Anal advice for a amle in a straight relationship

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Chonen, Aug 8, 2007.

  1. Chonen

    Chonen New Member

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    Heya,

    So I am a 20 year old male who has been dating my now 18 year old girldfriend for over 3 years.
    We have experimented and stuff, but my labido is much more active than hers and it does cause frustration.
    I've tried nanal sex with her psaringly...just doesn't have the same effect as Vaginal penetration.

    I don't want to call myself bi exactly, just that I love people for who they are. I am with my girlfriend because I love her, not because she is female. That said I am very open with my sexuality and my body. I am intrigued with anal myself. We have a strap-on and she uses it from time to time. I even have some smaller things I will use on myself.
    I was wondering if any women or guys have some advice. I like it, but I wish I could like it more. It always sounds like a good idea and turns me on. I even look for anal porn when I search. But once I am actually doing it, although it feels good, I always feel somewhat uncomfortable.
    Do i just have to keep "practicing" so that it gets easier to use they toys? I know it is supposed to be more enjoyable because I have a prostate, but I don't really know how that has changed my experience. So I would like to hear from men and women about what they like most about anal sex, and how they generally go about doing it. And maybe even someone in my position, where there isn't another penis involved, heh ^_^.

    Thanks so much this is my first post happy to join,
    -Chance
     
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    Hertoy New Member

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    Chance nice to have you here. As far as the anal is concerned I think if it is something you have tried and think you will like, well then practice makes perfect. The first few times I milked the prostate I was kinda wierded out by it. Then after a while I got use to it. As you can see by other threads on this topic just because you like it up the ass doesn't mean you are gay or bi according to most people in this forum. Anyway if you like it keep trying it!
     
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    Chonen New Member

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    Thanks for the comment. How exactly do you "milk the prostate"? I wasn't trying to defend myself because I saw being bi or gay as a bad thing, just that I don't think it accurately describes my position.
     
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    The easy way to figure out how to milk the prostate is to google it or look it up on wikipedia. It will give diagrams and such, to help you find it. It would take me a while to type it our here. I totally understand you were not defending the positon. There is no need to defend it and I apologize if I made it sound like you should.
     
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    *bump*
    So, anyone else? What makes a good anal experience for you?
     
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    AussieChicky New Member

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    Hmmm... my man likes a little back door action but only when fully aroused and hes a little drunk lol.. ive only ever done anal a few times but the best time was when i was completly relaxed and horny as hell, lots and lots of foreplay helps for both sexes im assuming...
     
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    We're all structured a bit differently, anatomically-speaking, and it's just one of those unfortunate realities that not everyone has a rectum that is designed for anal pleasure. For some, the discomfort is always going to outweigh the pleasure. This may not be the case for you, it could be that you just need to be more patient. Use the smallest object that is comfortable for anal stimulation and don't put pressure on yourself to accept anything larger. It can actually take years for the anus to be properly dilated enough to allow pleasurable penetration, for some people. You could be one of them. There's no use in trying to rush it...take your time and see what happens. Maybe five years from now you'll have a fabulous strap-on experience, but don't make it a goal. Respect your body's limits. There are a variety of ways to have fun anally: massage, rimming, massage with a vibrator, penetration with a very slender object. A crooked finger can easily reach your prostate, and that's all you really need to have a mind-blowing O.

    Best of luck to you.
     
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    quencho092 New Member

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    ive put items in my anus before. Like a metal cigar tube.

    When i get a rhythm, it makes me cum outrageously hard, in jets LOLOL, and quickly. But the orgasm is so powerful that i dont really like it all that much, i prefer working my way up normally.
     
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    I for one enjoy anal insertion...having 2 models of the aneros ...the helix and progasm..i enjoy them both tremendously...but...my favorite thing i enjoy is using her rabbit vibe putting a condom on it of course and lubing it and putting it ...the controller end between the mattress and box springs...getting on my knees doggie style and backing up to it...then let it enter me and start moving on it..letting it fuck me...sometimes the controller buttons kick in as its wedged and they get pressed ...really like it when the thing starts it swirling and vibing...:dgrin