A little help from the bi/gay side of things?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by laroseguy08, May 26, 2008.

  1. laroseguy08

    laroseguy08 New Member

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    My gf and i are both bi but when we go out she always does all the talking. ive never been the on to initiate anything with the guys. i guess im a little on the shy side when it comess to that. everything always works out for us but on seeveral occasions she tels me how she would love to sit back and watch as i do the talking.

    My question is how wuld i present myself so that it is known i swing both ways. she wants to see guys hit on me and the flirting between us. im more than willing to give her this im just a little on the nervous side with it.


    Also if i were to do the chasing.... how does one tell if another man is willing. what signs would i look for in guys to know they would be willing to swing a little or maybe a lot to the other side? :D

    im not looking for relationships.... thats what my gf is for. this is completely about sex.
     
  2. yorkiesmurf

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    You pose an interesting question and I will do my best to give you my opinion. I would suspect you would need to be careful as to where you did the chasing in order to prevent someone overreacting to your advancements. You say that your gf and you go out. However you do not say where you go.

    My suggestion in this case would be to try an online ad being specific about your needs (e.g. what type of m-m activity you were wanting), be clear that you are looking for a bisexual male for a mfm and be clear that you are looking for an experience bisexual male not someone who is bi-curious. I would guess your response rate would be less that if you were looking for a male who was heterosexual but I do feel you will be pleasantly surpreised by the number of responses that you do get. As with any online ad you would need to weed out the jerks, meet them in public with your gf, and make sure the two of you planned for your safety.

    Another suggestion I would make is to try a bisexual or gay club as any advancement you made should be understood. Also my recommendation would include to be clear that you are looking for mfm threesome in which there was m-m contact and not a relationship with them. Swingers club might be another option provided m-m is not discouraged at the club and you have seen m-m contact happen there.

    You also asked about the best way to present yourself the best way is to be honest about what the two of you are wanting and be clear that you are not wanting a realtionship. If they say no then at least you tried.

    In regard for a sign that they might be interested there are no universal signs. Probably the best way for a sign of interest is to introduce what the two of you are wanting right away and if they stick around it is a pretty good sign that they are interested.
     
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    I've gotten the feeling that m-m contact isn't as common in swingers clubs. how do you know if the guy is bi?
     
  4. ninja08hippie

    ninja08hippie Official SF Hugger
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    I agree, you might want to try a gay bar instead.
     
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    Really good advice!!! I have been to about a dozen gay clubs/bars with friends and you could definitely work some places like that for what you want.(much better than a swinger joint anyway, IMO)
     
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    Stats prove that with men, they usually end up going one way or the other.