I am a huge fan of anal sex and my current gf will not even consider it. She had a bad experience prior, and then goes into all the horror stories she hears at work about people having problems after anal sex (she works in a hospital).... I find this totally hypocritical as she is a smoker... go figure. I have told her her that anal sex can be amazing and the man certainly needs to do it right... lube, take it slow, experiment, lube, lube and more lube..... Unfortunately, she is unwilling to give me a chance. So ladies... what do I do?