My wife and I have been together for nearly 20 years, and I feel we've gotten ourselves into a rut. Neither of us really "played the field", when we were younger. I've always considered myself more sexual than her. However, for the most part, we please each other, and both consider it an important part of life. Personally, I lately have this "Been there, done that" feeling about it. There are days where I don't even want to initiate anymore. I know she feels the same way. Of course, as with all 30-somethings, kids and job stress don't help. Maybe it's the midlife crisis stuff, but I'm ready to get past this boredom stuff, and take it to a new level. Of course, with her. I'm looking for ideas, from folks who have gone through the same thing.