[Ask a Guy] A question for both men and women about oral sex

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  1. Black_Magic83

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    Are there men out there who do not like going down on women?

    Why?

    Are there women out there who are with men who don't do it?
     
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    My man doesn't do it, but its because I wont let him. I've never in all my years been able to relax my mind enough to just enjoy it and get the o. It could take hours. No point in trying. Its all my fault, if a woman can't let go in her mind, she can't o. Just my experience.
     
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    It takes me some time to get an orgasm from oral too.. about 20 or so minutes, but that is the only way I can reach orgasm
     
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    I agree about the 'not letting go'
     
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    I love it but one of my friends doesnt do it at all. He says he doesnt get anything out of it so he doesnt do it. How stingy is that. Alot of women love there cooch licked.

    She, you dont 'have' to have the O, just enjoy the feeling of a wet warm toungue rubbing your clit
     
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    I could for days. I love it
     
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    I disagree. My wife used to resist due to guilt and shame taught to her as a child, but I persisted and would make her cum after sometimes an hour or so of licking, not just for her, but because it felt good for me too. After she dropped the baggage, I now find myself having to hold her back a little with some teasing, so she doesn't cum too quickly.

    Try some wine or whatever helps you to relax, and think of a sunset, or whatever or where ever you love to be, and have your SO lick you. Just focus on enjoying the feeling, and one time, when you least expect it, you will fall into the chasm of pleasure. The trick is not to try to make it happen, just let it happen.
     
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    I certainly don't mind going down on a woman. I fantasize more about this than getting a blowjob.
     
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    Hey folks...been awhile since I've visited!

    I agree with Trond...I enjoy going down on a hot lady more than getting a blow job from her (although a BJ certainly is nice too).

    And She...I also agree with PBS...just relax, enjoy it, and LET an orgasm happen if it does. You are missing SO much by not enjoying this...a lot of women would practically kill for someone who is good at kissin' the hooch.

    Cheers,
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    Ever since I discovered that this was common practice I always wanted to go down on my wife. But she never let me until about 40 years into our marriage. The odd thing about it is that when she did enjoy it, she was beyond the capability to have an orgasm any longer, no matter what the stimulation was. Then all sex of any kind stopped altogether.
     
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    I'm with Trond. If i HAD to choose, it would be to give, not receive.
    Shame on you men who don't like it.
     
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    Sounds to me like she's got some kind of inhibition, probably due to a religious
    teaching. She's enjoyed sex, so now she's going to Hell, or something like that. My wife was similarly infected as a child, and there is a cure - professional counseling.
     
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    I enjoy doing this very much as I think it's one of the most intimate things a woman can give to a man. My wife was like you, and at the time I put it down to religious stigma. Later I discovered that Africans have a taboo about oral sex, and she's from Africa. I did encourage her to let go for me and she did, and now she's relaxed with oral sex she usually orgasms very, very quickly.

    To make oral sex more comfortable for her, she is waxed and we always shower before sex.
     
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    yea, i love going down on my girl. she told me at first she was worried about how it would taste or smell. so it took some time, but now its become a staple of our foreplay.
     
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    Thanks for the advice- I will try it again soon. I have orgasmed once from it- when I was 17- but never since. I think it's totally a self esteem issue. I admit I have faked it after he's been down there trying for 20 minutes. I felt bad for him. I taste sweet- I know it's good- I like it myself- but I just can't let go- I will try!!
     
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    Before I met my wife, I was never that into it. I wasn't with a lot of women, one girl in high school I would say I never tried because I didn't know what I was doing, a later longer term relationship was one where she didn't want it. That's all there was to it at the time. In retrospect, I don't think I've been with anyone who took as care of their hygiene down there as my wife.

    Before my wife, I thought I was able to get somewhere with my fingers. Once I was routinely giving my wife orgasms through oral I think I really knew that I really hadn't known what I was doing before, and that I didn't really know that I didn't know what I was doing.

    I do want to emphasize, orgasm comes from they journey not jumping to the destination. Do oral because the journey is enjoyable, k?
     
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    I love getting licked by a male and it feels great to have my orgasm/cum on his face...I don't want to give any BJ...neither want to get his cum in my face nor inside my mouth. Its good that my present male partner just wants the reverse (he wants me to cum inside his mouth and never asked for a BJ) :) so ...a perfect match till now
     
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    My wife won't let me go down on her either.She never has every since we been together.She says that she didn't want me to,because it's so gross down there.I have even told her how I love her scent there and how much it turns me on,but she still won't let me.I remember a couple times we started making love and had started with foreplay and as things started getting real heated up,I starting to go down on her and she stopped me and told me that if I tried doing that again,that she will get up and there would be no sex.

    Cutegirl,
    I love being a good boy and licking a woman's pussy like she wants me to and wants gets me turned on the most about it is what you said,having a woman straddled over my face making me lick her pussy until she has cum several times in my mouth and making me swallow all of it.There are times when I have fantsies about women I don't even know walks up to me,telling me to follow them and then when we get to where she is taking me,she makes me take off her panties before making me ly down.Then after I have done that,she straddles my face and squats,then makes me lick her pussy.Everytime I have those fantsies like that,sometimes I be wishing that some day it would come true.
     
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    Early in our sexual relationship I saw it more as a "quid pro quo" - since my wife was given me oral I figured I should give her oral, but to be honest I didn't focus on it.

    As our relationship grew and we opened up more to each other, I started learning how much she liked oral - and how afraid she was to let me know, because she thought I would think of her as too "demanding" or "perverted" (e.g. after intercourse she would still have a "buzz" and want oral for more orgasms, but would sneak off to the bathroom and masturbate).

    Once I learned how much she wanted it, I really began focusing on trying to please her - and I really began liking to pleasure her like that. Now I love giving her oral on a daily basis. Now we "argue" over who wants to give the other oral sex more. Her new "complaint" now is that I "scramble" her brain and she can't focus on things besides sex when I give her "too much". Picky, picky, picky... :D
     
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    This is a very interesting question. My current wife which I met when she was about 24 had never had her pussy licked by her previous lovers and she had never sucked cock before so when we got together she must of really freaked out when I started licking her pussy and rimming her ass. She is Eastern European and oral sex is associated prostitution so its a big no no. She gave me her first blow job and she is very good at it and loves doing it, which of course I am very happy about. I have also discussed this with my friends here in the UK and women here find that black men dont like going down on a women which I thought was strange. The amount of porn I have watched from the states, my take over there is that black men dont feel the same way.