As I was shovelling horse poop just now my mind was working overtime on how to word this post. I don't know if I got it right, but here goes.... I have stated before that I have come to SF to learn and to try to help my marriage. I have learned a lot coming here, and I'm trying hard to apply some of what I have learned to help my foundering marriage. The thing is, I don't know if it's too late or not, only time will tell. I didn't come here looking to find love, but I have found it in my new friends here. The love I talk about is not romantic love, but love of friends, and being able to share some of what I have to offer and taking in what others say to me. I really cherish all of the support and caring that has been shown to me. I have also found, since I've been here, someone I can share all of my secrets, fantasies and worries with, and he is very special to me, and I love him, perhaps more deeply than I should, but I can't help it. It's just how I am, when I give my heart, I give it without question, without restraint. Foolish? You bet, but that doesn't change how I feel. Another thing I have found here, is something that hurts me. I have seen my friends being attacked for their beliefs, for sharing what they have done sexually, and for trying to help other people. The pain I feel for them is real and profound, and I wish I knew how I could stop the slamming they take and bear the brunt of it for them, but I can't. All I can do is to beg some of you to try to be kind, to be open minded, and to try to put yourself in their shoes before you post something hurtful. Can't we just all try to be compassionate to one another? Can we just think good and hard what our words will do to another person before we post them? I know this is the internet and people can put on a facade and be who they want to be, real or not, but we all are human beings, we all feel, don't we? I do not find that I am blameless, I have faults and I know I have said things here that were not too kind, but recent events have made me stop and take a look at what I am saying, and I will try to be kinder, more compassionate, and more caring for everyone here. Please everyone, please let us just be here for one another and try not to judge. Please.