advice needed,...gals & guys please

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  1. justaniceguy

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    guys/gals

    how would you feel if you knew your wife was chatting on a daily basis on facebook to a friend of the opposite sex and you have not met him or her....Also knowing that she/he deletes there messages but keeps the other messages from there friends....?? Also they dont talk to about whom they are chatting too...
     
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    please, anyones advice !!
     
  3. mrcock

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    I'd be like what the fuck

    :lol
     
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    how do you mean by saying that
     
  5. mrcock

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    I mean if she'd be ma girl she wouldn't be that far already
     
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    Can we have more details??How long has it been going on? And what does she have to say about it?
     
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    If it's just chatting, I don't see issue with it. I'm a guy, and 99% of my friends are female, whom I talk to daily, and see bi daily, and my girlfriend knows this. She's met a few of them. She, in turn, has many male friends she chats with, but doesn't see (she moved here, away from most of her friends).

    I'd ask her why you haven't met them, and gauge her response. It is kind of suspicious that she deletes messages from this person and not others, though.
     
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    The deleting part bothers me, not the chatting.
     
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    Wouldn't care about the talking but find it odd she deletes the messages. Have you confronted her about this?
     
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    Im fine with my wife having way to many friends on facebook and chatting with the opposite sex. I wouldn't be ok with the fact she is deleting conversation other guys. I absolutely hate facebook. I will never ever be apart of it and i have always told my wife to be very carefully what you post and who you allow to see it cause the internet is a small world when it comes to trying to hide something... Just remember once its on the net YOU CAN NEVER DELETE IT!!!. ...there are manys ways to open things that you think have been deleted....tell her to keep that in the back of her mind and it might make her stop and think...
     
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    She needs to stop deleting. That's all there is to it. You should have access to all her conversations if you choose to. Sluttyfairy and I have each others access codes to everything....but we never check each other simply because we trust each other. If we have to worry about that kind of crap, what kind of relationship would we have....?...I never understand how people can stay together and harbor all that insecurity and jealousy, but many do , I guess....
     
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    Hey- I think I would be suspicious. Especially the deleting of the messages. Have you come right out and asked her? Do you know where this person lives, do they live close by? If so red flag. If not, she may just be harmless chatting? Just a thought.
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    how would you feel if you knew your wife was chatting on a daily basis on facebook to a friend of the opposite sex and you have not met him or her....Also knowing that she/he deletes there messages but keeps the other messages from there friends....?? Also they dont talk to about whom they are chatting too...[/QUOTE]
     
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    Wouldn't/Doesn't bother me in the least bit, but I'm not in a strictly monogamous relationship by both our choices.

    I gave up the jealousy thing decades ago about the time that I figured if i wanted to be Dick Tracy, then I should be a private eye.

    I can understand completely how it would bother some, but personally, I'm not spending one second of my time on this earth tracking anybody for any reason. It's a waste of time in my opinion and I don't see any benefit to it other than to be able to say "Gotcha".

    No thanks.
     
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    Slutty says that kind of jealous " detective work" is like a job you don't get paid for.....she has a good point....
     
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    If she's deleting....I'd say it goes much deeper than chatting. I'd probably demand the whole truth and probably escort her out the door. I don't have to worry about that though, my wife thinks facebook is a waste of time and deleted her account, the only reason I've maintained mine is business countacts but that almost isnt a reason to have to read some of the BS on there.
     
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    The fact that she is only deleting there messages leads me to believe something shady is going on.
     
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    I talk to guys on facebook, fetlife and here. Mr. RN is aware, I'm honest and open with him about who I talk to and generally what is discussed. Same goes for him...when he chats with women he is open. Trust is trust...either it's there or it's not.
     
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    I'm like a lot of guys here, can't stand Facebook although I have an account rarely use it.
    My SO is constantly on such social media sites and I don't give a rat's consideration as to what she does there. Not my business and I don't need to know and not even the slightest curious.
    As for myself, well I get all my needs from this community of misfits/weirdoes/pervs :)
     
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    I know she ''PLAYS'' on line I don't care about that but not in person....ok we did say with other in 3 sum only...but on line say what you want to who you want...this gose for both of us......
     
  20. MordsithLove

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    Well I let go of many if not all of my male friends when I got into a relationship with my SO...which was a bad idea...

    8yrs later, he gets kinda jealous if I'm social with old male friends. So if I do end up messeging them on FB, I delete it just to prevent drama. And it's nothing bad, harmless convos about video games and other nonsense that's friendly...

    However, I did chat with a guy and it was very heavy duty dirty talk....I'd made sure he would NEVER see it...and here today I don't talk to that guy anymore cause it really screwed with my head and emotions in my relationship. But I'm a youngin too, so this whole scenario maybe different for someone of mature age.

    I would heed the advice, and just be upfront with her and ask.