Am I?

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Shorty022585, Aug 23, 2007.

  1. Shorty022585

    Shorty022585 New Member

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    I am in a relationship with a guy, but when I masterbate watching porn I like to watch girls only. I don't like the idea of me fingering or eating out another girl but I like watching other girls doing it. Does that mean I am bi?
     
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    Thats for you to decide. Maybe you just like watching girls do that. I mean, really bi is a label like any other word with infinite definitions.

    Bisexual meaning attracted to both sexes. Maybe you are, in that case. Does that mean you would enjoy having sex with someone of the same sex? No, not necessarily. You can feel appreciation or even attraction to actions or forms without necessarily wanting to stick your face in it.

    Good luck!
     
  3. Hope80

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    I wouldnt worry too much about it...If you cant picture yourself kissing another girl or being intimate...I wouldnt worry. I like to check out girls myself...Not in like an attracted sence, but to just appreciate another beings beauty is all...Some woman have beautiful long hair...the ass ive always wanted...It doesnt mean you are bi....Dont worry even a little @ bit over this.
     
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    just because you like to watch girls definitely doesn't make you bi...if you had the desire to be with them, then thats another story....but just, definitely not!!
     
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    Honestly i think you would find that a lot of girls are much more attracted to porn with hot girls and such than becuz of the guy. I dont know why but i dont think it makes you bi. I think its just the way society is and growing up women are just exposed more to other women and such. If that makes any sense.

    Same as women thinking even 2 gay guys are gross....but 2 lesbians are MUCH more acceptable.
     
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    Your situation is of understandable concern and one I can relate to personally.

    I am similar, the men in pornos downright turn me off, and I find myself seeking out and enjoying the women in both videos and pictures, they turn me on tremendously. :drool

    And yet just last night I dreamed I was with a girl, and absolutely revolted when it was time to give her oral. :lol :eek:

    You're not alone. :) Women are f@#$ing amazing to look at! :eek
    And it seems what a person finds arousing visually, doesn't necessarily indicate their sexual orientation.

    p.s. .... I'm sure we're not the only ones in this! ;)
     
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    I wouldn't worry about being Bi.
    Their is something sensuous and beautiful about the Female body
    that us Guys just do not have. Yea We can be rugged and venturous
    but not sensuous.

    Hiker
     
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    Is being bisexual something I should "worry" about?

    In MY opinion, being bisexual means that when you see a woman you determine if you find her attractive, imagine what she might feel like, taste like, sound like. Appriciation of the same gender is different than a desire to please or be pleased by someone of the same gender. Does a man who appreciate a massive, masculine cock automatically fulfill the description of gay? Nope. Doesn't mean he wants to lick it, or feel it inside of him.

    I am bisexual. I look at the same gender and wonder the same things I do when I look at the opposite gender.
     
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    I think the worry comes into play when a person is afraid that if they are bisexual and wanted to make that part of their active sex life, it could have an impact on their relationships, present or future.

    There's certainly nothing wrong with being bisexual, but if a person is in a relationship, one partners newfound bisexuality could complicate things to some extent.

    No way does simple attraction make a person bi, and no way is that, or being bi wrong.

    But switching from a hetero to a bisexual lifestyle has some potential to complicate certain aspects of life and relationships, no? :shrug

    I think that kind of concern is understandable.
     
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    I think society would do good to forget labels as a whole, why not just use the word Sexual? Gotta categorize everything into categories that are too broad to make anyone comfortable. I mean, I'm not even a Human, humans are too damn agitating, mean, and careless. I'm a deckard_cain, there's only one of me, and all those labels don't apply.

    Get it?
     
  11. Bluesy

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    I agree with everyone who's said labels are too limiting. I have no idea how to class myself...I'm attracted to men and women, but mostly men, and I have no interest in dating women, but, god, do I get off on admiring their nekkid bodies! I could technically call myself "bisexual", but it doesn't feel right. I'm not "bicurious" because curiosity has nothing to do it; that I find women sexually attractive is a given. So what am I? There's a vast spectrum of sexual orientation, from 100% homosexual to 100% heterosexual, and most people fall somewhere in between (and few people are bisexual in the "50/50 split" sense). Just be who you are; your sexual orientation is unique, just like you. Enjoy it :)
     
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    I think personaly that a lot of females that are dating a male, tend to enjoy looking at the female figure, there is nothing wrong in this to my knowledge, simple because the female form is i think far sexier looking to both males and females no matter their sexuality


    I could be wrong , like i said just my opinion.

    I am the opposte to you Shorty022585 , i go out with females only, and only wish to have sex with women. but i enjoy looking at males in action to. i dont think that makes me bi, just someone who appreciates beauty in many different forms
     
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    My wife is certainly NOT bi, but she watches girl on girl porn if we're watching together. We both agree that women are the prettier sex, so it is easier for her to watch. Besides...it's one of those traditional 'taboo' things, so it's hotter for some reason for her.
     
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    Why worry. Bi, straight gay... All labels and don't mean squat. Do what turns you on and unless you are hurting another who cares. :)
     
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    I too like porn and love watching females together..thats how I get off... I have never been with a woman..but i'd never say never!!! I'd love to try it.