Another one bites the dust

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  1. HotForHoney

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    Dating sucks!!!

    That's all :-/
     
  2. oldkid

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    C'mon HotForHoney, tell us all about it. Or not. Curious though.
     
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    Talk to guy for week, good talks. Agree to meet.
    Have dinner at pub/bar. Great convo, easy going, funny, cute.
    Walks me to my car. Doing the kiss-no kiss dance/delay. Tells me he talks a lot when he's nervous. I tell him no reason and that he should stop talking. He sees the green light sign and kisses me. Half hour later decide to get in car. Continue making out.... Yadda yadda yadda... Barely hear from him all week.
     
  4. HotForHoney

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    Ok, here's another one for you.... Guys profile says he's not looking for a long term relationship but he's afraid of growing old alone.

    Um... Huh?
     
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    I'm sorry. Don't have any good advice. But sure you will find the right one.
     
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    As a man Im sometimes embarrased by how foolish we act.
    let me apoligize on behalf of men
     
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    HotforHoney, I completely understand. I have given up on dating. Its just too painful. I can't take the rejection anymore. I prefer to just stay home and flirt with guys on the internet. They come, they go. Hurts less.

    I wish that I could offer you some helpful advice. Guys are just different, they think and react differently. They don't have the same emotions that we have. Some day, someone great will come along and sweep you off of your feet! There are great men out there.

     
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    H4H, don't dispair.
    It is a well known facts that guys fear commitment.
    Ever considered that on review he may think having made a hash of that date and too afraid to see you again?
    Ladies do not have a monopoly on self doubt and fear of rejection.
    Next time make sure that you have a means of communicating back to him such that you are not left wondering. That way you could at least seek some explaintion as to the reason for no follow up.
     
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    I have a way of contacting him. I'm just not getting responses.

    Ex: I say good morning, hope you have a good day. Then at 7-8 pm he says sorry, crazy busy day. I write back something and don't hear from him the rest of the night
     
  10. CaramelLady

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    Some men may fear commitment, but she was just looking for a callback. Even if to say I am not interested. Sorry your troubles, but there are good men out there.

    It is a pity you have to wade through some frogs first.
     
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    I don't know what to say. I'm sorry for you. Some of us are clumsy and bumbling. He may be scared of the commitment, or by a past experience. It's hard to know if he won't talk to you.

    What do you think would happen if you were direct with him, just asked him if you were going out again. Or ask him out yourself. Remind him that two of you seemed to have hit it off on the first date. OK, where's this going?

    Would you be willing to do that? What do you think would happen?
     
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    In that case even if he contacts you back ignore him for a week then send a neutral message asking what he wanted ;)
     
  13. alwaystry

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    Yeah dating does suck! And it doesn't matter what age , still awkward and uncertain! Sorry , hopefully next time goes better!
     
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    I don't like playing games like that. It's not going to get me what I want.

    Anyway, it was chilly yesterday. Got in my sweats and watched tv.... Turned on Grease. Hopelessly Devoted to you comes on like a minute later. Can't get these lyrics out of my head:


    My head is saying, "Fool, forget him."
    My heart is saying, "Don't let go.

    I guess it's time to listen to my head.
     
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    Great movie...shop for that black outfit that she wears at the end....:)