23 and never gotten laid.

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  1. redelman431

    redelman431 New Member

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    Im 23 years old and only 5'6 and weigh 183 lbs. I am currently in college for my second degree. I have never gotten past oral sex and that was the closest thing I ever had to real sex. Im currently sick and tired of masterbating and I want to finally get laid for once. I have tried all kinds of things to get laid, I have bought a fast car, changed my wardrobe, lost weight all the way down to 154 (only to see it not work and gained it all back) Can someone tell me what exactly am I supposed to do in order to get laid. Please give instruction in detail, don't be vauge. I have no clue on what I am supposed to do to get laid.
     
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    If it is all about you and not being able to satisfy the needs of yourself AND a partner then why not just get a hooker? Sex isn't just about getting your rocks off. That is basically just masturbation in my opinion.

    Now if there was someone you really liked and lusted to have sex with then that is different. Again, just my opinion.
     
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    Get off here and go meet some women :), i'm 2 inches shorter and slightly heavier and i'm married, so if I can do that theres hope for you :). Theres no instruction, but if anything focus on your social skills more than your physical. Get yourself out there! :)
     
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    the car, wardrobe, etc, only work if the confidence is there. I'm 5'8" now but I was 5'4" and 127lbs at graduation and got all I could handle. You have to believe no woman is out of your league, you have to persue them as you have your education. Shy doesn't cut it, the car and clothes can get their attention, but you have to be able to hold them. Look at it this way, the apperance can set the hook, but confidence and personality are what reel them in. Don't be afraid to talk to them, even some off the wall observations in passing can open up a conversation and lead to reeling them in.
     
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    Yup, hire a hooker. That ways it's all about you.
     
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    There are plenty of people I like and lusted for but I have no idea how to get them in bed. Also where can I find a hooker?
     
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    Have you talked to them developed a rapport with them? They used to advertise in the yellow pages under Escorts. Sometimes in any metropolitan street they'll come up to your car. Try Adult Friend Finder, you might be able to find a quick hook up in your town. But honestly...wouldnt' you rather find a girl you really care about that makes it "worth the wait"? Theres no shame in starting late, but to just find someone to use, there is shame in that. Plus pick the wrong chick and they'll give you the gift that keeps on giving, herpes!
     
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    Google escorts in your area.
     
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    Ok, that is different. You made it seem like you just wanna fuck just to say you have done it.

    Do you know them or are friends with them? Do you have a sarcastic personality? If so, jokingly ask them to if they would like to be your first and teach you a few things. Shy guys have it much harder than shy girls. I am extremely outgoing and my DH is the complete opposite. He is extremely shy. Had I not approached him first we would not be together today. Just step out of your comfort zone and make a move. It may be well worth it in the end.

    As for all the changes you made, why be with someone who wouldn't love you for exactly who you are? Screw those bitches and find someone who likes you for exactly who you are.
     
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    I have developed a good raport with some women, just what is the next step? Also, how exactly am I supposed to make a move?
     
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    If that's your goal, go down to the local dive bar, find a sloppy drunk woman falling off her bar stool, and ask her, "ya wanna bust my cherry?" If you're not picky, any one can get laid. I've seen some very rough, unkempt, toothless motherfuckers with unbelieveable body odor get laid. Of course the women usually match.
     
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    Just don't try so hard, just see where it goes. If it leads to fucking, it leads to fucking. If it doesn't you have really good friends. Chicks can smell an agenda a mile like Hannibal Lector can smell the brand of lotion you use. Plus, you might find a girl who is thrilled to take your virginity ;) so might be an advantage ;). But i know where you're coming from,I lost mine late too.
     
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    And when they are that sloppy drunk they are usually open to anything so you can fuck AND fulfill multiple fantasies at once!
     
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    THough hopfully you won't get a rape charge if they're TOO drunk
     
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    Hey, never said there weren't risks....plus STDs.

    But if he wants to get laid just to get laid.....
     
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    Well maybe he can get with his friends to help him get laid or hook him up lol. They might know someone who wants a NSA fucking lol
     
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    I was in roughly the same situation ten years ago. I was actually much more "romantic" in my view (if I had asked for help back then, I would have asked how to find myself a girlfriend), but I still ended up sleeping with a call girl out of sheer frustration. It can be hard to pin down what exactly the problem is, but lots of people struggle with the same thing.

    Before you find yourself a hooker, you might want to try a couple of things:
    -think about if you actually know a nice girl who may have been giving you some kind of signals that she is interested (shy girls are often very subtle). If so, ask for a date (send an email if you're nervous)
    -flirting with strippers may be easier at first, since they get paid to do that. If you are nice, polite, and tip them well, they will be even nicer to you. I was a lot more relaxed around girls after I started going to strip clubs. Warning: don't get too emotionally attached, even if you meet a super-cute stripper. It will very likely lead to a lot of heartache. Also, don't go to the cheapest-looking places. Read reviews about the clubs first.

    If you do contact a call-girl or escort, be extremely careful. Even the ones who call themselves "independent" are sometimes controlled by the mafia. You do not want to do business with that kind of people. And again: be polite, safe, and clean and also expect to pay a lot (if she is cheap, then there is something wrong).
     
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    This probably won't make sense before you've gotten your first poke, and it may not make sense after either, (and there will be an after,) but here goes:

    It really isn't that big of a deal.

    I remember my very first time. It was like a dry feeling, then a moist one, then a very moist one, and then on my way to her bathroom I saw her dad's gun rack shortly before I heard her dad's truck door slam shut. I was never able to perform with her after that and ended up moving on.

    But if it wasn't for that gun rack, I wouldn't have remembered a thing about it.
     
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    It's pretty easy to tell if someone is interested in you or attracted.For starters,their pupils dilate and their blinking increases.They lock eye contact with you,then shyly look away.
    They cross their legs TOWARDS you (away is a bad sign).They flip their hair,play with their drinks,bite their lips,giggle at all your jokes.These are subconscious things nearly all women do when interested.(the leg crossing and pupils applies to guys too though)

    If a woman wants you to touch her,she will move closer to you.She will perhaps playfully smack you or push you as a way to have physical contact.

    If you can read these signs,then you will know when to make your move.Don't just dive in though.You have to let it happen naturally.Nothing is a bigger turn off then someone who is so obviously trying to make it happen.You don't want to come off as desperate.
    In order to get a woman to want to have sex with you,it helps to make it more about her and less about getting your rocks off.Tell her how beautiful she is...how soft...how she excites you...women love hearing these things (who doesn't??)
     
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    best post so far :)