a few questions

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  1. DMBfan

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    im sure im gunna get flamed but i jsut have a few questions i want to know that i havnt found on the internet and would appreciate the help.

    1. Ive never had sex before n always hear how the woman should have multiple orgasms before the guy finishes. Im afraid i wont even last long enough to give her one. Are there any teqniques to give the woman a few orgasms before you finish.

    2. I know you cant really put a time on sex but on average how long does it take a man and a woman to orgasm

    thanks alot in advance
     
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    As much as you're going to hate this answer, it totally depends on the people. I can make myself orgasm pretty quickly sometimes, but other times it takes awhile. Same when it's my boy doing it for me. I'm lucky; I get off from intercourse alone, but many girls do not. I've never brought another girl to orgasm, but I'm going to assume it's a something you'll have to experiment with to get it right for each girl. I wouldn't worry too much about performance yet though-tell the girl you're not that experienced and she'll understand. Maybe you'll be lucky and she'll want to teach you a few tricks. :) The only thing I can say about sex is enjoy it! Learn a little more each time you do it and don't worry about "mistakes." Mine just seems to keep getting better and better each time I do it!
     
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    I've had sex literally thousands of times, with lots of different partners and some of those times and some of those partners have had orgasms from intercourse. Not many, not often, but a few.

    The technique to bring satisfaction to your partner is to learn the skills of oral sex! Any man can do it, there's lots of information here on the Internet. With oral sex skills and practice, you can give your partner a nice big orgasm, or as many orgasms as she can handle, before you move onto intercourse.

    That way you're both satisfied.

    On average, a single man with continual thrusting intercourse will come between 3 to 7 minutes. A married man in the same situation, about 5 to 10 minutes, maybe a little longer. Female orgasms are way different, I've brought some partners to orgasm in a couple of minutes, others it has taken half an hour. Ah, but what a lovely place to be for half an hour! And the thing with the half-hour girls is when they come, it is a big one! Typically, my experience is about 3 to 7 minutes of oral gets most women to their first orgasm.

    Some women can go to second orgasm straight away, some are too sensitive and you have to wait a bit before restarting, some are even more sensitive so they cannot orgasm again during your time together.

    Every man and woman is different, so the best thing to do is to read and study as much as you can, and keep the communication going with your partners to be. Ask them to help you to pleasure them, ask them to show you where you should rub them and how hard. Partner satisfaction is a two-way street, you can't do it on your own.
     
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    I'd really love to know on what you base your timing statistics Cbrmale?
    Have you asked a lot of your friends or did you do a survey in town?

    Few males can successfully make a woman orgasm easily with their mouth, remember what mum said, fingers came first, LOL. Damn, that tongue gets tired trying!

    Some of us males can/could fuck for hours, single or married, with the right woman. I'd practice some of the old techniqes if I were you.
     
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    I would stop believing what you read as well

    There is such a lot of bullshit out there pertaining to sex....

    We aint SUPPOSED to do anything.....we are all different...

    I know one woman who was very horny and yet she never had an orgasm in her life...

    She just didnt have the ability to let go....i felt sorry for her cos when we used to get together for a chat, she always felt "left out" poor bugger :(

    Just relax and dont try too hard

    And basically stats are a load of old cobblers at times and put tooo much pressure on peope, especially men, young men.
     
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    The first stat was the Kinsey survey of the late 1940s which put intercourse at 2 to 3 minutes, but that is well out of date. Men's health did a survey of 7,500 couples complete with stopwatches in 1988 at got a single spread of numbers which was 3 to 7 minutes. A Canadian survey of 1994, again with stopwatches, gave two spreads, 3 to 7 minutes for single men and 6 to 11 minutes for married men. The Durex survey didn't give intercourse durations, but out of literally hundreds of thousands of responses, you can extrapolate intercourse time by deducting total foreplay from total sex time, and you get, about 7 minutes. And I saw a thesis based on around 1,500 British couples with stopwatches which gave a raw mean of 7.2 minutes (standard deviation 6 which means 1 to 12 minutes).

    The three self-timed stopwatch surveys are both statisically sound, and very consistent in timing. To back this up, I did some website work for an escort in town, and we were talking sex (as you do with a prostitute), and she said she had mostly married clients, and they mostly lasted about ten minutes, give or take. The single guys are usually quicker. Personal experience, she has sex with three or four men a day, five or six days a week, 45 or so weeks a year, and she has been working for several years (6,000-7,000 in her personal experience).

    Now I didn't say how long I take, but I do want the young man in question not to feel pressured, which is why I prefer to take the statistics of many, many, many thousands of couples to give him some sort of baseline.

    As for oral, you are quite correct, I learned my oral skills by getting someone to show me how she masturbated, and then imitating her with my fingers a couple of times, before moving onto oral. I should have posted this (yet again), but I didn't want to write a book.

    Oral is a very intimate act for both parties, and it is something that men should learn and master. Fingers do come first, and fingering a woman to orgasm while cradling her head and kissing her at the same time is just as intimate as going down on her, perhaps more so. It is still something I sometimes do with my wife these days, even though I have my oral and g-spot skills down to a fine art.
     
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    Elvis said
    I have had my share of women and I will tell you
    That the easiest way to make a Woman cum is
    by using ORAL, And I don't know you got that from Elvis
    as I have never seen a Woman that couldn't cum
    from oral done right.

    Hiker:sf
     
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    Internet is a great place for information but it is not a substitute for experience. The questions you ask is very dependent on your and your partner. Other factors such as nerves, stress, tiredness, and other factors greatly impact a person's ability to achieve orgasm. So coming up with a statistical summary that states average and standard deviation to achieve orgasm is not practical. Instead I would look to the experience and not the time factor. In regards to your multiple orgasm question not all women can or will achieve them every time. Allot of woman your age still are trying to figure out how to achieve their first orgasm and I would not use it as a milestone to how good you are. Finding information on the G spot may be a start. However finding it and getting it to work does take a bit of practice.

    My best advice to you is enjoy the experience and do not look to milestones to determine how great a lover you are. The best way to do that is look inside and see how happy you make your partner. If you have a happy partner then you are doing everything right.
     
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    Orgasm means "the climax of the sexual action" how long it can be depends on your control only. Use foreplay before love making. During the love making dont focus your mind to sexual thinking. Keep love making as long as want.
     
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    I must agree with the other post, I have been married a long time and one thing I have learned is so true, fingers first! I start with middle finger rubbing ever so slightly up and down touching the clit almost in a teasing way. You will feel the clit start to swell up and mouning will start, move on to the next step inserting into the virgina only to get your finger wet and start going back and forth, clit into virgina, and of course while all this is going on rotate your tong around her nipples but not touching the actual nipple. This drives them nuts! When you feel the clit totally swelled up, consentrate on the clit (be gentle). From there go for it and start sucking on her nipples! This starts her screaming, COME INSIDE ME! There you go, in 2-3 min. it's all over, ha. Let her come first is very important or she will want more. That is a good start with the finger fuck. Good luck
     
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    I gather you base your stats on your own performance, so congrats for being a great licker!:bow

    I base mine on a lot of information received over the years from friends and aquaintances in the swinger world, some hooker friends and even my own brother, LOL.

    I have also known 2 women who never had an orgasm during sex or cunnilingus and had to masturbate!

    Believe me, there are millions of different stories out there!!
     
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    """"Let her come first is very important or she will want more"""

    Oh heaven forbid she should want MORE......

    Oh dear me...!!!!

    MORE MORE MORE MORE MORE MORE

    Please!
     
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    Your just to funny sexyscorp! P.S. I love that song by Billy Idol > More More More!!!!!!!!
     
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    ....and you are even funnier.....

    ha ha !
     
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    If I were you, I wouldn't worry about it. Incorporating oral and usage of toys/hands should keep you and your partner plenty happy. Also, ask questions about what feels good. You'll learn a lot like that.
     
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    An a little idea from em....foreplay most defenetly lol, love making , and then afterplay ( that afterplay can reallly get some fantastic results )
     
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    You are falling under my spell sexyscorp, I love you to. Kiss kiss
     
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    You need to be careful. What they don't teach you in school is that the vagina has a lining of serrated inner teeth just inside the labia. Normally, these are covered by the fleshy walls of the inner vagina; however, if the vagina isn't sufficiently lubricated or the penis is too large for the vagina, the teeth can cause tearing on the man's penis (this is the origin of the term "bite me").






    ...




    (just messin' with ya)
     
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    I once saw this picture of a woman with some sharp teeth dentures in her labia! Ha, ha!

    Seriously, the first time I had sex, I thought that I was supposed to make my girlfriend cum just from penetration and fucking her and darn near gave myself a heart attack, I was working so hard and trying to think of other things so that I wouldn't cum too soon! When my wife and I got together, I learned that she really needed my finger after penetration or before it to make her cum and then I discovered the wonder, the joy of oral sex!!! Yep, lick that clit!!
     
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    I'm just always thankful for having had a good teacher as my first sexual partner!
     
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