8 weeks prego and not getting horny :/

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  1. Emily88

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    Hi there so I haven't been in the mood at all but my bf has. A high sex drive ! He says he never dated a girl that didn't have sex everyday so that makes me feel more depressed. I want it more like normal people but now being prego I don't want it :(. I hate feeling like this. When I was single I was horny all the time. Idk wat to do , is there anything I can do to make myself horny or take ? Lol I hope in a few weeks I'll feel better, I just wanna give it up so I can please him
     
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    When my wife found out she was pregnant first 3 months low sex drive but after that she was horny all the time. It will pick up trust me
     
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    First trimester is not the horney time of pregnancy, and being pressured isnt gonna get you in the mood either. Give him the lotion and a magazine if you arent horney
     
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    He sounds like an ass.
     
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    If my memory is correct, I was sick the entire first trimester. I didn't want anything to do with sex then. Once I was into the second and third trimesters, I wanted sex all the time. Your hormones are all wacked out right now. I wouldn't worry about it your sex drive right now. Maybe the boyfriend needs some advice, like maybe to be a little more supportive of you and the baby...? You need to take care of yourself and baby, don't worry so much about sex. Things will change when you least expect it.

    Not ALL women want sex every day...just sayin'.
     
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    I found wife in 2nd trimester wanting it all time but the odd week she wouldn't and I couldn't do anything right for that week do just had to be supportive and run to shops at 2 in morning when she was craving food. Thing fella needs to chill out and enjoy you being pregnant and be supportive
     
  7. Mira

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    I don't have much to add other than don't feel pressure just because he wants it, that's what masturbation is for. Also don't take anything without consulting your doctor.

    If you want sex but can't get in the mood, maybe try watching porn together or doing something or going somewhere that turns YOU on (dancing, strip club, romantic dinner, etc )
     
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    He kinda does........jeez, you're carrying his child for him. A little understanding would be nice...:ugh
     
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    I have a different take on this. One of the things marriage counsellors recommend is to say yes even if you're not in the mood, and this applies to men as well as women, but generally to women. If you don't then it shows you don't understand men, who subconsciously equate sex with love. Putting it simply: if she loves me she will have sex with me / she just had sex with me so therefore she loves me. This is usually the way men think even if they don't express it in blatant terms. So disregard him at your peril, and disregard him long enough and the damage will take a long, long time to heal, if it ever does. I have spoken to men who were having this problem with their wives and you would be surprised how deep the hurt cuts, and how deep the resentment and anger is too.

    Masturbation is no substitute for a partner. It has none of the sensory inputs of touch, taste, smell and sound. It's empty and soul-less.

    I have never had this problem myself. My wife is generally horny but doesn't mind sharing even if she's not in the mood. This is why those frustrated men confided in me because they sensed my satisfaction. They wanted to know the secret but I couldn't really help them.
     
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    Good communication can avoid all this but in the long term cbrmale is correct.
     
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    She's 8 weeks pregnant...get a grip!
     
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    :phat What she said!!!

    Sounds like some of you guys are draggin your women by the hair carrying a club in the other hand.
     
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    Dont put anything in your body your doctor doesnt know about....EVERYTHING goes to your baby....He/she is more important than your bf's sex drive....Just sayin.....
     
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    I wouldnt really recommend taking anything at all. Every nutrient that goes into your body will go from your blood stream to your placenta and into your baby. And yea it will get better. Just wait untill your hormones become out of wack; your sex drive will probably make your b/f back track on his statement of never dating someone with a low sex drive.
     
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    Seriously man, what orifice did you pull this "fact" from?
     

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    In the long term, yes. Definately .....but we're only talking a matter of months...I mean, I'm as horny as anybody, but I can't see forcing the sex issue in between bouts of morning sickness or any of the other issues that may arise during pregnancy. My ex was on bed rest for part of her term.......
     
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    For those being harsh on the bf, I just want to point out that she never mentioned him putting pressure on him, just that he said he was horny and not getting the outlet that he is used to. He is just holding up his end of the relationship by communicating how he feels, and she came here looking for ideas to help them come to some sort of compromise. There may be more to the background, but we don't know that.

    She is feeling I adequate and looking for ideas to improve, if everyone she asks tells her that her bf is an asshole (he may be but we don't know that) , she is going to move on feeling even worse.


    Also I did have a thought that might help the op feel more in the mood. Set multiple times throughout the day for you to lock yourself in a room alone and masturbate. If you are out or at work, just go to a bathroom or your car. It doesn't have to be an elaborate ordeal, just a quick orgasm. The orgasms will be good for your mental well being, plus if you are like me the more I masturbate the more I desire sex.
     
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    Mira I understand what you are saying but to tell a pregnant woman that your last gf's wanted it everyday is utter crap. I'm not sure if you've been pregnant and I know all us women are different, but once my morning sickness set in and tended to last all day, the last thing I wanted was sex. I think he can have a little more understanding since she is going to be the mother of his child and he can ride out the storm like every other father before him in a decent manner.
     
  19. Mira

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    But if he said this as a matter of conversation previous to his sexual frustration and she is keying in on that fact and connecting that to herself not being in the mood while he is, the solution is communication and that does not make him an asshole.

    If on the other hand he said something like "all my exes gave it to me everyday, why won't you" , the I whole heartedly agree that is pretty shitty."

    And no, I have never been pregnant, so I have nothing to add about that. Just saying that we shouldn't make assumptions from 3 sentences of back story as she may very well have condensed all of the background and got right to her question "how can I get in the mood?" because she didn't expect people to respond to the background but rather the question.
     
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    Tell him to fuck off. Your in the first trimester. Of course you feel like shit and he should be supporting you and showing some compassion. NOT making you feel insecure and inferior and he most certainly should not be comparing you to other women. He chose you. And YOU are carrying around a baby. And he should be treating this time like it is special because it is. What, he can't jack off? Are his hands broken? Jz.