a guy trying to solve girl problems! HELP!

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  1. dildoofdeath

    dildoofdeath New Member

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    Hello ppl, i need ur help desperatly. As u may c on the name of the theme that it's a my girl's problem, which makes it mine, fkorz. Anyways im a 21 year old student, who is currently dating a year older (also student) girl. On the outside we're a totally normal couple, i would even dare to say that we look pretty nice together. I had some longer relationships before of a 1.5year and two of them of 6 months + a lot of schemes and one night stands. On the other hand my girl had only 2 guyz before me but both were long relationships of 4 and 1 year(s). The problem is she had never had an orgasm in an intercourse with either one of us... The tragedy is that i (honestly) have a really nice piece of equipment (let's just say that easy on durex – AINT easy at all)and fantastic stamina. I was really disappointed when i asked her have i made her cum on the first time we engaged sexually and she said “no”. Then she xpl the situation. She has no problem to reach orgasm while masturbating but if a guy does the same thing (using hands, tongue or whateva) it pleases her till she feels it coming and then she starts thinking of how she wants it to happen so badly that it just freezes her and the exitment disappears (girl is not stupid, shes a top student on mathemathics college, few more exams to go). As for the atmosphere we create – sade in the cd player – candlelight – extreme comfort. We are together just over 3 weeks but we get along real nice, she said she had never been so happy. I write songs in free time so i wrote her few and she liked em alot... I tried to recite them to her while we are engaged and it really helps her to hear my voice so she cant think of those problems she has. But still we only got so close, and nothing happened. She said it was the best sex she ever had but that aint it. (Intercourse lasted over and hour and im free to say that a rhino would cum as opposed to a girl:)) Physically she is okay in every way, maybe slightly overweighted, nothing to be concerned of. Down there she moists (dunno if that said that way :p) absolutley normal... And yeah, she is ashamed (or something) so she wont masturbate in front of me, but she promised that she will try in the next couple of times...

    Ppl i ask of you for any advice, tutorial, medical chart or whateva that can help me in any way. I care for this girl and i want to make her happy in every way. Just plz don't say there is no hope.
    If u need more info just ask here!
    And yeah, sorry about any grammar and/or syntax errors i made, and take care!
    Sincerely ur Dildo0fDeath :)
     
  2. bighiker2003

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    You have a real problem that may be hard for us to answer
    with a little more background.
    Do you use a lot of oral, if not try a lot of quality oral on her
    now don't go out and buy some porn movies to find out how to do it
    just read all the threads here.
    Also you mentioned 1 hour of fucking, That's way to much
    to be enjoyable to her or you for that matter, Maybe your trying
    too hard,
    Try to concentrate on just enjoying each others company
    more and let the sex happen when you are both ready.:sf
     
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    Big male equipment doesn't mean an automatic orgasm for ladies, you need to find the spot and the G spot isn't too far inside.
    Google 'G spot' and check it out.
    Most men and many women concentrate on the clitoris, but a G spot orgasm is usually deeper.
    It was years before I knew it even existed, must have been kept secret!
     
  4. Clark

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    I disagree with Elvis.

    If she reaches orgasm in masturbation, but not in intercourse, it sounds to me as if you've got a "external stimulation" woman on your hands. This would explain why your penetration doesn't get her off (regardless of what equipment you have, how long you last, etc.).

    Frequently, with women like this, the only way they'll get off is by having their clit worked properly (and by "properly", I mean "in a way that she likes").

    There are two ways you can accomplish this:

    1) Learn how to work her clit properly. Sheesh.. I really need to get around to writing my "how to eat pussy" tutorial. My wife is an "external" and I have an excellent method for eating pussy in a way that can make her cum. ... anyway.... the only way you'll learn is if you get her to communicate to you what she likes and what she doesn't like.

    2) Get her to work her clit. During intercourse, she can work her clit and bring herself to orgasm.

    Now, you may ask, "How can I get her to do these things?"

    simple...

    a) To get her to work her clit...
    Before sex, get some lube and apply some to your dick in a normal way. Stroke your dick, and while you're doing so, say to her, "Tell ya what... while I'm lubing up, how about if you work your clit and heat things up a little?". See, she's probably a little shy about working her clit in front of you, but if she sees you working your dick, it kinda breaks down the inhibitions and opens things up.

    a) To get her to communicate to you how to eat her out....
    During the next two or three times during sex, while you're screwing, tell her how great it feels, tell her what you like, get a talky. Then tell her you want to do all you can to make it better for her and that you want her to talk you through eating het pussy. Tell her that hearing her say things like that would be a big turn-on for you and it would help her get off.

    All of the above are also exercises to open communication channels between you two.

    And.... it's really fucking difficult to read your l33t speak. I suggest that you save that for your cellphone text messaging and type out posts here like at civilized, mature adult. I think that you'll find that people will have greater respect for you if you do.
     
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    (sorry I don't have any additional advice that would be helpful....I just wanted to mention that I think "Dildo of Death" is an incredible member name. :) )
     
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    Disagree all you like Clark, I gather you haven't found the G spot either?

    Women shouldn't have time or the need to play with themselves before sex, they should be too busy working on us while we do the job for them?

    Unless you're taking the easy route?
     
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    ok ill try to lay off l33t speak. sorry, its under my skin. anyways im not an adult :) just 21...(kidding, kidding) ok, i said i had girls before and had no problem pleasing them. i sure do know what is g spot, clit... oral... even anal masturbation... i have done those things numerous times before and it worked out well.
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    now im trying to get her to feel confortable enough around me so she can masturbate without me interfering. i think that even that would be a great progress since she has NEVER had an any kind of orgasm in front of anyone...
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    about 1h too much thing... we talked about it and if shes not lying (she isnt) she really enjoys it all the way as i take it really slow at the beggining and adjust to her needs. im not an animal for Gods sake. i didnt mean to say that i was killing her for an hour.
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    ok all of YOU (u):) didnt understand me too well i guess... i need to get inside her mind and help her from that side... because as i said physically were both okay.
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    okay, thanks to everyone who posted and keep it coming... every suggestion is welcome. sorry again for leet speak.
     
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    Clark said:
    Clark if you have normal intercourse their is no need for her to
    manually stimulate her clitoris as it very well positioned to be stimulated
    with every thrust in most sexual positions, also I for one like to hit bottom
    and sort of squirm around for a few seconds while my mons is fully
    against her clitoris.
    However if you get your sex ed from porn they have to have a camera
    angle that fully shows Him going in Her, But thats not the way we
    do it in real life. I like to be close to a Girl, belly to belly so to speak.
    with a lot of grinding that stimulates.
    Of course if you only want Doggy style it would be advisable to manually
    stimulate Her.:sf
     
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    """""I like to be close to a Girl, belly to belly so to speak.
    with a lot of grinding that stimulates""""".

    Oooh how adorable is that?

    You sound very very sensual Mr Big....:)
     
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    You aren't a woman, and I don't think you know what you are talking about. Different strokes for different folks, and some need and like to play with themselves before. Nothing wrong with that, as it really gets you the same result. Some do, some don't, but I don't think you should classify all women as one entity. Especially, if you aren't a woman, and it isn't your body.
     
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    First of all,you said she is a little overweight.That for some women can be very distracting.Maybe she is thinking and wondering how you see her.
    As others have said,just take it slow and let her know how much you care for her as a person and not just for sex.Forget all the other girls you have had sex with because all girls are different .We each like different things.Find out what it is she likes and go with it.
     
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    I've had sex with 5 different women in my life. With the first four I never had any problems bringing them to orgasm during intercourse. But then I met my wife. Wow - she has a really stubborn orgasm. Penetration just isn't enough to get her to cum. Don't get me wrong - she enjoys it. But she needs clitoral stimulation to get off.

    This really threw me for a loop. I just wasn't used to it being like this. I tried everything I could think of, and nothing worked. But ya know what? Why fight it? What she likes best is for me to penetrate her while she works her clit. And that's just fine with me!

    My point is that women are different. Dreama is right. Elvis and bighiker2003, you guys may not have run into women with the stubborn orgasm, but let me tell ya...they're out there! I thought just like you guys. I was thinking, "I must be doing something wrong!" But what I was doing wrong was trying to make my wife fit into the expectations that I had built based on other women. Bad idea.
     
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    Clark,
    You are being dogmatic here. Your wife is normal, many women can't orgasm or rarely orgasm through intercourse. I can get my wife to orgasm through clitoral stimulation during oral on her, but I get her to a bigger orgasm through combined oral clitoral and g-spot stimulation. Then we have intercourse. There is more to a woman's satisfaction than her clitoris. Elvis is right, find a woman's g-spot, it works!

    On the other hand, there have been a few dozen times when she has come through intercourse, so she is hard but not impossible. I do it the way Bighiker recommends, stomach to stomach, grinding on each thrust. Some times it works, most times it doesn't, she's just like that.
     
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    just relax
     
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