Anal & Size

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  1. mousse

    mousse New Member

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    1. My girlfriend complained that the first person she had anal sex with felt like she just had to go to the bathroom. Most of the girls on this forum seem to really enjoy it. Is that what girls like about it?

    2. Has anyone on this forum had sex with two guys with the nearly the same size but got more from one guy versus the other? This question does not apply only to anal sex.
     
  2. Kronnie

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    Maybe i am tired , but that confused the heck out of me :)
     
  3. Puss_in_boots

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    That's probably because the two questions were so disparate, Kronnie.

    1. I think you really start to enjoy anal sex when you can relax enough to get past the needing to use the toilet part of it. I never could when I tried it and therefore was never able to enjoy it.

    2. Absolutely. Technique is much more important than size. Just because you have a huge cock does necessarily guarantee that you can satisfy a woman, nor does having small to average size cock mean that you cannot satisfy a woman. My SO is actually a bit smaller than my ex, but my SO is a much MUCH better lover.
     
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    Thankyou Puss that kind of had me perplexed there , untill i read your responces then i understood the questions better :)

    Experience and ability will always win over shear size. that is a fact.
    That is why it is always a very very good thing to learn how your lover reacts to certain things and to imprve your techniques.

    Always listen and learn from your partner ( and i am not always meaning from having sex either, you can learn a lot about a female just by listening to what she says how she says things, it is possible to glean some things from her without ever having to have had sex with her.)

    Plus size ( large or small ) makes little difference because you can bring far more pleasure with the rest of your body and your mind than just with your penis.
     
  5. Nettle

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    I wouldn't say most enjoy anal, it's just that those who do enjoy it talk about it and advise others who want to try.

    My personal experience was very painful.
     
  6. mousse

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    Alot of people hype it up but I dont see how or what about it is so enjoyable other than the 'oh im being a dirty girl' factor and that there are nerves on the outside that are kind of nice to stimulate.
     
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    No doubt, anal sex is over done, and over hyped at times. For example, I would guess that the anal sex shown in much of mainstream porn is not the kind of anal sex most people who participate in it enjoy. It focuses on the 'dirty' aspect, and neglects to show the closeness and intimacy.

    The 'dirty girl' factor is a fun part of anal, but honestly, that reason alone would not be enough to make most women participate in and enjoy it. :uhh:

    There are physiological reasons anal sex is enjoyable for a woman.

    Per Wikipedia:
    For many women, that climax is incredible. It is in my case, and that's the major reason I enjoy this type of sex.

    For the recipient, anal sex requires, careful focus, submission of your body, self control over your own body; being very closely 'in tune' with your own body, and your partners. It is very intimate and intense for that reason, there's a great connection to be had when two people put themselves in a position to be so keenly attuned to one another.

    That being said, there was a time when I was repulsed by the notion of having sex this way, and like all things sexual, everyone's opinion and turn ons are different.

    There is also a learning curve with anal sex, I don't know of too many people who were great at it the first, second or even third time.
    I think for some, the submission and intimacy factor, and being so closely in tune with your partner, is what makes the effort of 'learning how' to do it well, worthwhile. The climax of course is another huge payoff. ;)
     
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    Not only penises work

    My wife has never enjoyed anal penetration from my penis. However, at a rather wild party, while we were enjoying sex, she whispered in my ear, "Someone has a finger up my butt!"

    We continued to enjoy ourselves with the added enhancement from a third person.

    To this day our fantasies revolve around a repeat performance and very active finger penetration from me. Oh, and a tongue is not bad either.
     
  9. mousse

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    Wow.. I didn't think of all these factors.
     
  10. mousse

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    So Knickers, mind if I ask if you enjoy it yourself? And if you do, how do you suggest I do it so that it will be enjoyable for my girlfriend? Did you get the whole having to go to the bathroom nastiness at first as well?
     
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    Be prepared.
    An anal douche solves that problem
     
  12. mousse

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    How many times did you guys give it a chance before you found it was enjoyable?
     
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    That was so well said NaughtyKnickers.

    I love Anal, but it is something I have only done with a few partners and it is only done when my partner and I are very in tune with each other. I love the submissive feeling that comes over me when I have relaxed enough for anal, however, that only happens with someone who repects me and who I care about.

    As for your second question.....Its not what you've got; it's how you use it
     
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    I've tried anal with 3 guys. All were pretty big, but I enjoy it most with mr HB x
     
  15. mousse

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    Is it mostly always enjoyable? Sorry, i'm just trying to understand this. I am still kind of ashamed of the idea but am curious. I just have a hard time believing girls enjoy it. Or maybe I don't want to believe it because i'm still kind of innocent (only been active for about 3 or 4 months now).