Advice concerning sex toys

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    My girlfriend and I have been with each other for quite a while, and have experimented with quite a bit of different acts. She loves a little bit of bondage, and is opening up to anal. Here's the thing; she's wierdly opposed to me buying her a vibrator or other toys to further add variety to the boudoir, and I have no idea why. We've used a toy or two before, but only briefly yet I still made her cum. I know she'd love adding a vibrator occasionally, yet she's being strangely stubborn about it. Any ideas/tips?
     
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    Where did you get the toy that you used before?

    And maybe she wants to get the toy herself.
     
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    Well she's stubbornly against masturbation, which is part of the reason why I don't think she wants to use a sex toy...
     
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    Where did you get the toy that you used before?
     
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    Ay hell if I know
    It wasn't a real toy, and I don't really remember what it was
    It was smooth, seamless, silicon, and shaped more like a butt plug than a dildo
    Still, when I used it she enjoyed it, and said she'd think about wanting to try a real one, yet she randomly changed her stance from kind of curious to completely against...
     
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    Frankly, I'm more concerned about her being against masturbation. And her definition of masturbation seems to cover a lot of things. That must be an obstacle in many different parts of your sexual relationship.
     
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    Oh you have no idea
    It stems from her low self esteem, low body image, all that happy stuff
    I figure if I could get her to use the toy, to enjoy the toy, then maybe she'd be able to enjoy the toy on her own, you know?
     
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    I'm kind just coming out of where your wifes at right now. I needed to learn to masturbate first and feel good about myself before involving a sex toy.