Another Anal Sex Help Thread

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by kj_72, May 24, 2011.

  1. kj_72

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    Ok, here is my scoop. My wife of 11 years and I have always had a great sex life, but with our youngest of 2 just turning 2, it is REALLY getting good again. I expect by May 31 we will have had sex 30 times this month give or take, pretty good for being in our mid and late 30's!

    I'm no porn star or anything:lol, but I have of course measured and am in roughly the 95th percentile for length and girth. We tried anal a few times when we were first married, but she couldn't take for more than a minute at a time. I only came in ass once, and it kind of went away for years. I give her oral sex every chance I get, and recently I've been fingering her ass and licking and so on. She really enjoys it, thinks it's hot, and isn't afraid to tell me, I've been in there every chance I get now! With her comfort with this, I figured she had anal in her past, she doesn't like talking sexual past, but told me her only long term relationship she had, she had a LOT of anal with, and really enjoyed it. He was rather small though, thus vaginal sex wasn't as exciting as anal.

    She is offering it to me again, but has actually used the word "terrified":ugh. I haven't taken her up on it yet but REALLY want to as I think it's super hot. I guess my question is for girls whom have had big guys for anal, do you have suggestions? Will she get used to it? How many times does it take? The times we did it before we just used the "lube" from her pussy, would astroglide or whatever lube help a lot? Should she be on top?

    She is an M.D., so I don't think she is worried medically, but I don't want it to be too painful for her. Suggestions appreciated.
     
  2. nurseharley

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    i'd start out warming her up with a toy and lots of lube. once she's opened up a bit she can get on top and control the pace and everything at first. once she gets you inside and has a nice rhythm going and is used to it, yall could try a different position
     
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    Thanks Harley...Oddly enough, we don't have any toys, have never had 2 fingers in there, would that be a good progression? And I will definitely have the lube ready, not used it yet, but sometimes when I'm fingering her, the juices from her pussy start drying up a bit when I'm fingering her ass, and I know I shouldn't go back from ass to pussy for more with the same finger. Lube would last better I suspect.
     
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    lube is always going to be more useful for anal and you'll need to keep it nearby to keep it nice and wet. thats the key to anal, always keeping things plenty wet. i would suggest buying a toy for anal, not only as a starter for her ass but since yall dont have any, it would be fun to add that element in. you could definitely use more fingers in her, try and get as many as you can in, but just be very patient. anal is not something that should be rushed :D
     
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    Yep. I agree use toys and lube. A lot of my girlfriends will NOT let their guys do anal sex. But with my ex I have loved every minute of it.
     
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    Took it a little further last night, first I fingered her ass while giving her oral, nothing new there, after she came we started fucking. She was actually on call last night and got paged. After that, started fingering her pussy again, asked her to masturbate, and I grabbed the lube. I started with one finger, then added another.....Very Tight! And awesome! She came, I fucked her pussy, the end, but at least got an extra finger in there. We talked about a dildo too, ordering a glass one today!