Hey everyone (long time no see) Was watching this movie called "Secretary" with James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal and it was surprising to me how hot I found it to be. Has anyone seen it? It was basically about how this lawyer hired a secretary and gradually got her to be his submissive "servant" (kind of). My husband and I have sometimes touched on this subject but we don't really know how to approach it - he says he doesn't mind both roles (submissive or dominant) but I know he's more submissive than dominant in nature. But the thing is.... and what this movie made me realize, is that I don't want the "game" itself to be too planned you know? I don't know how to explain myself and what I want... so I don't say anything and that drives him kind of crazy (understandably) :ugh I don't want to be humiliated, I don't really like to be forced but at the same time I fantasize about his soft voice/calm demeanor (like James Spader) controlling me.... and it feels, almost wrong. Anyway.... if anyone has seen the movie and/or knows what I'm talking about please help me verbalize this stuff?