Am I too horny? Or is my Girlfriend not horny enough?

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  1. chitowntoy

    chitowntoy New Member

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    Recently, I have come to the realization that I am completely obsessed with sex. To the point that I want it all the time. When me and my girlfriend got together we did it all the time; not so much now, and I find myself desiring other women. Part of it is our schedules, and I still do love her, but I find myself wanting other women. I am considered a VERY good looking guy and can definietly get women: it is no problem. I find myself feeling guilty though, but I have a feeling I will cheat if the opportunity is right. I dont feel guilty about THINKING of cheating, in fact I have (but didnt go all the way, so maybe its not cheating?) and I didnt have any REMORSE! Alas I dont think relationships are for me right now (im 22 and trying to build a career) but I NEED sex. I am torn beetween breaking up with my girlfriend....or just staying and cheating. She makes me happy in every other way, but sexually. Very confusing....
     
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    Key questions:

    1) Do you love her?

    2) Does she love you?

    Proceed from there.
     
  3. chitowntoy

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    1) not sure, sex is important. Can you love someone and still want to sleep with others?
     
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    Yes. I've been married for 7 yers and LOVE my wife, but would love to sleep with different women.
     
  5. Miss-Honey-Bee

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    Have you looked into sex addiction?
     
  6. Nettle

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    If you want to have sex with others while still with your girl, then you need to be honest with her, because ultimately it could affect her health.
     
  7. SexyScorp

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    I agree with Nettle....

    You are a rampant young man...your sexual needs are
    probably quite intense at the moment...

    Choose what you want to do....but with honesty..
     
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    Yes, you can love someone and want to have sex with someone else, just as you can love two people at the same time. There are distinct rules around relationships in western society, but in reality humans are more sexual than the rules allow for, which creates confusion and potential conflict.

    I think some people are more sexual than others, and the one solution may be for your and your girlfriend to have a long talk about your desires, and see if you can come up with a compromise that suits you both.
     
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    I say just ask her. My husband just confessed to me the other day that he is having dreams of sleeping with other women. I know that my sex drive is very low right now(don't know why) and his is thru the roof! He hented around it, and I just said " you wanna sleep with other women....Sure." I know that he loves me and I love him and I want his needs fulfilled, and if I can't do it, then why not someone else who can Again, just be upfront with her and let her know what you have been thinking and let her decide how she wants to proceed.
     
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    You sound like a fairly normal red blooded 22 year old to me Chitowntoy.

    Don't worry too much, by the time you reach 60 the feeling should have lessened.
     
  11. SexyScorp

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    Oh god only another couple of decades to go....

    Judging by the input on this forum and others I post at the older
    woman seems to be the new rock and roll.....

    So maybe we females will help with these young mens' dilemmas...

    ...seems an ideal solution!

    mmm....:)
     
  12. Animularisen

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    Dont you dare cheat on her, if you need to sleep with people you need to talk to her
    Tell her you have to much desire and that putting on her seems unfare. (if she then is willing to then ur fine) but if not you may need to split up for a while, or for good and persue them other women...

    Being a girl whose been cheated on, she can only hate you for that. It's wrong even thinking about the possiblity of cheating, it causes psychological problems and heartbreak.
     
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    its okay to want sex, no matter how much... i constantly want it, but i know id never hurt my boyfriend, and i only see him twice, three times a week at most.
    Hes on hoilday now, and im just having to cope with not having sex.
     
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    We are entering a new age where the nature
    of relationship will change...the so called
    "conventional" and "traditonal" one to one may
    in time not be the "norm"

    I agree with Anim....honesty at all times..not
    only are you cheating on a partner but yourself
    when you lie....

    It always comes back to haunt us and often time
    comes back on us too....karma....do unto others
    etc

    Be open and honest....always best!
     
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    you cant really be "too horny" but lusting for other women isnt really fair on your girl
     
  16. chitowntoy

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    I think it is best to stay with her. She is my love right now, and I dont want to be without her. Upon taking time to think, and reading your helpful replies, I dont think I can ask for anymore than she is giving (in terms of a partner). I believe that I, just like EVERY man I know, wants to spread his seed, but It is not socially acceptable and I accept that (nor is it feasible with STD's and or the chance of preg). I think when I posted this I was a bit depressed, but I feel better now. I believe on some level I am addicted a bit because I masterbate frequently, but I also feel very depressed when I masterbate to much, so I have decided to cut back. I think it is a bit of a cheap hi that I have to ration. thx
     
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    I have had a similar issue with my wife. Particularly when we were dating. It was very difficult to deal with the libido mismatch. We talked about it and we worked it out. It took a few years though. She understands my needs now and I try not to bug her too much. On that note I don't think there is such a thing as too much masturbation. It's natures way of regulating these kinds of imbalances. So I say instead of cheating simply spank your monkey until you cum dust. Or have her spank it. That is even better.
     
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    Chitowntoy
    You did'nt make it very clear as to whose fault it is
    that you don't get enough sex, If Your G/F is not giving
    you enough then you need to have a serious talk with her
    and explain that you need more or a variety of sex.
    If it's just you needing or wanting other Women then
    Then in my opinion you need yo break off with your
    current G/F and start looking for one that suits
    you better.

    Hiker:sf