Found the site recently and decided to sign up after reading so much useful advice. Here's my issue: It has nothing to do with sex, but a relationship with a girl I have. I met her about 6 months ago in a class I'm taking and we hit off pretty quickly. Since I sat next to her, I asked if she wanted to go to Starbucks after class and hang out. The intention was to see if she was interesting outside of class (she has a mind and an opinion on most everything, so it's fun to debate/chat with her with) We ended up spending 2 hours just talking and would've stayed longer except she had an extracurricular activity, I believe it was a vocal class or something along those lines. I planned on asking her out, only to find out she has a boyfriend -- that killed me. It turns out we actually have some mutual friends and I actually spoke to them about her before finding out about the b/f, etc. I still hang out with her quite frequently and there are practically no secrets between us, it's really weird. Like having a best friend that is a girl... but a lot of people (the mutual friends and my friends) believe that I'm biding my time waiting for her to dump the boyfriend and make my move -- since I was originally planning on asking her out. I really enjoy being friends with her and all, but it's bothering me -- we were chatting one day about marriage and all that (there was a wedding outside of the place we were walking by, she actually started crying when she saw how beautiful the bride was in her dress) and I mentioned her b/f and them going forever. She gave me a look and said that he was *definitely* not the one. That totally messed with my mind... Her comments of me have been: I'm the 'smartest' person she knows, and I'm not bad looking (I asked her frankly once whether I was 'hot' at all and she said I was...damn this is weird) Basically I'm asking -- is it proper to still be wanting to be more than I am, or what... This has been gnawing at me all summer and I have no idea whether I'm a sadistic bastard or an average human being. Advice? and thanks in advance.