Anal wishes by a str8 guy

Discussion in 'Sexual Fetishes and Fantasies' started by Eros, Jun 8, 2005.

  1. Eros

    Eros New Member

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    I am married to a great woman but i have a problem. I fantasize about getting my anus rubbed, rimmed, fingered whatever. My wife loves anal sex and likes her anus rubbed. She will rub my anus but not much and that is it. I have asked for more, but when i bring it up she glazes over and changes the subject.
    She is also very homophobic. I am a bit afraid to bring up the subject too much that she may think i am a fag. I also have been embaressed about this and with sex becoming less pleasurable I have been having difficulty cumming at the end of sex. Now I am really afraid to bring it up that she will think that that is the only way i can cum.
    Situation seems to be getting a little worse.
    Advice? Am I really weird?? :eyes
     
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    Rose Resident Sexy Grandma
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    Okay - coming from someone who is like your wife - I will give you a little bit of advice:
    Drop the Rimming - at least for now. Work on the anal rubbing and fingering. My husband is much like you, and I am trying to give him what he wants. It is hard, but just go slow. - lots of lubrication - even try using a small rubber - seriously. If (as a woman) I find something that arouses my man, I really want to do it, even tho at first, it might go against the grain. PLEASE - make sure you are clean. "First impressions are important"!
    Rimming may come, as she sees your pleasure. Just take it slow. And be patient. ;)
     
  3. Eros

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    Thanks - good to hear that other straight men want what I want that they are women that will make the effort to please us.
     
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    I am just like you. I want my ass played with too. Just even last night while my girlfriend was giveing me a bj I wanted her so bad to finger me in the ass but I was afraid to ask. Ladies I would alos like to know how you feel about this....Matt
     
  5. smmoke

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    I just bought a dildo. There is no way in hell I even mention this to any woman, but I love being completely reamed up the ass. Give me a soda bottle, I will try to fit it up there. I feel the same way you do, but I suppose whether you mention it or not is completely up to the way you think your wife would think.
     
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    I am a female spouse to a husband that loves his ass played with. I get great satisfaction out of satisfying him that way. Simply for the fact that it turns him on. I dont understand why a partner wouldnt want to do what their partner enjoys. I feel there always has to be some type of compromise between each other. Example..Maybe one doesnt want to do it every time, but is willing to do it once a week... . May I ask why your afraid to ask for such a pleausre? Your the only one not being sexually satisfied by keeping it in. Talk about it, aks her opinion, share your wants and desires. Maybe I am missing what the worse could happen? Life is to short to not fully enjoy everything...
     
  7. johnnieb379

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    Not easy

    I find it isn't easy asking for what you want, like anal stimulation. My girl friend and I didn't start off doing those things. So we do things straight. But times change. It is hard to ask for something that isn't consider the norm. I usually stimulate myself in the anus when I masturbate alone. I could live without it if she doesn't ever help, but I feel it would help, a lot. I just haven't had the courage to discuss it openly. In the meantime, we do masturabate openly, so it isn't like we're prudes.
     
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    Johnnie, do you guys watch porn together? If so, a possible way to get it out there would be for you to get a porn that you know has a scene of male anal play. When the scene comes up make a casual comment like"that looks interesting" or that may be fun"... Just an idea. Good luck.. My husband also stimulates himself when masterbating to.. I love to watch him do that also..
     
  9. comanighttrain

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    cant say iv experianced the desire for a similar thing myself, but over the months iv brought my girlfriend round to doing what i want, and she gets what she wants. You definetly need to build up gradually but if she cant talk about it, either make-do or find someone more open.