I'm 25, female and sexually frustrated. Here's my problem: I started masturbating at 14 in the bath using the shower head. This way I had spectacular orgasms. :tup I also tried manual masturbation, but my fingers did not work the magic that the shower head did, so I made do with the latter. (I remember my mom teasing me about taking three baths in one day. ) A few months into it, we moved to a place without a tub, at which point I started seriously trying to get off manually. I have been at it ever since, never achieving more than what I would call an anticlimax, i.e. spasms and the termination of sexual tension without the insane pleasure of my first orgasms. I can bring myself to the brink using my fingers; the problem is the quality of the actual orgasm. I'd like to hear from other women who have shared my problem and overcome it - how did you manage to become orgasmic (again)? I should mention that I have tried a shower head a couple of times since those glory days at 14, but my own showers have been too physically uncomfortable and when bathing at a friend's house I have felt too psychologically uncomfortable. Thus I don't actually know whether I would be able to orgasm using a shower head today. As I said, I'm hoping to hear from other women who have shared my problem and overcome it, but because I've wondered how much of my problem could be psychological - perhaps the failures of my first tries at manual masturbation somehow screwed with my head and taught me (on a subconscious level) that I cannot orgasm manually and so I don't? ??? - I'd also be interested in hearing more generally from people who have used therapy, hypnosis or something similar to overcome an orgasm problem.