Anal training

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  1. xeniadraven

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    Im a well known fan of anal but would like to explore further with toy size but not too sure what the risks are.

    I know that anal sex a few times a week wont cause a prolapse anytime soon but not sure how "train" myself to take more without causing long term damage!!

    Any advice would be great :)
     
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    first find a "train"er (me me me) Im risk free :)
     
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    Excellent plan!!! Get in your jumbo jet and come and have a go ;)
     
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    Would love to but I do need you to give me an all clear o_O
     
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    Do you mean "do i douche?" lol
     
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    you know exactly what I mean :cool:

    x
     
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    well i've just gone and bought myself 3 butt plugs one is a bit big, ones BIG and one is HUGE! :)
     
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    I imagine (but am not sure) that "training" for receiving anal penetration would be along the same lines as "training" for vaginal penetration. Then again, the only personal stretching experience I have is with gauging piercings. :) My guess would be sexercises, working on relaxation, and slowly going from one size toy to the next. (Pretty sure they have tapered toys that would serve that purpose well.)
    Ginger, I don't know if you're to be trusted. I'm volunteering myself in your stead. :p
    I'll happily take the place of one of those. I think you'd enjoy my "plug" more than some lifeless piece of... well, whatever material those are made out of. Plus I have fingers and a tongue as well. ;) ;) ;)
    (Oh my! There I go being such a naughty boy again.)
     
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    Boom! Tingling in all the right places ;)
     
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    Did I do that?? :rolleyes:
     
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    mmmm a well known female fan of anal who has anal sex a few times a week???

    xeniadraven, I'm 49 male and never had an anal experience. Among all my girlfriends and 2 wives, only my former wife wanted to try but we were too drunk and could not do it and later it was put to the shelf. My current wife is so concerned about pain, I can't even suggest. She was a virgin when we started living together, took some months even for vaginal penetration.

    So, instead of giving you advice, I'd like to have yours :rolleyes:
     
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    Anal is lots of fun but it takes trust, patience and relaxation. There are lots of desensitizing anal lubes out there which work wonders for beginners but in fairness lots of lube, foreplay and taking things slowly really help.

    I would also recommend investing in an anal douche!

    Have a look online and maybe go for a beginners toy kit dont get anything with too much length initially as you just want to become accustomed to the feeling of fullness for now.

    The correct angle and I easily orgasm from anal sex, and men especially can have lots of fun!!
     
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    As Joys said above - instead of giving advice I'd like to have yours...

    It might be a total pipe dream of mine, but would a woman be able to have a pleasurable (hopefully to the point of orgasm/multiple orgasms) anal experience with a *coughs* "larger" partner penetrating? I know that a person can take quite a bit into themself, but I am more concerned with the comfort/pleasure/enjoyment factor - there would be no point (for me) in the act if it was one-sided satisfaction...
     
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    I can enjoy anal sex and orgasm at the right angle (gspot orgasm and squirting results!). To take larger dildos/plugs/penises in some cases requires training. I initially started by using a slim vibe and quickly progressed to penis pentration. In order to allow for rougher sex (at my request) I am wanting to train up to larger sizes.

    Until you are comfortable it is simply not adviseable to try too big too soon, as rips and tears arent fun!
     
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    Thanks a lot xenia, but that would help only if your partner is willing to try. If she's freaked out, I guess you then need to let it go??

    I sent you reply pm, I have no problem with posting and sharing it here
     
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    I know a woman can have pleasurable anal experiences but if that's you in what I see from your pics, I doubt it would be very pleasurable
     
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    In fact the anus is able to take more than you'd realise! Its about relaxation.
     
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    still availible :)
     
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    Wish you could talk to Mrs. Joys about it. Not that I am very anxious or if I could perform. Is it true that you need to be more hard for anal ??