Anal Sex, how to prepare?

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  1. lucky13

    lucky13 New Member

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    Im afraid to try it because of potential disaster that may be unattractive. What do porn stars do? Enemas, what?
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    What do porn stars do?

    Seriously, I don't think this would be of any help to you. Most of what there are in movies is those movies is made-up or well tricked. And it's far from the reality. I guess you already know that right ?

    If you want to go into anal, lube is a must so is relaxation. You have to go delicatly since anal tissue is fairly sensitive. Don't worry too much about those ''potential disasters'' you are talking about. Having sex involve begin able to deal with whatever consequences that might result.

    So, ease your mind. If you're still worried a lot, then it might be a great idea to reconsider whether you're ready or not ? There's no rush.
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    Porn stars have a lot of sex, so yeah. And why watch porn?
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    Except at the time of a bowel movement, the anus is empty of all but trace amounts of fecal matter. Enemas can help, but shouldn't be necessary if you are in good health with a decent diet. To prepare, a long warm bath does wonders. Both to wash and to help you relax. Light some candles if that's your thing. To clean, wash the outside of your butt well. Inserting a soapy finger into the opening of your ass can help clean it out too.

    Don't assume you can take it all in your ass at once. Anal sex requires patience, especially when you're new at it. Start slow. With lots of lube, relaxation, and communication, start with a finger or very small toy. Work your way up from there. Anal sex should not hurt. If you experience pain, stop.

    If you feel you must take an enema, you can pick up a Fleet enema from your local drug store. Since you aren't constipated, you can dump out the chemicals it comes with, and just use clean, warm (body temperature) water. Not too warm or cold, as this can cause cramps. Otherwise follow the directions that come with it.

    Good luck, have fun, relax, and enjoy the intense pleasure that anal sex can provide. :)
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    Kate this is what was being said on that site ( that you thought was about porn stars )
    As i said , this is a very good site for learning about, and having questions and answers about the safty and the in and outs of anal sex.

    ANAL SEX
    Why would anyone want to have anal sex?
    For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. Buttfucking makes it sound crude and dirty, sodomy sounds technical. In the 1990's, anal sex has been given the bad rap because HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is most easily transmitted by anal intercourse.
    But some people love anal sex. Others hate it. Others haven't tried it yet and are curious. And many people are attracted to it precisely because it's so taboo and mysterious.

    What is analingus?
    One other part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or having licked, is the anus. The anus has half the nerve endings in the pelvic region and many people find touching it to be sexually arousing. Although we haven't mentioned safer sex yet as part of this series, we will here: the anus and rectum carry many diseases that live quite benignly in your lower digestive tract, but which can be harmful in your mouth or stomach. Performing anilingus is a very risky behavior for a variety of bacterial infections. Refer to the section on safer sex techniques for ways to protect yourself if you or your partner enjoys this activity.

    Does anal sex hurt?
    Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy anal sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. However, some people may never like it, and if your lover is one of those people, respect their limits. Don't force the idea upon them.

    Can anal sex actually give pleasure?
    The pleasure of anal sex is derived from many things. Doing something "nasty" appeals to many people, especially about sex. Doing something different to spice up a sex life that has become something of a bore can be part of it. And the physical sensations available during anal sex are uniquely different from anything else. The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some of which signal the brain to 'reward' you with good feelings when stimulated. For men, the prostate gland can be a source of powerful pleasure. And for a thrusting penis, the ring of the anus can be a new and strong sensation to enjoy.

    What do I need to have anal sex?
    The most important pieces of advice anyone can give on anal sex are: lubricants, condoms, and patience. The most commonly available lubricant is KY-Jelly, a greaseless, odorless substance available at most drug stores. Better lubricants include Astroglide, ID, Wet, or ForePlay, some of which are available at better drug stores, and most of which are available in some form at adult toy stores.
    Do not buy anything that is oil-based. Make sure the lubricant you buy is rated "condom compatible." Nothing else will do. Oil- based lubricants such as vaseline or baby oil will destroy a condom long before you're done having sex. And many oil-based sub- stances will coat the lining of the rectum, providing a haven for many potential infections.

    Do I have to use a condom?
    Even if you're sure that both you and your partner are disease- free, you should still use a condom. The rectum is home to lots of infectious bacteria that can cause burning and urethritis of the penis. It will also help you clean up afterwards.

    I'm worried that anal sex will be messy.
    Anal sex should not be messy. Most first-timers fear that it will be, but most people can tell when they have to go. A condom will help with cleanup, of course, and if you're really concerned, a commercial enema, like Fleet, will help beforehand.

    How do we prepare for anal sex?
    Patience is the third and final thing you need to make anal sex possible. Initial penetration is always the most difficult part of anal sex-- the anus is a tight ring of flesh at the opening of the rectum designed to control the elimination of bodily waste. It is partially under voluntary control, and partially reflexive to stimulation. Your partner has to relax, and you have to go slow to coax it into opening enough to recieve your penis.
    Start with a well-lubricated finger or a slim (smaller than your penis) dildo. The dildo is more realistic, but your fingers can flex and feel what they're doing inside her ass. Slide one finger in slowly, letting her adjust to it. Take your finger all the way out, then push it back in again. Give her anus time to get used to this kind of activity. Then slide a second finger in. Consider how big your penis is and realize that two fingers is probably enough.

    What position should we use for anal sex?
    For actual intercourse, picking a position can be important. Many women want to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Other like to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be penetrated while lying on their sides. Choose what's best before you start.
    As always, control yourself. Take your time and use lots of lubricant. People who like anal sex say that "too much lube is almost enough." Listen to her-- if she tells you it starts to hurt, back off.
    Eventually, a time will come during your lovemaking where her anus will relax enough to allow the head of your cock to 'pop' into her. If she is completely relaxed, that pop should feel completely painless. Now just because you're inside her is no reason to start pounding away like mad. Let her body adjust. Take your time. Eventually you will both be ready for more.

    Can I get pregnant from anal sex?
    It is not technically possible to get pregnant from anal sex; there is no way for semen to get from the rectal tract to the vaginal tract.
    However, anal sex is still not a very good method of birth control. Semen leaking from the anus after intercourse may drip across the perineum (the short stretch of skin separating vulva and anus) and cause what is known as a 'splash' conception. The failure rate for this is surprisingly high! 8% of couples of who use anal sex as a method of birth control have babies each year.

    What if I don't like it?
    You may find that anal sex just isn't for you. That's fine. Nothing says that you have to indulge in something that doesn't make you feel good
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    hey babe to get ready 4 anal use an ennema then plenty of lube astroglide works best then a small vibe to relax the muscles then ease a cock up your ass i love anal sex and have been doing it for 15 years
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