I know there are several members here that have extensive knowledge with regards to swing clubs, so I hope some can chime in. Here's a little background: My wife and I dabble in a little BDSM, are both relatively kinky, and have visited a few BDSM clubs. What we found there was interesting, but not really what we're looking for. Now we are also very open with each other regarding our fantasies, one little thing weve discussed over the last few years is that the thought of having sex in front of others and seeing others engaged like wise, is not only a turn on to think about but something we feel could be taken out of fantasy. There were a couple of problems with the BDSM clubs in that one, outright sex is often prohibited excepting on rare/special occasions; two absolutely no alcohol is allowed. I understand the alcohol issue with BDSM clubs as many acts involve a high level of skill, but we'd like to have a drink to loosen up a bit. In any case, I'm researching a few places within driving distance of our home and am thinking about us checking out a well reviewed club that holds a couples only and single female night. No single men on this night. My only worry is that even though we both harbor & share fantasies of being with others I don't think we are truly at that point yet and may never be. So, is it fine to go with that in mind? That we would be there to see and be seen playing together? Or would a couple be looked down upon by the regular patrons for not being open? I'd much rather go in with safe and secure limits between us to wet our toes than to just jump in head first at this point. And this may be a silly question, but if we are together and only having intercourse with each other, am I going to be expected to wear a condom? Any other advice for someone thinking of visiting a club for the first time would be appreciated. The club I'm leaning towards is Trapeze in Atlanta, BTW. So, if anyone has experience there please chime in as well.