ANAL SEX QUESTION

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  1. Destinyawaits

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    I want to ask you guys why is it that now all that men seem to want is ass sex? My conclusion is that is tighter thus giving you a better sensation but is becoming an issue to some of is woman that are not interested nor want too but feel like we must learn to take it because if we don't they will find someone else who will be willing to. I once had a friend with benefits who without my concern put it all the way in cold turkey and the pain I felt was HORRIBLE. I then dated a guy with whom we tried unsuccessfully and is the one I had the funny case of the anal ease numbing his dick. I do want to try anal just to see if it really gives the pleasure I hear some ladies state it does but mostly is to keep up with the trend that men now a days ask for and with all due respect when they tell me if I ass fuck I feel like replying if you want to fuck and ass go get a guy because what is the difference? If you want a pussy and a mouth that's what I can and will give you thanks to all in advance :)
     
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    its definetly not a trend you ever heard the term going greek and some are into it and some are not if you dont like its no big deal but i do not think its a deal breaker when it comes to realationships i know its not for me i like it but my wife would rather screw a pinecone before she would do anal and im fine with that
     
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    I'm not going to try and get you to try again but it seems like you have had bad experiences.

    Personally, I tired once many years ago without luck. It hurt and decided it wasn't for me.... That has since changed. I was with the right person, with time, understanding and RESPECT, I now find it extremely enjoyable


    Like you, I have asked a few guys why they like it. Best I can figure is it's a little tighter.

    My gut is telling it's it's a little tabu, dirty and not as available. The old "you always want what you can't have".

    If the guy you are with is pressuring you to do something you aren't comfortable with, he's not the right guy for you and you should move on.
     
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    For me, my interest has been not that it's tighter, but that it's something different. From my experience, the anal sphincters are like rubber bands, and are tight, but once I'm in, the rectum is not nearly as tight feeling as a vagina. Truthfully, for prolonged fucking, I much prefer a vagina.

    However, having said that, internet porn has made the idea, and imagery, much more available for viewers to look at, and contemplate. Too many people, mostly men, use porn as an example of how to have "real" sex. Porn is not real sex. It's acting. As for it being a trend, I'm not sure I agree. Men are men. Given the sex (female/male) we're attracted to, many of us want to stick our cocks in any "hole" we're allowed. Some men don't, but many do. I think the situation is that more women are willing to admit that they've at least tried it. Some women enjoy it. Anal sex, hetero, bi, or gay is hardly new. Despite all this, hetero anal penetration is still a minor sexual act, no matter the "hype".

    If you're in a relationship that hinges on whether you'll have anal sex with the guy, I think you need to evaluate the relationship. Until the last couple of months, my wife of 19 years has been completely unwilling to even contemplate anal sex. We are currently experimenting, but the ritual she feels comfortable with for preparation is not conducive to the type of sex life we've enjoyed all these years. My feeling is that ultimately, we will abandon it, not because we don't enjoy it, but because it just doesn't fit in.

    Lastly, if anal sex hurts, then you and your partner are not doing it correctly. Anal sex for the receiver should not be something they have to tolerate, and grit their teeth to get through. Proper conditioning for anal penetration takes time, often weeks, until first penile entry. Personally, I don't advocate the numbing creams that are available. Pain means something is wrong. If it hurts, don't do it.

    If, after you've experimented, and you find you don't like it, physically or mentally, don't do it.

    Also, on a last note, not all bi, gay men engage in anal sex.
     
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    IMHO...anal is what oral was 40 years ago. It's talked about and is trendy. For me (and mrsbiker) it's a been there...done that...got the T-shirt deal. We've both tried it (before we knew each other) and it wasn't anything we wanted to do again. In my case twice was more than enough, she reports that less than once was enouh for her!
     
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    Find someone the loves you for being you not what you'll allow them to do or pressure you to do something you don’t...
    Anal can and is pleasurable for both parties maybe with the right loving partner your want to try again and explore different things....
    Best of luck :)
     
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    thank you :)
     
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    Thank you Biker and Miss biker :)
     
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    thank you for taking the time to educate me, I been divorce for 11 years and single for 7 I have had encounters and the question always arises I def would not be with someone who demands it but I kid you not on the single scene it is something that comes up I actually told my ex husband that I wanted to hook up after 11 years and he said awesome and asked me if I still did anal of course he confuse me with the other girls he's had since me since they all have my first name (karma)what struck me is that it was the first thing out of his mouth now I know why he was ass whipped lol I obviously lie and said yes of course I don't think I be hooking up with him after all. :)
     
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    It is tighter to me at first I would say, but I agree it can relax and loosen up a great deal, but the muscles can really grip and make a guy orgasm pretty fast. Long lasting anal probably bring up a lot of general safety concerns. Any one new to playing should read up on cleaning and preparation.
     
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    Yeah , I notice more guys these days seem to want and or expect anal sex I also know of more woman that enjoy and request it , 15 - 20 years ago it wasn't the big talk. And yes , I also know woman that have that thinking that they have to do it because that's what guys want. Personaly ,I like it sometimes but really, the only time I really get into it is when the woman wants it and enjoys it. I do not like when woman just do things because they think I want it yet they do not enjoy it at all themselves. And what biker says makes sense lol
     
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    Experimenting with a lot of positions has really helped me get more anal sex with the gf, she actually likes it doggy now, but has a ritual of guiding me in and taking our time. http://vaporizershopping.com/AnalBook
     
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    { My gut is telling it's it's a little tabu, dirty and not as available. The old "you always want what you can't have". }doesnt have anything to do with tightness rflmao but i think hfh hit it dead on the head its taboo thats why lmao
     
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    my gf loves it and im happy to oblige her.
    i dont know why she likes it more than the front but she says it feels more intense
    i enjoy it cause i can watch the way she reacts when im in her ass
     
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    Well, for me, it's because I just love the look of a sexy woman's ass. Not so much naked, but in tight jeans or panties. I want to watch it and touch it and stick my pecker in it.
    The first time I did it was with a girlfriend many years ago. I was fucking her doggie and had my hands on her ass and my finger sort of came to rest on her asshole while I was fucking her. She pushed back against my hand and then asked, "Do you want to fuck me in the ass?" It was a newbie to it, so I sorta stuttered "Well, I guess." like a geek. It was awesome.

    i think the other thing is the visual pleasure. The pussy is sort of "oblong" shaped. The asshole is "o" shaped so the guy (in the doggie position) gets on hell of a view as the anus "grips" the penis.

    The thing is, you can't just shove it in like you described. You have to do it gradually and gently. If you want to try it again, buy a small and large butt plug. Use a lot of lube and put in the small butt plug and keep it in for 10 minutes, then replace it with a larger one and leave it in for 10 minutes. That'll help relax the muscle. Then make sure your partner uses a lot of lube.

    Me and the wife do it periodically (every couple of months). She likes it.