Accidental Tantric Fun, how do i repeat that?

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  1. Godiva

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    I accidentally managed to get my boyfriend in a tantric state, and i'm not sure how i did it.

    I want to re-create this! It was so much fun!

    I basically gave him the best hand job of his life, but this time he was in the "just before orgasm" state for at least 5 minutes (instead of seconds), so that when he came it literally exploded all over the place, and i mean, EVERYWHERE....insane....And the orgasm itself lasted much longer than usual and didn't gradually lessen, it had stronger bursts later on.

    Anyway
    If there's anyone out there who knows tantric can you tell me what i did to get him there so i can do it again?

    The only guesses i have is delaying orgasm (which i do every time), scratching all around the pubic area with my nails lightly (nads, member and hips etc) and an emotional high just before hand (D&M). I decided to use a lubricant right at the end to "speed things up" but it kind of did the opposite in a good way.

    He had a lot of fun :)
     
  2. ninja08hippie

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    :D Tantra is fun.

    The key to it is to get very horny, then deeply relax, and slowly come out of that relaxed state. Was your boyfriend slightly drunk or high? Because usually accidental tantric moments happen then.

    Try this: Give him a long sensual full body massage, gently rub him all over with your hands and mouth, and end up on his penis. That should have made him very horny as well as extremely relaxed. Make sure he lays back and relaxed. Stroke him slowly (use the massage oil as lube), and move around all his erogenous zones. The long slow strokes should bring him back into a tantric state, once you see some precum, or his penis starts to twitch as if he's coming, stop, and gently squeeze the tip of it, and tell him to hold off. He should now be in orgasm, start stroking very slowly after that, maybe a stroke every ten seconds, you should be able to hold him at orgasm for a long time, you can start again faster when you feel him start to soften a little.
     
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    Nice work! Though new to the tantric scene I am super taken by it. If you go to the site youporn.com and enter tantric under the search you'll see some demo videos. The demo videos actually originate from another site called Erosexotica. You can subscribe to this one and the videos seem tasteful and provide a voice over with some instruction. I havent actually subscribed. I totally love to receive a slow tantric massage and to give one to my partner. One thing I find essential is to massage the entire body first them build up slowly. Lots of oil and a soft rolling wave like touches.
     
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    I've had this happen to the boyfriend a few times. It was always with a hand job, and it was always accidental, so I don't know if I have any instructions for you. It happened when my rhythm was just a tiny bit off or interrupted or changed as his orgasm built up. Then he would start an orgasm and ejaculating, but it would feel unfinished for him. It goes on for about two minutes. He's actually ejaculating and groaning and saying "Oh my god" the whole time. I keep giving him the hand job, and then a stronger orgasm and ejaculation finally gives him release. He likes it and I really love it when it happens.
     
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    I have been following a mix of Tantric Practice, MMO and Kudalini for several years. It is not pure any of them but rather is an amalgam of all. Key to it all though is relaxation, erotic imagery, physical arousal, body awareness and control and breathing. Using these tools and others I can launch myself into strings of dry orgasms that last for up to 2 hours. I will have hundreds of orgasmic spasms. When I stop I am horny as hell.

    The first ejaculation after a two hour dry orgasmic session I cum like a fire hose. It scared me the first time I did it.
     
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    ninja- he wasn't drunken or high, but he was very horny...i hadn't have touched him sexually in a whole month because i moved out for a bit, so i guess that contributed. I usually do touch him all over, while giving him the hand job i was scratching and kissin all over his chest and belly. And it was just before bed too, so i guess he was relaxed. I didn't know the combination of horny and relaxation is what did it. I started and stopped a few times too to build him up.
    Oh wow, i don't think i'll be able to quite pull that one off but i could definitely try! All i know is that i was still stroking him quite vividly while he was comming hard for at least 5 whole minutes!

    gracefull- i have seen those videos i am addicted to them but their soundtrack makes me sleepy!

    Meee- Alright! I think its the whole interrupted orgasm that does it... *takes down notes* I freaking loved it!

    lingham- exactly what happened. It shot out like, i swear 8 feet! it was insane! How do you have a dry orgasm? Just useing kegels?
     
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    Godiva: Sorry for the delay responding. Several answers to your questions. Relative to dry orgasms I have learned through anal, rectal, pelvic floor muscle manipulation to stimulate my prostate and separate orgasm from ejaculation. So my orgasms are dry. I can do a hundred orgasmic spasms in a single session.

    As for tantra - as I said above I have a blog off site where I talk about this stuff. My most recent entry is about a quasi tantric technique my wife and I use. You can see the entry at Linghamans Log
     
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    Hmm..This sounds very interesting. Does it usually take much effort to (months of practice) to consistently get into this state?
     
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    Sounds fun
     
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    Yes .... it took me 6 months to master it after I really committed myself to it. I had been dabbling for 2 years before that but not seriously.
     
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    My wife has given me a few good slow hj's that result in a very wonderful climax. Usually the hj is very slow and she rubs my sac every so often. But when she strokes me slowly I get very hard and stay that way for a long time. The other night she kept me on the verge of climax for like 10 min. I was so hard , very relaxed, and breathing very slowly. I could feel my precum dripping on my belly at times. When I finally came it was quite a bit and I even shot a bit out. And I'm never a shooter! This was after we just had sex the night before. Can't imagine if she did this to me and I hadn't gotten off in a few days! Either way her hj's are mind blowing lately. Another attribute to this could be from me restoring my foreskin. I've grown enough skin that it can be stroked over my glans while erect now!
     
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    Search web for 'Tantric massage lingam'. You will find textual and video advice.
    The male root is in the perineum between the scrotum and anus. You draw the power up from there. It starts with a slow all-body massage to get him relaxed; then switch to Tantric massage focused on his lingam. Warm grapeseed oil is a great lube. Keep constant contact with your guy while doing Tantric massage. Combine smooth strokes to the perineum, balls, penis, and groin area. When he is about to cum, turn your attention away from the penis, to thighs, perineum, belly, etc. for a few minutes. Then return attention to lingam. You should be able to do this several times, bringing him to the brink and then letting him down. Each time, it should be building stronger for him. Remember to keep him breathing deeply, in thru the nose, out thru the mouth while squeezing his buttocks together. Also he has to let you know when he is nearing the trigger point, so you can switch tactics. Eventually, you can continue on his lingam until he explodes; and explode he will. I usually allow 45 minutes to 1 hour for the Tantric phase.
    Hope this summary helps, but check out the plethora of info online. I have also found it very helpful to work with a Tantra coach to learn and develop the techniques.
    It is well worth learning.
     
  13. RawDog

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    For what it's worth, when my wife pops my cockhead right into her posterior fornix it's like we're simultaneously transported into some other plane of existence. It sounds like science fiction, but for lack of better terms we're both in a totally deep hypnotic state at that point. I've been researching tantra and it sounds like we're there.