it is a first.
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    Thanks again for the comprehensive reply. Kinky with a capital K is what I'm thinking. He appears to be more controlling than I originally thought. I have difficulty understanding what any woman gets from a relationship like that. His attraction to, and attitude toward other men is what makes this relationship unique. I can't imagine what goes through his mind. I have heard stories of other men dominating and letting friends use their women, but usually for any kind of sex, and not restricted to oral and no touching.....with him lying naked next to them. I still wouldn't mind being one of his friends though. His showing his power and domination to his buddies might be part of his kicks.
    It appears that she may be more of a sex slave than a sub. Other relationships I have heard of have the woman in a fairly normal relationship except when it comes to sex, where she is submissive.
    Interested to know how your relationship with her got started. Were you just a good listener, or did you have a physical relationship as well? If so, would you consider it a normal sexual relationship?
    You may be right about men and porno and the POV. Although I like that too, I am also into the mental side, and like to know the why and how of the situation and the hookup. I also enjoy watching a woman's face when she is really turned on and orgasming.
    Thanks again. I'm enjoying this.

    Goose
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    Hi guys, I am also following this thread with interest and the psychoanalysis thus far.
    My own view is that the male subject is not only totally controlling but transitional in his sexuality. It is significant that he prefers anal sex totally ignoring her vagina. It is my opinion that one day he may progress to the point such that he will discard the girl (ie this substitute male body) entirely having acquired a new male sex slave.
    My advice would be to warn the female to bail whilst she still has some self respect!
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    I separated your post into bullets because I want to comment on specifics.
    (1) He fulfills her need to be needed. She is in love with him. She will do anything but hates the part of being involved with his friends (even though there was only 4! in the year)

    (2) Yes!! I agree. I have participated with couples where the husband enjoys sharing his wife/partner sexually - but it usually is everything including intercourse. Sometimes it is only oral between all the parties, but I never was around anyone that wanted his partner ONLY to service someone else without any pleasure given to her.

    (3) True. And the guys who have participated allegedly try to find way to encourage "visits" to their friend. :)

    (4) I wondered about the "look what I have" syndrome. But I just can't piece together his motives in a way that I can grasp. I mentioned before that I could understand BETTER if he was using her as "bait" to get straight guys into the bedroom for him to look at their penis (or more), but this isn't what he does.

    (5) I met her through a friend on the first day she moved out of the boyfriend's place. She need attention and affection and I filled that need. If I were single, I'd latch on to her like a leech. But I am not, and I live in a different country. We text almost daily about her relationship and her life.

    The best I can gather is that *IF* he allowed the guys to touch or please her, it would lower his feelings of power as he might perceive it to be that they could please his girl better than him. Just like in swinging, it takes a strong person to watch your partner being satisfied and not be concerned if the person doing the pleasing was BETTER than you.
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    I did this with my wife when newly married. I was in grad school and my wife was working at a bank. We got high one night and talked about swinging. We were young and dumb and horny as hell. She had a great body and loved to suck my dick. I got hold of a couple swingers magazines at a porn shop and we had a blast fiipping through them. She was actually more gung ho about it than I was. We wrote to a few couples. We met a couple in New England and we all had sex together on their king sized bed. They were a lot older, like early 50's, but he was in good shape. The wife was a lot less so, so I didn't make out as well. Anyway, to your point, his prerequisite for getting together was that he wanted to finish off in her mouth. She was game. Honestly, it shocked me a bit back then how adventuresome she was. I watched as he yanked out of her pussy and jumped up on her face, shoved his cock in her mouth and let go. I heard her swallow twice. We didn't get toether with them again mostly because it was such a long drive. The other swinger get together we had was with a black gut and a white chick at a hotel. He let loose in her pussy. And that's all the adventuring we did.
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    Hi, thanks for the post, but your swinging episode is NO WHERE NEAR what I am writing about. "Swinging" is an entirely different ball game, and "finishing in her mouth" is not a strange or unusual request. On the simple comparison, you allowed your wife to have intercourse and be pleased. In the situation I am writing about, she is not allowed to have intercourse, and not allowed to be pleased ... or TOUCHED.
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    One more comment (and I missed the window to Edit my last post) :(


    Even if swingers are experimenting with Domination/Submission, they are still role playing. In other words, the majority of the time they are not in character.

    This situation is full time domination. Her JOB is to please him and his friends without being pleased in any way. And as long as she chooses to be with him, she will obey his rules -- and the rules are not up for discussion or negotiation.
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    One of the other aspects that sets this apart is intent. HIS intent is for her to understand that her job is to SERVICE him and his friends as he sees fit and at his schedule. He awakens her at 2-3-4am because he is horny - and she immediately begins orally satisfying him, which, she tells, can take a long time as it is difficult for him to cum. There will be once before sleep, often once in the middle of the night, and once again in the morning.

    She is only allowed to live in his house as long as she follows the rules - and the rules are non-negotiable. Right now she is not living with him, but sleeps with him every night. He doesn't give her money, so she has no money now to pay the rent on her small place; but is not willing to move back in because it means servicing his friends. She is in a terrible catch-22, but the perfect situation for him -- she will be forced to acquiesce, and move back in with her tail between her legs, willing to do as he instructs. That will solidify his position over her. By the way, she refers to him directly as "boss".

    I have never encountered anything this intense or as unique as this.
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    barneyrubble, I believe that jgsailaway is responding to the OP not to you. :eyes
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    WOW. Absolutely right. :(

    My apologies.
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    a response to the op.
    i dont have the fantasy to watch my gf perform orally on another...but she has an oral fixation for well endowed men. (she likes to show off her talents...which include being able to put a full 10 inches down her throat.. But doent want to fuck anyone but me.. We have a great relationship, one that has perfect and honest communication. So after much talk, we set it up so she could fulfill her fantasy.
    i set up the rules because i'm dominant in our sexual reationship (only sexually) we find a guy usually thru c.l.. i make sure the guy understands the rules, Which are, he gets 30 minutes w/ her. I wait just outside the door..for her safety. ( i have no desire to watch). He must use protection when he's in her mouth, he cannot touch her in any way, she stays fully clothed.... When he cums, he may do it all over her , but not in her mouth obviously.. when the 30 minutes is up, he's done , whether he came or not. I get a room and we tell him where to meet us. we meet, talk briefly and if we are all comfortable with each other we go to the room....After he leaves i come in and basically "reclaim" my woman...
    She love this scenario....she gets to handle large cocks... and then she gets fucked like a dirty whore by me..( also her fantasy)... we have done this 4 times so far, with great results....she said her biggest so far was 9inches which she took to his balls....
    So i dont want to watch...but i get off on the "idea" of my woman having a "lust" for cock...not sure why...