Anal Sex Positions

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by HotForHoney, Feb 22, 2015.

  1. HotForHoney

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    I'm ready to try anal again. My "friend" keeps going in at a bad angle and it hurts.

    With exbf, I was on my back, tush elevated by a pillow. I'm more flat now, but tried elevated once tonight.

    He says my ass is ready, I'm just scared/nervous.

    I think he's about the same size as ex. Also, w ex, once he got in, he could really fuck me hard.

    And now, my question:

    What position do you use?

    PS - there was plenty of lube, we have a safe word. I know I wasn't relaxed.
    I think a different position might help me relax.

    TIA
     
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    Best not elevated or doggy to start with.
    Try spooning or flat on your stomach.
    The problem is you are just not ready.
    I have never had it hurt unless I was not ready or in the mood. Then it hurt.
     
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    He hurt me the first time and I think I'm still scared.

    Maybe I'll break out my kinky vodka first next time!
     
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    Doggie and laying on my stomach sometimes with a pillow.
     
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    You just need to relax and embrace that inner whore.Untill you do no position or lube will help.Relax and take it up the ass,you know you want it dirty girl!

    That's how it worked for my wife.
     
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    One to try at the beginning would be both of you laying on your sides. This makes it hard for him to go too fast.

    Plenty of lube, relaxation, and him going nice and slow. (to start) ;)
     
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    I don't think it's a "too fast" thing. I think it's the angle he's going in (and I wasn't relaxed enough so it hurt).
     
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    pillows are just not firm enough for us. We enjoy anal the most with our Liberator Wedge - Sex Wedge, The Wedge Pillow. Her hips elevated, me leaning back on my heels with my knees up under me in a modified missionary position. She uses her Hitachi wand on her clit and cums so hard it actually hurts my cock sometimes. It's truly an awesome thing to be a part of. God I love that woman!
     
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    On my back with my knees up. Not on a pillow.

    On my knees, bent forward, but not low. Even on all fours is a little too low. I hold myself up at an angle on the headboard.

    The boyfriend doesn't thrust the way they do in porn. He slides and probes and explores.

    For me, relaxed breathing is the most helpful thing.
     
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    We like it the ways Meee mentioned, and we also think all fours is too low. Flat on my tummy works too.
     
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    What do you mean "too low"?
     
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    I will take my wife doggy or on her back, it really depends on her mood.

    When she uses the strapon on me, I usually lay on my back. It's larger and that is the best position. Besides, she can stroke me while fucking me.
     
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    When my gf puts the strap on in me I lay on my back with my legs up on her shoulders and my ass on a pillow... I've done her a few times spooning it went in pretty good and once doggy also. Don't donot enough to know too much tho
     
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    Last time we did it, I found it was better for her the second time we had sex. First time was about being hard, deep and thrusting like crazy. Second time was slower, more patient, lots of rubbing and gradually building up to hard and deep. Seemed to enjoy the gradual approach better.
     
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    We talked again last night. He said my ass was ready but I wasn't. After I finish my meds I'll have a drink before he comes over.

    While I'm not suggesting being drunk is a good way to go about it, I know I want it, I know my ass is ready and I know it's me being nervous of him hurting me again. Maybe I'll try being on my back or spooning.
     
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    My Ex loved it in the ass. Most of the time we did it while spooning, but often it was doggy style. She just had to tuck her knees in a little tighter to being her ass down and get the right angle.
     
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    Spooning works good.

     
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    Too low is when your head is level with your butt in the traditional doggie position. On the knees works better when you have your arms and upper body resting up against the headboard, staying only slightly bent. I can see how I might have been confusing after mentioning that flat on my stomach works well. For that matter, it's not too bad if I am on my knees with my head touching the bed with my ass in the air, but even that does not work nearly as well as the headboard support. So basically, even though vaginal doggie style works with me on all fours, there is something about the right angle formed by my back and butt/legs that makes his penis pop out in anal, so it would work better to describe it as an angle problem instead of a too low problem.
     
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    Face down, ass up, to quote many a rap song. Opens up the anus halfway making my job easy. From there its all about subtle, gentle movements until i can go in balls deep. Once there, after a lubrication check, i can usually go beserk, but i dont have same freedom of time as vaginal sex, usually have to finish in 5-10 mins. Oh but cumming inside makes it so worth it. Im kind of like Big Sean with vaginal sex, even with a bulletproof condom i still have the urge to pull out.
     
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    My friend from work came over this morning....

    He told me to get on my tummy. Gave me a little rub down w baby oil. Lubed his finger/my ass.
    Got one finger in, then 2.

    He tried going in on top of me. It hurt/I was nervous.

    I suggested spooning. It went right in. Felt so good.

    He fucked me a minute or two, then asked if he could cum in my ass. I said yes.

    There was so much lube, I couldn't feel him cum.

    It felt so good. I needed more. Grabbed my toy and fucked myself a bit while he watched. He took over a bit.

    He pulled the toy out and I squirted.

    I'm a happy girl.