addicted to porn

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  1. Ice Cold

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    to the point where its somethin i do just to pass time, or cause i got the slightest whim of horniness. I am gettin frustrated cause i cant quit for months at a time, but then i relapse, and i often start lookin at more and more hardcore stuff like gangbangs and what not. im not too happy with my lack of self control, and i want to curb this. does anyone have any tips for me? anyone in the same boat?
     
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    Just do it! Curb your impulses I mean :)

    I am not opposed to a little erotic entertainment, far from it, but it generally feels better when there's a bit less of it. Also, wanting harder and harder stuff can be a bad sign.

    I have had a few days when I started to wonder if I was addicted, but luckily I snapped out of it quickly enough. I have tons of interests, so maybe it's easier to control that way. Any hobbies that can take your mind off sex for a while?

    EDIT: Almost forgot: just spending time with friends is a great way of breaking a habit too.
     
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    Good topic

    I am addicted too.
     
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    Watching porn to pass the time and when you're horny isn't automatically a bad thing. Most porn is harmless and silly. Gangbangs in porn aren't actually believable or anything. I'm sure most people's sexual fantasies get a little unrealistic sometimes too.

    I think it's called an addiction when it actually gets in the way of your responsibilities and daily functioning--in your work, your family life, and so on. It doesn't sound like it's that kind of problem for you. Do you feel that you watch porn instead of going out and socializing, or getting exercise, or spending time on your hobbies, or keeping up with the news?

    If yes, those are some things you might want to work on, though I'm not an expert in telling you how to do that. It would be nice to be able just to say, "Step away from the computer and go for a run, have lunch with a friend, buy a newspaper, crash--er, I mean fly some model airplanes." I'm sure there are other people here who can give you advice on how to take that step.
     
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    are you trying to stop watching porn completely? your profile says you're in a relationship. has this become a problem for it?

    my obvious advice is to find something else to take the place of it. instead of porn, use your imagination to help get you off. get your girlfriend involved somehow, maybe she can make it easier for you. i'm not sure you're asking to curb the sexual thoughts altogether, but if you get horny, have the urge to watch porn, just keep yourself occupied with something else. leave the house, take a drive, whatever.

    not sure how serious this is but good luck to you!
     
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    I am not trying to curb it completely, but there will be times i run late to work cause i spent too much time in the mornin enjoying myself. It doesn't really keep me from my life so much as i dont like how i am enthralled by the more and more hardcore acts, like dps and gagging.

    my gf doesnt know, cause it hasn't come up, i dont feel like it is an issue to the point that we need to have a discussion about it, but i do feel like a functioning porn addict, on my days off ill masturbate or look at porn2-4 times sometimes and i just dont think thats healthy, but i a get a damn near irresistible urge to do so.

    i do have a few hobbies that keep me distracted and excercise does help a lot, but sometimes its that struggle of knowing i need to be doing somethin else and not. i guess i just need to be stronger at the end of the day.
     
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    hmmmm, so you think there's something wrong with enjoying those types of porn? or are they something you actually fantasize about doing but can't and thats why you need to keep watching it?
     
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    Not to put words in other people's mouth, but when you start spending money on people like this guy, then I think it's time to cut down a little bit. :eyes
     
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    I dont think there is anything wrong with consensual sex acts, but I feel I am conditioning myself for freakier and freakier things that I am growing more and more curious about experiencing. years ago I would never want to partake in a gangbang, but now I cant honestly say I would turn it down if I was comfortable with the folks or single.

    I feel as though its too animalistic and I am loosing a part of control over myself by continuously watching that style of sex. I dont think theres anything inherrently wrong with it, but I feel like I am not moderating it well enough.
     
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    I did some googling about porn addiction and it specifically mentioned that (watching more and more extreme porn) as a sign of it. I'll try to find the link and let you read it
     
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    I watch porn about 1-2 a week. For one I'm usually occupied with most my time, 2, I feel like it slightly decreased my sex drive because all the crazy hot stuff I see in porn I can rarely act out in real life soo at times having casual sex with someone without the kinky stuff really gives me some difficulty getting hard. Same goes for porn. I seen just about it all so I it's hard for me to get aroused. Once I'm hard I'm ready to go for anything: pussy, hand jobs, dolls, porn, you name I CAN DO IT!!
     
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    I love porn.....got some stories I can tell.
     
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    I guess I must be safe, I look for less and less extreme and when I can't find two people just intensely enjoying each other's sex I get bored and go find something else to do. :shrug
     
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    I'm the same way - if I don't see genuine interest or excitement, I'm so over it...and in the more "extreme" it all just seems acted out. I've watched a few clips of more extreme stuff out of curiosity alone, but it does nothing for me.