50 shades of cautious optomism.

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  1. boobjob

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    My wife of almost 22 years and I once had an amazing sexual relationship but long story short: not quite the same anymore. There have been a few stops and starts but we have basically settled into a rut where she takes care of me when I am in need but she has little if any desire. That fact alone stresses her out and she doesn't like to talk about it. Since she is an amazing lover I can still get by but I long for the days of great sex.

    A couple of weeks ago we were out to dinner with friends who mentioned 50 Shades of Gray which has topped all kinds of best seller lists. It has invigorated their sex life. When we got home though my wife was dismissive but last night she went out with adifferent friend and came home with the book. She hasn't mentioned it yet but she left it out where I might see it. So far I haven't said anyting. I looked through it and some of the writing is very hot. I am hoping she feels the same.
    Has anybody read this book? Is it as good as some people say it is?
     
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    Sorry for th long post. Simple question is: is 50 shades of gray any good? Will it get her juices flowing?
     
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    Well I am hoping it will pique her interest. She has never been interested in anything sexual on the internet. I am hoping that the fact that this "mainstream" will get her interested.
     
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    The writing is horrid but women around the world seem to love it. It's called "Mommy Porn" for a reason. The writer refers to her pussy with phrases like "love button" or "lotus flower" or other equally asinine descriptions. She constantly talks about her "goddess within" and when she orgasms she "goes to a castle in the sky". She does talk about things that might make your wife want to try new things in the way of bondage or Ben Wa Balls. I personally think what most women are interested in is the story line of being abused and controlled by a man that is completely obsessed with her.

    It definitely won’t hurt that she is reading it and it could rekindle your sex life!
     
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    I have always wanted to try a little light bondage and she hasn't been interested. When we were more adventurous the furthest it ever went was me pinning her arms down while I was on top of her. I will keep my fingers crossed.
     
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    Oops duplicate post
     
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    My wife has just read the trilogy. She said she liked the story and that some of the sex scenes where " interesting ". We are by no means into the BDSM lifestyle but we have tried the cuffs and blindfolds in the past. This book did bring them back out for play time so it must have piqued something.
    Obviously I am not an expert. However, in my opinion, If you are interested in exploring this with your wife, start with just a blindfold. Take away her sight and concentrate all of your best efforts on her sense of touch. Make sure that you give her the best orgasm ever and then don't mention it or try to use the blindfold again for at least the next month. If she is reading the books during that time, she will probably be very interested in the blindfold next time as well as some other VERY SMALL addition to your new journey as a couple. Good luck and keep us posted.