Age Preference

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  1. NewHere

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    I have noticed as I am getting older that people my age don't seem old to me anymore. Take for example, when I was 18, 30 seemed old. Now that I am 30, people that are 18 look like kids (no offense intended to people that might be here that are 18). I never find myself looking at an 18 year old guy thinking, 'Damn I want some of that". It just seems wrong to me. Does the same thing happen for other people? Like when you are looking for a good porn, are you looking for people your own age, or always going for the people in their early 20's? Sorry for the randomness lol.
     
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    I've dated a 20 something guy. It was alright but I probably won't do it again. It seems like the guys in my age range 30-40 don't want to date someone in that same range. They are looking for younger. '

    I'm looking for someone between this range 28-45 years of age.
    :D
     
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    I think that is true of most people who are relatively secure and posses their own age-appropriate maturity. I was just joking about it recently, realizing that I see intense sexiness in women my age, 54, and up. And like you, NewHere, very young women(to me; late teens - mid twenties), though incredibly pretty, do not hold the beauty, awareness and magnetism that women in their late 30s and up do. It may partly be that I don't feel they would naturally find me attractive.

    As I age I find that when I look at women, I see more than I used to. At first glance I read expressions and mannerisms which grow and change as we age. Some face crinkles betray an animated personality. As one ages and finally figures out the questions of our youth - our quest for an individual identity and reason for being, we display it in so many subliminal ways. A similarly mature observer can appreciate these traits, and forgive the things we can't change about our aging bodies, since, after all we are changing too. You have a more complete view of a person and appreciate some of how they got to be what they are now.

    When we were young and beautiful it was more about attractive hair, complexion, shape, and pheromones. A less complex and possibly hormone driven view. A nice smile and twinkling eyes are ageless positive attributes though.
     
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    I'll take anyone that is legal up to senior status, depending on their maturity (and I don't mean physical maturity).
     
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    Hey NewHere! How are ya?

    I can understand completely!! My best analogy is when you notice someone driving that doesn't even look CLOSE to old enough to drive...lol. It reminds me that I'm approaching "old-fart" status :D

    It's all good though.

    As per the other side of your question.....I most certainly gravitate toward a non-teen type of woman. I attribute part of this to being a father of a girl. The whole "teen-thing" is something that I have NO DESIRE for whatsoever. If a girl looks to be younger than 25 or so, I just can't get into it.
     
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    I'm doing good thanks! :) Things are returning to normal here lol. It just took me awhile to get a new perspective on things. Thank you for your help BTW.

    HR I love your look on the subject. I definitely agree that all the little smile lines and wrinkles we get as we age make us more intriguing. I love looking at my man's face and seeing the lines by the corners of his eyes. I know I helped put them by making him smile all the time. Beauty is really only skin deep in my opinion.

    Ready2Please I love how some guys want a girl much younger than them and it's ok, but if a female does it, it's the woman being a cougar lol.

    Igor it's cool that you don't discriminate lol. Everyone needs love right? :p

    I would love to hear more opinions on the subject. It's nice to see things from other people's perspectives.
     
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    I'm with HR as well but not fixated one way or another on the age thing.
    I love pretty much women of any age and have lovers of my own age, 10 years younger and then one 20 years younger again.
    Just for a change I would like to get it together with one 10 years older than me!
    A woman is a woman and can be sexy not matter her age.
     
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    Just to be clear, I didn't mean I'd kick a college cheerleader out of bed for eating crackers.:dgrin
    I just doubt if one would get in bed with a dude my age.:shrug:cheer:(
     
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    :rofl Same here HR
     
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    Age is a hard thing to nail down. I get hit on by girls in their 20s...but I'm 46. Do I look at girls in their late teens and 20s, sure, I'm not dead yet...but all they have to do is open their mouths and it fades quickly. The innane crap they want to talk about blows most of the desire. Kind of like an 70s Ferrari, great to look at, but misserable to drive. Most of the guys I went to school with are either fat couch potatos or litterally on the verge of death. I know of almost 2 dozen that have passed of health related issues. Most people I meet put me in my mid 30s. Not sure if it's the fact we waited to have kids till later or good genes or how active we are. I still play hockey, we cycle a lot, hike, ski, surf, etc. My wife is 45 and no one can believe she is past her late 20s early 30s. She is beyond picky about her diet and exercises daily. She's rockin a size 1 hard body that most teenagers would kill for. I have genetics on my side, my parents look almost 20 yrs younger than thier age, but they've stayed active.

    Age is a state of mind. I see people my own age or younger and think they are old. They limp around with their bloated bodies. Went cycling with a friend in Colorado, he's 10 yrs younger than me, he was huffing and puffing and had to stop before I even broke a sweat and he lives there and is used to the lack of oxigen....and looks 5 yrs older than me.

    The problem I have with younger people is I'd rather disguss political and social issues, not what happened on Jersey Shore or Lady Gaga's latest crap. On the other hand, when I feel like disgussing the latest carbon fiber bike frames, the new Gixxers coming out, or the latest ultralight hockey skates, the guys my age don't have a clue. So it's not age as much as what is going on in thier mind. I'd have a hard time dating now, all of the women my age couldn't keep up physically, and the young ones that could keep up would drive me up with wall with conversations about crap that doesn't matter. I'm keeping my wife.
     
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    backcheck64.....good call on keeping the wife! Props to ya, man.
     
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    I'm always been attracted to older men, my first bf was 10 years older than me and my current bf is 12 years older than me. I consider myself to be a mature person and like backcheck64, I don't feel comfortable to be in a relationship with a guy in the early 20', I rather be with an older man with whom I can hold a nice conversation and go out and feel like a lady when in his company, because so many of the guys my age don't have manner like them, they don't open the door for me, or so many other things that make you feel special.
     
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    I have no interest in guys young enough to be my son or old enough to be my father. To me that is just sick. But.....different strokes for different folks.
     
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    As a young guy, I am a little disappointed that you ladies appear to have no interest in younger men. Personally, I don't have a preference. I find women attractive aged 18 to 65. It varies really. Depends on the individual I think.
     
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    Hmmm, it looks like the people who like "Barely Legal" aren't chiming in here.:lol

    I always had a thing for women who were a couple of years older than me, particularly in high school. I still do, but my "lower limit" has not moved much since my twenties. Now, I sometimes run into women in their mid twenties who I find very attractive, and not only physically. However, even though my wife and I don't work terribly well sexually, no relationship is perfect. we do have a long history of looking after each other. I also can't imagine anybody else that I would rather go traveling with, for instance.
     
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    I'm in my early 30 years and work on campus at a very large university. I have to tell you the young college girls drive me insane. They look incredible with super tight bodies that show a lot of skin. I suppose those older men who don't have a daily environment like this and who live out in the suburbs thus limiting their exposure to these types of females even more so except in a family setting forgot how ridiculously hot young women are. My mind is blow every week by these girls.

    A friend and co-worker (who is married) feels like I do. We often have talks about if are minds will just one day change and this sexual attraction to these college age girls will go away. We think you have to be taken out of the enviorment and after time it might? For the record, I don't want my mind to change!
     
  17. Ready2Please

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    Why would you want your mind to change. I agree there are some pretty hot college girls and guys out there.
     
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    I will admit age does make a difference. I kind of go by the "half your age plus 7" rule in terms of being attractive:

    - Under 30: way too young. We have kids that age. I feel like a pervert.
    - 30-35: Can be attractive, but I still feel a little guilty.
    - over 35: hot!

    I kid with my wife that she doesn't have to worry me running off with anyone under 40, it is the sexy 40-something women she has to watch out for. Fortunately she believes the best defense is a good offense - even at 50 she is often mistaken for being 10-15 years younger.
     
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    For me, I think it has to do with maturity also. Even college guys don't really do it for me. It is more guys mid 20's to about 40ish that do it for me. I can't really get off thinking about a guy that prolly spent the whole week talking about an awesome keg party they were planning for the coming weekend lol. I can see the attraction for younger girls though. Women tend to really dress for attention more and take better care of themselves (for the most part) when they are younger. There are definitely some exceptions though. I have seen many older women and have though "Damn, I hope I look half that good when I am that age." I will even point them out to my man. =P
     
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    So, would ya go for a guy twice you're age that drives a luxury minivan? One that still plays hockey, and runs his kids all over the midwest for games? One that keeps up on the latest politics but listens to POD, Godsmack, Five Finger Death Punch? A guy that will rip a wheelie on the bike at 90mph....on the way to the golf course? Yes, I do open doors for ladies, and make sure they cum first...ya got me there.

    Sorry, taken. And staying that way.
    And most of the time I drive a large crew cab Nissan Titan so I'm not totally old...both have perfomance mods though. And I'm so old, if I can swing it, I'll be at the Rally to Restore Sanity and or Fear with the family.