21 years old and can only get semi hard

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  1. mikerm125

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    Hi, I am 21 years old and when it comes to sex I can only get semi hard nothing like I could in my younger days. I masterbate a couple times a week, but even when I do that I cant get as hard as I could in my teens. I dont know if I am to nervous and this is affecting my hard ons or what. I havent had a lot of sex in the past. I recently got a new girl friend and I think she is very sexually attractive but when it comes to get with her I just cant get really hard. I dont want to ruin my relationship because of this. What do you guys think is it all in my mind or is it something to do with my body. I am freaking out about this, because I love this girl and I dont want to lose her. I appreciate your guys responses, thank you
     
  2. UnCut23

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    it's all in your head more than likely. just relax, don't think about anything or what anyone thinks or else you will get paranoid and not get hard
     
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    If you can't get hard even masturbating then it is not anxiety or stage fright.
    Suggest see a doctor to determine if there is an underlying condition such as diabetes.
    Do not delay doing this for the sake of your own health and possibly the relationship.
     
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    I can get hard when I masterbate its just not as hard as it used to be.
     
  5. Kermit

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    I know the feeling, wish i had those super hard ones i had in my teens.
     
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    There's a good chance that it might be psychological but there is no substitute for the opinion of a good Urologist. Maybe using some ED drug for a month or two would prime your self-esteem.

    You're probably too young for this problem, but maybe not: research has shown that arterialsclerosis (hardening of he arteries) first shows up in guys with ED. It appears that the small vessells and capillaries in the penis are the first to get shut down by an accumulation of cholesterol which is an indicator that the same thing is happening all over the body.
     
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    if things are ok medically then i would say this.....whenever i start to worry about how hard i am........i immediately start to lose a little hardness.... just relax as best you can..dont pressure yourself my friend..
     
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    Male here:

    As a 29y/o guy I had the same problem when I was 21...

    First remember as a teen you can do anything physically...lol 21 isn't old but it aint no 15...

    Second -- are you overweight or in general have a bad diet, that will hamper your blood flows, hence weak erections...I am overweight and was a lot worse a few months ago, every few pounds down my erections get harder and stronger

    Third -- I had a psychologist explain this to me with men it generally takes just one time having trouble rising to the occassion then bam subconciously you think you cant and it gets worst. So relax convince yourself you can get hard, try meditating a little and clearing your head before meeting up with your gf...have sex with the lights off and focus on foreplay and forget about your dick, when your ready to fuck, just do it forget about how hard you are, etc...an increase in your confidence will not only make you harder but will make you more attractive to her as well. Also remember it works both ways, a few steller performances and you'll be back on top.

    If those dont work(and by the way give it sometime to work and for you to master) yes ED can occur to men in their teens...but moofafa is right, go to your doctor and get checked, they will want blood work to make sure your sugar, oxygen, nitrogen levels, and testosterone are all normal...if they are you may have early ED, but Cialis and Viagra fix those easy...but they aren't cheap so try the other methodes first.
     
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    I was basically going to post the same thing.