[Ask a Guy] 3 some

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  1. wulfilyshus

    wulfilyshus New Member

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    Not the male fantasy of having two women at once.

    Men how do you feel if your SO came to you and wanted a threesome with two guys? Would you let her do it? How would you feel?
     
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    I have had more MFM 3somes than anything part of the excitement for me is her pleasure I know that she will be going home with me and this is just sex . Trust is the number one thing in a 3 some if you don't have complete trust I don't recommend even trying.
     
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    I had a buddy that asked me to do a threesome with him and his girlfriend, I couldn't do it. If I couldn't do it with his girl I certainly couldn't handle it with mine. I guess to me sex is between a man and a woman.
     
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    This was on my fantasy list last year and the first to be fulfilled. At first i wasnt sure if he was just doing it so we could check it off my list, but now that we have done it more than once and have really enjoyed ourselves, i know that his pleasure is seeing me be pleasured and being part of that action.
    Boy, have I got a new story to tell ya'll
     
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    After years of being relative conservative in bed, my husband and I open discussions about having a 3-some.

    I told him I would not want a 3-some with another woman involved and he seemed fine with that. If he was the first one that brought it up and was the one that suggested a MFM 3-some I would not think anything of it. I'm just glad that it's on the table.
     
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    Nope, I'll pass. She'd never want it anyway. I've overheard discussions she's had with a couple of friends. I don't even want a FFM. She's all I need.
     
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    Ditto on that backcheck, one is enough to please.
     
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    I'll let ya know
    For me,the idea of it was more exciting then actual doing of it...
    Seems like a lot to concentrate on,lol.
    I prefer one on one too
     
  9. Trond

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    This is what I said in another thread:

    To me, having only one third of the mix being feminine is just too little . I guess I could have handled being part of a two-couple partner-swapping thing, or even better: being alone with two ladies. But two men and a girl is just not my thing. Too much testosterone!

    Adding to that: I rarely like guys that much at all. They really have to "prove themselves" for me even to consider them friends. Perhaps it comes from growing up with two older bully brothers, but I find women a lot more fascinating (no, not only as sex objects, although I wouldn't mind having a small harem of my own. OK, no I am sounding seriously chauvinistic :lol)

    Sultan Trond has spoken.
     
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    I realize this is probably topic for another thread, but I really don't get the thought process that green lights a 3way one way, but not the other. It can be somehwat justified with "my husband/wife is fine with it" but it still seems wrong in the end to have a mind that says "what I want is fine, but over my dead body if the opposite/inverse is wanted." Not trying to pick on you or start anything, I just genuinely don't get the mindset that this comes from.
     
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    I can't seem to say anything right, can I?

    Will you please PM me with the reason why you have to contradict me in every thread? I'm just dying to know.
     
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    *sigh* Sure. Though I'm not sure what part of "Not trying to pick on you or start anything, I just genuinely don't get the mindset that this comes from." is misunderstood in such a way that you still feel personally attacked.
     
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    Sorry for sticking my head into this. To attempt to answer TR's question (I suppose it fit my comment as well as that of BW): I agree that there is really no logic to it, and that it might be seen as unfair unless both parties prefer the threesome to be the same way (two men or two women, depending on whom you ask). This is why it will probably never happen in my case. :eyes

    But I might also add: sex isn't always the most logical (or even fair) thing in this world.
     
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    I totally understand the lack of logic, that part applies to a lot of the BDSM kink stuff that I just cannot wrap my head around. Fair I guess I would disagree with.

    That said, I don't want to derail this thread, so I think I shall start another for this part of the discussion.
     
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    id do it with someone i didnt really care about.
     
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    Somebody you don't really care about??....how does that work?
     
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    I wold only do a 3 some with a girl I was not in love with. If I am in love with her she is mine and would not want to see her with anyne else
     
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    I had two threesomes - both MFM, one with with a friend and his g/f which was fun but felt a little awkward afterwards.

    The other three of us friends were drunk and had sex in the local park at night time. Wasnt really sexy though just a rushed fuck.
     
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    The third male in a couple situation is the key. He has to be sexually confident or else he wouldn't be there, he has to be considerate of the couple and their intimate closeness to one another, he has to focus on the woman and meet her longing and desire, and when it's over it's over. A splendid time has been had by all, and it's time to move onto the mundane rest of our lives. The woman may want it slow and gentle, but two men rather than one, or she may want to live a porn-film scene, and you've got to recognise how far she wants to go in order to satisfy her fantasy.

    Not all men have these traits together.
     
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    I have been trying to get my girl to try this. Im not bisexual at all but I would like to see her being pleased as well as her pleasing me. It has been a fantasy for me for years and I'm thinking it will stay as a fantasy. I have expressed to her that I would be 100% on board with it but I think she thinks I'm joking.