Anal for dessert?

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Barbwire, Mar 26, 2008.

  1. Barbwire

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    OK, another thread here made me think a bit. I have heard, that because of the US government's assbackwards sexual education system, that more and more teens are getting into anal intercourse and oral sex in lieu of having vaginal intercourse.

    I'm just having a hard time wrapping my head around anal as being done before vaginal. To me, vaginal intercourse is like the main course of an awesome meal. Foreplay is the appetizer, vaginal is the main course, and anal is dessert. Not something you have every time you have a meal, but more of a special treat.

    I think I sound kinda twisted in using the food analogy, but it's the only one I could come up with. :lol
     
  2. bucky

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    Please tell me you're not talking about anal creampie for dessert. The thought turns my stomach but to each his/her own.
     
  3. Barbwire

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    Oh, god, NO! I hate, hate, hate, the term "creampie" to begin with, and I would never get into having my husband lick his cum out of my ass. YICK!

    To each their own and all, but no, I wasn't talking about that sort of thing at all.
     
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    Thank you. Respect has been :bow:bowreturned
     
  5. heelfetish

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    I actually like the food analogy, an I agree with you. Hell, even Family Guy touched on the subject a while back, with regards to lack of sex education and the poor teens resorting to 'doing it in the ear'. It made for hilarious TV, but to me the message was clear. The youth of today (and probably yesterday and the day before that) are very much in the dark when it comes to sex. When one believes they can avoid pregnancy by having anal sex rather than vaginal, there is something wrong.

    But as a dessert, isn't anal wonderful? :lol
     
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    It is not just a pregnancy issue with some of these kids, they consider themselves virgins as long as they do not have vaginal intercourse,
     
  7. heelfetish

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    Good point! I meant to bring it up, but my mind was starting to stray with all the talk of anal. ;)
     
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    Thank god, I didn't know how I was going to sleep at night thinking you didn't respect me, anymore. :eyes

    Here's just a random thought...

    When I first started having sex, I got nothing out of it. The guys I was with had no clue about a clitoris and just banged away. I was embarrassed that I could not feel anything because I thought it was normal for a woman to get off on just peenie thrusting. All I had for comparison was what I'd seen in porn flicks, women screaming and writhing about the second a dick was put into them.

    Feeling abnormal and insecure led me to fake orgasms for the first several years that I was sexually active.

    Now, I know I was normal, and in fact MOST women can't come just from vaginal sex with no clitoral stimulation. The fact is, though, that some women can, and I greatly envy them.

    Getting to my point... Contrary to porn, I don't know of any women here that can come just from anal penetration. If there is one, I must have missed her post. It makes me wonder, then, how many girls are out there getting it in the ass and thinking that they need to fake orgasms to feel "normal". How many are doing it just for their boyfriend's benefit?

    And what about the boys? Are they missing out? Do they care? I just wonder how engaging in anal sex at such a young age affects people and their ability to have "standard" sex.
     
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    I believe that all girls give in for their bf's benefit the first time. As far as guys go it is just a conquest to them. Any port in a storm. They don't care if its an asshole, p*ssy, or mouth as long as they get their rocks off and add another notch in their belt.
     
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    For those of you who are wondering. Yes iam am old and cynical
     
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    Ya know, I can't remember ever feeling the need to chastise a man for male bashing, but DEWD!!, take it easy on the young men, will ya? They can't all be that bad, can they? :ugh
     
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    I have 3 daughters (all married w/ kids) and I remember some of the slugs they had for bf's in high school. Thank God they found loving and nurturing husbands.
    I am sorry for the rude display. I know there are some very upstanding youngsters out there. I was talking about the ones that would screw some poor girl up the ass just for fun.
     
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    There are women out there who can orgasm from anal penetration alone, but I imagine they're quite rare in that ability. Plus, lord knows what angle you'd have to try to hit her G-spot through her anus.

    Just as with vaginal penetration, there usually needs to be outside influences to achieve orgasm. IMO, you can't get enough stimulation. Clitoral, vaginal, or just rubbing and squeezing and pinching and kissing all over. The few times I've had anal with my wife, we had never been so close. I didn't stop caressing her for one second the entire time.
     
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    I hate to bring this to the table, but yes it is true. for a few reasons. Probably the biggest, she wants to keep her virginity as far as her vagina is concerned. The doctor checks there for her hymen, not her ass. There is a new saying going around..."stay moral, go oral." (why I can see a bunch of cheerleaders touting that phrase is beyond me.) It is thought that if you are just blowing each other, your fine, that you are not technically involved in sex. Same with anal, it isnt sex unless your vagina is some how involved in the act. The only reason I learned this. My brother and I did a paper together for psych class.

    The youth of today have so many different things they have to face. In that same sentence though, there is also many different places they have to learn about sex, at such an early age where as most of us didn't have those same resources available to us.

    there again just my .02
     
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    All I can say is that this subject pisses me off.

    Some real life examples of what modern "sex-ed" has done:
    -My ex had no idea where her clitoris was. She had it confused with her G-spot and freaked the hell out trying to figure out why it felt so good when I played with "that place" (her REAL clit).

    -A young cousin of mine is now pregnant because "condoms and the pill don't work."

    How's that for a reason to hate the stupid people that decide what's right and wrong in this world. "Men who seek too vigorously to rid the world of evil will do only evil." Can't remember who said that, but it's damn sure applicable.
     
  16. FlirtyChick

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    I fully intend to equip my daughter with all the facts before her first period, so she will be informed. My dad just sat me down before church and said, " Always keep your legs closed, especially in a dress". My mom talked more frankly, and when I started having sex, I went to her and she hooked me up on birth control. I seriously want my daughter to wait until marriage so she will not have to go through the emotional head games that sex can bring on, but I will stand by her no matter what her choice. I just want her to feel comfortable and close enough to her parents to actually TALK about it and make the wisest choice she can as an adolescent/young adult. Oral, anal, vaginal, it's all sex, and it still comes with risks and emotions. Of course, they taught us how menstruation and intercourse worked in our Sex Ed, and it was all about how pregnancy occurred. I am sure it still leaves much to be desired in public schools today.

    And for those of you who advocate sex at a young age in your country, I do not want to hear it, thanks! :)
     
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    A couple of things:

    First, there are teenaged guys out there that don't care, if it has a pulse, hit it where she'll let ya hit it. There are others that are better, but we all know an adult or two who have never gotten away from that mindset. With that in mind, I wonder if this isn't a case of the negative getting more press than the positive? Yes, our sex ed system in the US is a flaming piece of crap, but I can't see that there are so few positive sexual events going on as well. I tend to see it like the news coverage of the oh-so-hated Iraq war. We keep hearing about all the deaths, and all the misery over there. But I've been there, and I saw and participated in so many positive things that never made the news here, because that's not good ratings. I wonder if this isn't along those lines.

    Second, as my wife and I discussed, the primary means of proper sex ed for our son will be us, just as it was for my parents. Yes, I was sexually active as a teenager, but that was actually aided by my parents, who were open and honest with me from a young age, and made sure to teach me about responsibility, and the importance of caring for your partner, and how to treat a woman with respect in all things. I never had a kid as a teenager, because I learned from an early age the risks and responsibilities of being sexually active. My parents knew my partners, because they took an active interest in my life. They were friends with my girlfriends' parents, talked often, and kept tabs on what was going on. With that, I was perfectly capable of having a healthy, positive sexual experience, and so were my partners. If the parents just think that's it's the school's responsibility to teach sex ed, and don't take the time to even find out what's being teached, then they have no control towards ensuring that the values that they want instilled in their children are there.

    Ok, I'm off my soapbox now. :dance
     
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    That made...

    ...me laugh out loud. Do we need to have a talk?

    :lol
     
  19. FlirtyChick

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    :bow:bow:bow:bow:bow:bow:bow:bow:bow:bow:bow:bow: POST OF THE MONTH
     
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    I love it when a woman is on her knees bowing in front of me :lol

    Just kidding, and thanks....