My wife and I recently started using toys again. This time I'm interested in learning to use them properly. The toys we've gotten though all have drawbacks. What I've found is that I need something that bends into her vagina so that it doesn't cause her discomfort, and doesn't rub on my eye while giving her oral. It either needs to be curved or softish. Curved can be a problem since we like realistic toys and the list narrows quickly when you start taking size into consideration as well. Also, we are going to get silicon next time for safety reasons. Does anyone know how bendable silicon is? Just buying a toy and testing it is kind of expensive in the long run. Or, does anyone know of a place that rates the toys by softness? Several stores would be best actually.