Addicted.

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    Heard someone talking about sex addiction yesterday, made me think.....are not we ALL addicted to sex?.....I mean really.

    What greater thing to be addicted to than the form of a woman?..or man...depending on your proclivities. I just don't understand any "negatives" being placed on having an orgasm deep in a hot, wet woman and savoring every fragrant inch of her.

    Just sayin'...heh heh.
     
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    I wholeheartedly agree. When watching TV it occurs to me that strong sexual desire or prowess is usually associated with bad guys (and girls), and viewer preference seems to gravitate more toward violence and killing each other than loving each other. I think being "addicted" as you call it is simply not being inhibited by cultural or religious restraints that are imposed on most of us early in life.
     
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    Yes, it does seem to be a bit backwards in regard to sex/violence.
     
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    An addiction is when a certain behaviour is performed in excess and at the expense of other normal activity ie an out of control situation.
    There may be some people like that if you believe some of the celebrity reports however in most cases I doubt that this is so as physiologically and without chemical enhancements there are pre-set limitations on our body functions.
    There is however a wide spectrum of libidos and what may be normal for one individual could be considered excessive for another but that should not cause the label of addiction to be applied the one with higher needs.
     
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    A good example might be Tiger Woods's affairs, where he ruined his marriage and destroyed his career not so much with sex, but with inappropriate sexual behaviours. On the other hand what is a problem for one is not a problem for another, and there are a huge variety of sexual behaviours that individuals and couples are quite comfortable with that other's would find bizarre or worse.

    I think addiction relates not so much to sex per se, or even the type of sex, but whether or not the sexual behaviour is leading to severely undesirable outcomes, such as losing one's job or livelihood.
     
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    I think what Tiger was addicted to was the ego rocket he was riding. He was on top of the world and could have any woman he wanted. His only problem was that he got married too soon. If he had been single, he probably would have been considered a hero by most guys.
     
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    The basic idea behind sex addiction is the same idea behind every other addiction. That is- you cannot stop yourself. You absolutely must have sex. You can't not have sex. If offered the choice between sex and not sex, your willpower will simply be far too weak to pick the not sex option because the draw of the sex option is simply that overpowering.

    Boy, I sure hope we don't all suffer from that.
     
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    I'm a recovering sex addict myself, so I would agree if it's done in excess. It mainly means you become obsessed with sex and addiction makes life outside of anything sexual difficult.
     
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    An addiction does not mean the behavior is necessarily performed in excess. It does however, mean the person holding the addiction would like it that way. It is most certainly as you said "an out of control situation"

    As with many addiction, it is not always just the simple act of sex that can become addicting. On a more physiological level, the catch, the anticipation, the connect or any other aliments related to sex can also become addiction.
    I know girls who have not had actual sex in years, but are addicted to the pleasure, and the attention is gives them. They will spend 20 hours a day searching for porn, camming, masturbating, phone sex etc. In addition, when you get them alone or in a non-sexual situation, it is all they want or care to talk about.
     
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    I just find it to be a "natural" drive, I think about it 24/7 and am horny ALL the time. It just never seems to go away (save for once in a blue moon). So it being "natural" to me, I can't apply the word addiction to the drive.

    Sometimes I feel it should slow down a bit, but the older I get, the stronger the urge it would seem. Though it has never interfered with any other part of my life, am I "addicted"? or merely "highly sexed"?

    Interesting.
     
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    +1 for that Gummo. I don't know how old you are, but I'm 67 and can tell you that I have sex less often (once a week) than most younger guys, but I've learned to slow things down for both of us, and we enjoy being sexual together for hours and hours every week, and our orgasms are longer and stronger than they ever were when we were younger.
     
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    An addiction is something you would like to stop but can't, and is also causing you damage in some way (financial, relationships and so on). I too have a very high sex drive, although after sex it abates for a day or so. But after two or three days without sex, I spend the entire night having explicit, erotic dreams, and the only way to satisfy things is real sex with a real woman.


    Probably this level of sex drive is unusual for a man my age, but it doesn't do any harm, and my wife enjoys regular sex too, so all is good. No addiction at all.