ok. So im with the same girl. She cant get me to cum doing non penetrative methods, and i am rock solid hard and aroused. With everything we have done before, she has told me that if i ask her while we are doing it, she will be likely to say no. When she first touched my penis, i didnt ask her, i just guided my hand to it, and she had her way with it. When i first went down on her, i didnt ask her (well i did once, and she said no.), i just slowly made my way down and licked her clit and fingered her g spot until she soaked my face. She even told me that when we are doing things together, it is usually best to slowly make my way to the things we want to do. I asked her if she would let me go down on her (because she always avoided that and never let anyone do that before), and she said no once before. So obviously with sex she will say no, and has said no when i asked her if it was alright. She also told me that if she wanted to lose her virginity, she would rather do it with a close friend within a casual relationship with mutual understanding as to what each other wants. (which is what we have going on right now, word for word.) So, the next time we get intimate, should i do the usual, strip her down, arouse the crap out of her, clitoral stimulation, give her my cock in her mouth for a bit, tease, then slip on a condom and slowly make my way to that. And if she is inviting and doesn't say no, i penetrate?