I was okay with anal before I got pregnant. Loved it while I was and then wanted it after I gave birth. Here's my problem though. When I had my child I wound up tearing really bad and had a lot of stitches. After I healed and a while after I decided to try again. It's really sore when my ex S/O would enter, but once there it was fine. When he was ready to cum he would speed up and this would cause me to seize up and feel like I needed to expel him. While he would be going slow I would be fine. Any way to stop this from happening or at least make it less?