Am I being faithful if I think of....

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  1. HerHubby

    HerHubby The SF Poet Laureate
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    Most of the time, when my wife and I make love, I am focused on her. Even so, occasionally, when she has done a hand job on me or even if I am fucking or licking her, some of the women of SexualForums come to mind such as Puss or Bella or pirouoette or Bluesy or even all of them at the same time. Right about time time I am ready to cum, sometimes they have come to mind and the thought of them "sends me over the edge", so to speak, at that moment, as I orgasm. In the past before I became involved here, other women, such as someone I worked with or someone I had seen somewhere, came to mind, occasionally, right about the time I cum. Am I being faithful to my wife if that happens? I've never been able to control it, it just happens sometimes and has always happened. Sometimes I have been totally focused on my wife and sometimes someone else or a group of other women have come to mind just as I cum. Any guys experience such things or any women experience such things? I've never been quite sure why that happens. I've felt kind of guilty about it when it does happen no matter who came to mind. Maybe I am just weird. Right now I just feel very horny and wish that my wife and I were alone in our bedroom. Hope what I just shared doesn't "freak anybody out". It's just somethings about myself I am examining and dealing with emotionally and intellectually.
     
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    Nothing wrong with surfing the fantasies.
    I have the opposite problem; I lose focus whenever I've tried to switch off to a fantasy girl.
     
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    Aaaahhhhh sweet man

    Of course there aint nothing wrong about that....I do it too....dont most people...

    The fact that you are a little concerned about it shows what a caring and sensitive man you are...

    I dont think you need to be worried....

    As long as you add ME to that list

    HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!
     
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    I think it's perfectly normal to fantasize about someone else while you're making love. You know you love your wife, but us men are very visual creatures. We need to have a mental picture to go along with the action, even if the action is staring us right in the face.

    And it's hard not to fantasize about the beautiful women of :sf
     
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    That's perfectly normal, HH!
    I admit, I'm the slightly jealous type :ugh and to be honest, I don't like the idea of my hubby thinking about someone else while he's having sex with me, but I understand why he might.
    I chalk it up to a difference between the male and female, and the fact that as heelfetish pointed out, men are very visually oriented creatures.
     
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    While it is normal, I have to admit that I rarely do it. I'm not saying that you're bad for doing it, HH, because it is normal. But when we're fucking, I honestly get lost in the moment, and can't think about much else.

    However, she gave me a great BJ the other night, and my mind certainly wandered. I was fantasizing about all kinds of things, and the women of :sf were part of that for sure!!!

    It's not cheating any more than it is cheating to watch porn while you masturbate. And men aren't the only ones to fantasize during sex. ;)
     
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    Damnit! ... I hate it when the prudish panty wearer is right! :lol
    :D
     
  8. heelfetish

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    :rofl Thanks NK. :eek:
     
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    NOT EVEN ONE MENTION OF "ROSE"!
    NOT EVEN A GLIMMER OF FANTASY!!!
    GRRRRRR - I AM CRUSHED!!
    ....just devastated...
    ... someone shoot me....
     
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    Well you need to give us some visual fantasy ammo.
     
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    LMAO - well, Thorn & I are "discussing" the matter.....

    Decision will be forthcoming..... :brow
     
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    A fantasy is a situation imagined by an individual or group, which does not correspond with reality but expresses certain desires or aims of its creator. Fantasies typically involve situations which are impossible (such as the existence of magic powers) or highly unlikely (such as world peace). Fantasies can also be sexual in nature.

    Keep in mind that fantasies are a normal and healthy part of our sexuality. They are either taken from past experiences or may be entirely imaginary. Sometimes these fantasies are taboo or socially unacceptable, therefore they are only available through fantasy.

    ~Bella
     
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    I still feel slighted. <pouting> :p
     
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    I am with you, Rose. My name wasn't mentioned.

    Honestly...... I don't think, in general, that it's a problem. I think if EVERY single time you cum you have to think of Bluesy...... there's a problem (not cuz Bluesy isn't noteworthy). But do you see the difference? There is "sometimes", and there is "dysfunction". But that's my opinion. Fantasy defines the difference between behaving routinely, and just being. My two cents.
     
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    :brow Hi, miss Mel! I've been missing you... everything okay?
     
  16. Bella

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    Stop it now!!
    Everyone knows you are the hottest one here!
    ~Bella
     
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    And Mel is WAY HOT!!!!!!!!!!!
    Ok, now I can have some really hot ass fantasies tonight!
    Oh boy!! :cheer
    ~Bella
     
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    Oh see? You're an asskisser. You don't get to do that after calling her (Rose) the HOTTEST one here (whether I arbitrarily agree or not).
     
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    I would kiss your ass Mel! :brow
    She is the Hottest, but she is taken.
    You, on the other hand...intrigue the Hell out of me! :brow
    ~Bella
     
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    mmmmmmmmmm.....define TAKEN............. giggles.
     
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