I'm a firm believer that how sex is exposed to us in adolescence drives our sexual urges and actions in adulthood. What profound life experiences led to your current turn ons/hang ups? One thing I find amazing is how my female peers were a major influence in how I pursue women, both positively and negatively. Positively, as a result of their strength, I have always respected a woman's autonomy and always sought to achieve mutual pleasure during sex. Negatively, I let their personal issues and social manipulations impress upon me who I would be attracted to. Thus for fear of being branded a traitor, pervert, potential pedophile, closet homosexual, there were certain female demographics I developed aversions to, which I'm just now starting to get over.