Advice for first time

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  1. greenmallard

    greenmallard New Member

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    Hi all, what's your advice for some one who's about to do it for the first time? I'm a virgin but my partner is experienced. I don't even know if I should tell her I'm a virgin, even though it will probably show :) I think some girls get scared off by that. What can I do the first time to 1. make it as enjoyable as possible for her and 2. maybe not seem obvious that I'm a virgin :) Thanks.
     
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    I don't think too may girls get scared off by a virgin. More apt to be scared off by a player. Just relax and let things happen. You can make a joke of it by telling her to be gentle this is your first time.:lol Hey dude, we were all virgins once.;) You'll be just fine, and if things don't turn out just right, you will laugh your asses off down the road. Just be yourself and enjoy the experience.
     
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    Definitely be upfront and honest with her. I think she will appreciate it and it may even add a little bit to the experience for her knowing that she is the first for you. There's no shame in being a virgin.
     
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    well i never had sex also and my friend who i suppose to do it with has lots of experience and she is 7 years younger than me what should i do
     
  5. HardRocker

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    Follow her lead, she will enjoy teaching you. Who wouldn't love teaching someone the finer things?
     
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    if you are unexperienced it is likely that you'll make some mistakes which can disappoint the girl. But if you say the truth to her, everything will be OK and she will love to be your teacher indeed.
     
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    well i told one girl my secrete and she say's she is willing to show me how 2 please a woman, so i not sure if i should do it or wait on my soul mateif their is such a thing
     
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    Just take it slow and explore each other. Things will naturally take place... maybe, make a game of it and add a little flavor that you lick off each other.
     
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    grignard_reagent New Member

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    hmmm!!!!!!!!!!


    u ve got two options
    and u can take both at a time ;)

    first
    let things happen naturally

    2nd:

    watch loadzzza porn
    and try it easy
    easier
    and easier


    all the best dude

    :)
     
  10. HardRocker

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    Just don't use porn as a learning tool. Not much of it is anything like how real life lovers really do it.
     
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    Be honest and tell her the truth. If you decide not to tell her that you are a virgin, the trust can go right out the window. Tell her and she could possibly mold you into the sexual being you always wanted to be.
     
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    I'd tell her, my boyfriend told me he was a virgin before we started dating and although at first I was like, hmm seems a little weird, could be a 1000 reasons why, I also thought, yey blank slate. She can teach you the way to please her and she can please you anyway and not be afraid you'll compare her to ex's.

    Our first time was intense, we were both nervous and it was quite quick. It depends on what you want from a first time but I've read and been told a lot that it's best to just explore each other and keep it unadventurous because you've enough to do with the normal stuff =] Don't think you'll get her to cum first time either unless she's easy to get there, most women don't orgasm during sexual intercourse =]
     
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    So Fred, did ya get some? ???
     
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    You should wait for your soul mate, they DO exist!
     
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    i like the guy virgin thing....totally turns me on!
    i feel like pumping my fists in the air and doing laps of victory when i hear it
     
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    This is exactly how my relationship is right now. She's incredibly experienced and I'm not. Go with the flow, and make sure you talk to her about your being a virgin. If she finds out later she might be upset.