Advice Wanted From A Woman

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  1. singlemale86

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    I've got some questions for the ladies out there, Regarding male physical appearance and how you ladies (doesn't matter who you are or how you look) view us males. My curiousity has led me to wonder exactly what it is that you ladies look for in a male physically.

    First off, everybody knows that men are very visual in their sexuality. We can be turned on by simple female nudity or the hint of it. Every man is different in what turns him on. Some guys like breasts, others like butts, some like legs etc. Some like all three. I don't know if its a stereotype to assume that women are any less visually turned on by male physical appearance, but I've overheard enough girls say things like "wow, look at his butt!" to know that it matters...

    I know many women, married or dating, will go to great lengths to reassure men of their confidence in their bodies no matter how they may look. Bless your hearts for doing this for us ladies, but what I really want to know is what you REALLY want a man to look like physically. I know it can be different for ever person. For instance, for guys at least, some guys like girls with large breasts, some guys like smaller ones etc.

    This is where you ladies get to let us as males know what you want us to look like without hurting our feelings. For myself at least, I want to know what I can do to improve myself physically for when I meet my soulmate. Even if she's the most loving woman in the world, and could care less if I was bald, fat or paunchy I still want her to be able to look at me and say "that guy is hot".

    Need some examples?

    What is your preference about a guys:

    -Body Type (big, tall, stout, skinny)
    -Muscles (rippling, well built, no muscles, skinny guy)
    -Favorite Body Parts (Biceps, Legs, Back, Butt)
    -Grooming (clean shaven, no-shave, short/long hair)
    -Body Hair (hair, or no hair. Simple as that)

    Personality's got nothing to do with it ladies. What do you think makes a guy look hot?

    I'm at your mercy ladies, really appreciate your help!
    Cheers, and Thanks!
     
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    Okay - I'll go first! Thorn & I are always comparing what HE thinks I think is hot, compared to what I REALLY think is hot...

    Body Type - a hot guy is somewhat tall, perhaps a bit lean - but shows signs of working out. I'm not into the body-builder type, but I like to see some definition in his arms, abs, legs. Chubby is out.

    Muscles - *see above*

    Favorite Body parts - Eyes are very important to me, then perhaps his abs (tight and sculptured :brow ). Oh, hell! Everyone here knows I'm partial to a spectacular girth on his cock! :lol Length is not that important - but width? Oh, yeah!

    Grooming - This is where is gets sticky. One part of me just loves the rustic, slightly gruff, Southern redneck, long hair (in a pony tail is sexy, in my humble opinion), some neatly groomed stubble along the chin..... BUT, then there's the guy in a suit - silk tie - freshly pressed shirt......(this just blows Thorn away :lol ) - businessman. But either of them MUST be clean, smell good, and have a nice smile (teeth, etc) and clean, short fingernails.

    Body Hair - I like a man's private area shaven. Simply put - it's because I absolutely love sucking balls, and smooth balls are so enjoyable! If a man is extremely hairy all over.... I'm not really interested... I suppose if he wanted me to be interested, he would have to shave his body hair :ugh I've seen some real "gorillas", and I really do not enjoy that look.

    Cheers back at ya'!
    :rose
     
  3. barbie

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    Body type....Tall to average..Not real skinny
    Muscles...Well built
    Favorite body parts..Legs,butt
    Grooming...Clean shaven,short hair
    Body hair..Hair
     
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    I envy you, Barbie. Able say what you want in so few words.....:)
     
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    Build- At around my height (give or take a bit). (My height is 5'6, and I like to be able to kiss the person without having to get a frickin' step ladder, so anyone that is at least six feet or under is fine.)
    Muscles- I don't even care about muscles. I can take em' or leave em'. I think that they are sexy, but I really don't miss them.
    Favorite body part- Well, I'm with Rose on this one. Eyes and penis.I love eyes. They intrigue me. I'm not picky about how the penis should be, but my fiance has the perfect one (what I feel, anyway) so I really enjoy it.
    Grooming- Personally, as long as the person has good hygeine, (as in, clean , smells good, short, clean fingernails, brushes teeth) I don't have a preferance. I think there are many good sides of personal grooming, such as long hair vs. short.
    Body hair- I don't mind it. I rather enjoy my fiance's, but I don't require it. If he shaved his off, I would probably love that, too.

    As a sidenote, hotness has less to do with appearance (for me) and more to do with agressiveness, confidence, and openmindedness. I've seen men that were not much on the eyes, but plenty on the soul.
     
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    -Body Type (big, tall, stout, skinny)
    honestly, I wouldn't complain about any.
    If he were really skinny though I'd worry that he wasn't eating enough but that's just me. It would be fun to be with someone big just because I'm a short girl and it would be an interesting size difference. And I would love to be flung over someone's shoulder, LOL. If he's got a belly, doesn't mean I'm going to find him less attractive. As a matter of fact, I think a little thigh jiggle is cute...


    -Muscles (rippling, well built, no muscles, skinny guy)
    Again, as far as skinny goes, I worry if someone is too thin. Healthy is good and attractive. If his arm muscles are the size of a labrador, that's kind of scary. There are guys that are skinny with no muscle tone, I find them attractive. There are guys with some muscle and I think that's fine too.

    -Favorite Body Parts (Biceps, Legs, Back, Butt)
    I like thighs. I don't know why. Maybe because they're close to the prize? I like hands as well. I love a guy's back from his shoulder blades to the small of his back. I just think that's yummy. And his eyes have to have something... special.


    -Grooming (clean shaven, no-shave, short/long hair)
    Um, I like it if he uses deodorant and doesn't smell. And he must look like he washes his hair and cares for his own cleanliness. Some kinds of facial hair I find to make guys look like... um.... pedophiles or cheesy 70's pornstars, and I don't really find that attractive. It depends on the guy though.


    -Body Hair (hair, or no hair. Simple as that)
    I don't mind hair. But if we're entering the Tom Selleck territory.... ew. It's natural for a guy to have body hair. It's not natural to look like some oiled model on the cover of a romance novel however with a perfect curled forlock of hair.

    Yep, an epic post. Hope I helped!
     
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    This is all very fascinating information. Thank you ladies. Learn something new everyday I guess.

    I suppose I was always under the impression that women (the majority at least) did not find body hair of any kind attractive at all. For certain there are probably women that would like an "oiled model on the cover of a romance novel", LOL. Interesting what i've heard so far.

    Also that women can find body parts like the shoulders, thighs, small of the back sexy on a male. Interesting.

    Thanks very much for the helpful info ladies!

    Don't stop there though, anybody else that has anything to say, i'd also appreciate your input as well.

    Cheers
     
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    I guess im screwed:( I've got a high matabolism and bad eating habits. I am unattractively skinny and prob will be for awhile. I am getting a membership to the YMCA, but as of right now i have poor muscle tone. Somehow i do have a girlfriend and shes convinced im sexy.....or mayb shes just lying to me. I tell her i have her confused and she says im wrong. Maybe the reason is because shes bisexual and likes smaller people....I dont know but i know i hate mirrors.
     
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    conn.am1,
    I too have a high metabolism and I struggle to keep on weight. To some extent you are what you are.

    Good exercise helps, I'll always be slim but what I've got is firm and well toned, which is all any man or woman can do.

    The women here have answered the question asked, but my experience is that women are generally into a man's mind and his personality more than his appearance, and a confident (but not arrogant) mature and intelligent man can go a long way in this world.
     
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    Well im messing up because i constantly let my girl know im unhappy with the way i look. i do it because i need her to tell me its ok and i am sexy and blah blah blah....i guess i shouldn't do that but so far i havnt seen anything bad result from it...maybe i just dont know the damage ive caused...
     
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    I'll admit that my tastes differ greatly. I have noticed that the only men that turn my head have a great intellect, sense of humor and a fantastic energy.

    (The latest crush has my husband laughing on a weekly basis. One afternoon, I heard a man talking at a nearby comic book store - my husband's store was 2 doors from it. His voice completely mesmorized me. He spoke with amazing energy and passion. Obviously very masculine, dominant and incredibly smart. My curiosity at last got the better of me. I walked down to the comic book store to see a gathering of Dungeons and Dragons players. And there he was. Around 5 ft 11, dark glasses, shiny dark hair, caucasian and about 300 pounds- and a complexion that has never seen sunlight. :lol :lol


    And I never answer the celebrity orgy thread because I just don't think people would understand why Steven Hawkings the only one on my list. :eek: )
     
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    I need to know girl. What do you find attractive about Steven Hawkings?
     
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    Body type - As long as he is taller than me its fine. Im 5ft 6 and i would say around 6ft would be my ideal height.

    Muscles - Don't particularly like skinny guys. Again, like the man to be bigger than me, i like broad men. And i definitely like good arm muscles (as long as dont go too overboard)

    Body parts - Back. I absolutely love a mans back, not sure why just do. Its just plain sexy.

    Grooming - Don't like a man who grooms too much, rugged is good. A man who uses a straightener would turn me off instantly! And i dont like men who high-light their hair, bugs me for some reason.

    Body Hair - Not partiularly fussed, is their choice i think. Would possibly be a little put off by a man who shaves his legs. A bit of body hair is nice and manly i think.

    But, while a man with all this may be attractive to me i wouldnt necessarily like him or be interested. He may be good to look at but I really do think it is the personality that counts. If a man has confidence in himself the looks really dont matter so much.
     
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    Do you even need to ask? He is so very attractive because of his intellegence. In my opinion, anyway. What a guy!:eek
     
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    He talks about women, sex and having fun.....he's very bright. He has a lot of confidence in himself. He has an amazing sense of humor. I have great admiration for not only his work, but the struggles he has overcome in his life. .....I could go on and on about him. :eek:
     
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    He just got divorced! Damn! Now I'm the married one. :mad
     
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    So invite him to have a threesome ;)

    Very eloquently put.

    Singlemale, as long as a guy is in reasonably good shape, that's all that matters to me. Sure, I have an "ideal" type, but the sexiest guys I've known fell far short of it. I wouldn't worry about physicality, but instead concentrate on being the sort of guy that any woman would be proud to know.

    I am VERY visual, btw.
     
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    What a coincidence; My prime quest is to know the fabric of the universe! Well next to sex anyway.

    I like Hawking too, just not in a sexy sort of way.
     
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    I dont have a problem here do I.
    But who is Steven Hawkins. :sf
     
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    Stephen Hawking is a world-renowned quantum physicist.

    For more information check this website.
     
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