Hey everyone. I'm having a hard time with my best friend right now, and I really would love some insight from my awesome SF buddies. So, here's the deal. I've been friends with my best friend since middle school. She's a great person, and I love her very much. However, for the past couple of years (since I've been in college) my best friend has really become something of a 'downer'. She's gained a little weight, as have I, and it's true that her life is not the easiest. However, it seems that no matter how I try to suggest positive alternatives to the dark pictures that she's painted for her life, in her opinion, it will never change. I feel that some of this has to do with the fact that I went away to a private school, and she hasn't gone to college at all, and for the past two years has taken every shit job that's been thrown her way. She seems to think that she has no other choice, and refuses to take responsibility for the things that happen to her. For example, she just got fired from a job because of absences. In her mind though, she was a victim, because it "wasn't her fault" that she missed. And when I have a problem, I'm afraid to bring it up to her, because it almost always turns into her telling me how ten million things in her life are so much worse than my small and insignificant problem. In addition to that, I've started adopting a healthier, more disciplined lifestyle, and this seems to intimidate her. I'm apparently "not the same as I used to be".....And, I get the feeling she doesn't approve of me getting married. When I told her the happy news, she was a bit rude about the whole thing. I just don't know what to do. I want to remain friends with her, but I don't know if I can bear being around her, as much of a negative person as she's become. I love my friend so much, and I feel terrible about feeling this way about her. I wish I could help her.... And, I don't mind listening to her problems, and I want her to be happy, but I feel I may have outgrown her, or something. She's a magnificent person, and I really don't want to throw away my best friend. I don't want to disassociate myself from her, but lately, I've been avoiding her....Any suggestions? Thanks, guys.