20 year old virgin

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  1. 123rocky

    123rocky New Member

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    Hey guys,

    Im new to this forum so I hope that anyone could give me some advice as I really am in need for it.

    Basically as the subject says Im 20 years old and still havent had sex before, in fact i havent done anything sexual with a girl either.

    Id really like to but im afraid for a number of reasons

    1) my penis size isnt the best, when its flaccid its usually around 1-2 inches althought sometimes reaching inches if its slightly aroused. When erect its around 5 and a quarter inches big. Im afraid that if i try to get a blowjob or get into any sexual position ill get laughed at.

    2) my balls are quite hairy and although i shave them, there is still slight stubble there. Also the base of my penis shaft is quite hairy too and i dont wanna shave there because the skins so thin, it may cut. Also this links to the problem of my small penis because the hair seems to make my penis look smaller as well!

    3) im afraid that when i have sex or get head i wont be able to control myself. when i masturbate i can only last say 5 minutes tops and then i have an uncontrollable orgasm. IF i was to have sex then id probably cum after 2 minutes which is quite pathetic.

    4) my penis erections are quite different from those ive seen on porn videos! usually when a guy gets a blowjob his penis is partially or semi erect and still movable and the girl can move it around easily. when i have a erection most of the time its rock hard solid and dead upright... when i stand my penis faces the ceiling and if it try to push it down then its painful almost. Why is this? ALso seeing as my penis is quite small id need my penis to be fully erect to be at 5 inches... if it was partially erect then itd be less then 4 inches which again is atrocious



    Just a few other points ive noticed... sometimes when Im having sexual thoughts ill notice that after a while of my penis being aroused a small bit of semen will come out, even without me doing anything and even if the sexual thoguhts are minor - like seeing a 1 minutes of a sexy video on MTV Base ... is this normal?



    Thanks for anyones help, im sorry for these silly questions but Im in desparate need now!!

    Thanks agains
     
  2. 123rocky

    123rocky New Member

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    sorry just a few more points

    In terms of getting blowjobs, people tell me that the way sometimes they do it is - theyd get the girls hands on their crotch - for me id be embarassed to do this because the girl may start laughing an sayin things like, i cant find your penis! What should I do instead
     
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    Okay, first of all, every guy is different and every girl knows it. And you sound pretty normal to me.

    As for your concerns:

    1. Your penis is average size. That means that, while some guys are bigger than you, some are smaller too. And if you spend the whole time worried about your size, you won't enjoy anything. Also, if you get a girl who laughs at you, dump her ass on the spot. That would be like you laughing at her small boobs- something you would never do if you actually liked her, right?

    2. Don't worry so much about hair. Unless it's taking over your crotch area, trimming should be fine. Most girls are turned on by a man's hair- it reminds you that he's a man. If you really don't like it, though, get a wax. Lots of guys do now.

    3. No one can last very long the first few times. What you CAN do is work on it with masturbation. Get yourself close to orgasm, then stop. Close your eyes, count to 100, then start again. Stop yourself three or four times, maybe even more, then when you do orgasm, it will be amazing. Plus, you'll build up your resistance. If this doesn't work, you can always use desensitizing creams or a cock ring. Don't sweat. Just find what works for you.

    4. Every guy is different. Tell her what feels good and what doesn't. With the way you say your erection points, maybe you'll do better with a 69. An added bonus of this is that you can concentrate on her for awhile if you feel like you're getting close and don't want to come yet.


    Overall, don't worry about people laughing at you. If she's worth your time (and I hope she is, if you're going to be sexual with her) then she won't laugh at you. Remember: it's not the size of the boat. It's the motion of the ocean, baby. :)
     
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    I would encourage you to FIRST develop a relationship with a girl, one that includes mutual respect and trust. Having sex is not a 'right of passage' into adulthood (tho many think that way). When you decide to lose your virginity, it should be with someone that you sincerely care for, and she cares for you. In that type of setting, I guarantee, you will not receive a negative response. - - And 5 inches is quite within the norm. Porn does not give a person a real sexual education.

    There usually is a slight amount of stubble when a man shaves his balls - and for the very reason you mentioned. It's much better than having cuts and abrasions. No woman wants to lick and fondle scabs. :whoa

    You could try just carefully using some hair trimming scissors, and just thin the hair down there. This also eliminates th stuble look, as stubble softens up, once it gets slightly longer.

    A male virgin loses it quite quickly (regardless of what your friends may have told you). After all, its the most incredible feeling to have a woman giving you the pleasure that you have had to give yourself for so many years. But again, i refer to my answer in #1 - When you decide to lose your virginity, it should be with someone that you sincerely care for, and she cares for you. In that type of setting, I guarantee, you will not receive a negative response.

    Most of us here have been around the block (several times :lol) - and I think we all unilaterally agree - PORN GIVES A VERY WRONG INDICATION OF WHAT NORMAL BODY PARTS LOOK LIKE! Some penises bend right, or left, point down, or point up.... Once is gets in there, you have your very own signature masterpiece at work. And I enjoy, by far, a rock solid hard penis, when I give a blow job. If it's semi-hard, I just might think I'm not turning you on. :ugh

    Yep! totally normal, It's called pre-cum. It actually has several purposes, one being to help lubricate upon insertion.

    There are NO silly questions on :sf That's why we're all here talking and sharing with each other!


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    Hey! you sould like most guys i know..

    #1) ur size is compleatly normal... i personaly have never given head to anyone bigger than 5'6. and if she laughs or says anything to you shes not worth it.

    #2) body hair is compleatly normal... some girls dont like it but like i said if she likes u shes not going to complain.

    #3) Practice makes perfect

    #4) pornos... never compair yourself to them... its not reasonable or real.


    you have no worries your compleatly fine. everyone is different and thats what makes us beautiful in our own ways. and being 20 and a virgin... there is nothing wrong with that at all... im 19 and im a virginand i dont care wait until you meet the right person... i know lots of people that are older than you and virgins
     
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    Your size is about average, so you won't get laughed at. Girls don't laugh at penises in any case.

    You don't have to be shaved to have sex, but if you want you should use feminine razors because they are narrower and less likely to nick and cut. You can use them on your shaft with care, just plenty of soap and run them over the skin lightly. Pubic hair is not like facial hair, it is thin and shaves really easy, this is why you can shave your shaft with a light stroke and therefore not cut yourself. This is how I shave myself.

    You don't have to come quickly, I was older than you my first time and I lasted a decently respectable time. Indeed, I think because I was older, it was easier to control. Even if you come quickly , its no big deal, most girls who 'know' will not be expecting memorable sex for your first time.

    Porn videos are not a good example, porn stars are very much bigger than average men, which is why you are stressing over you otherwise average size. I think you may be surprised just how much your first girl will move your rock-hard erection around during blow jobs or intercourse. I don't know if the base of the penis gets more flexible with lots of sex or what, but no matter how hard and rigid, a partner can always pivot it into just the right position without any effort.
     
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    Premature ejaculation is quite common when young men first get to the point of having sex being highly aroused at the thought! Practicing masturbation techniques is a good way to prepare.

    I always found that masturbating just before a meeting that might lead to sex helped me. If I'd been on a long date and it looked like I was going to get lucky, I'd make an excuse to visit the bathroom and masturbate. It always worked for me, I rarely came too soon during intercourse!
    If you want to last longer when the time comes and you're having sex, slow down and think of something else, it's not easy, but there's always that job you need to do that will take your mind off cumming for a while. Although it may sound a bit weird, you'll be giving her more than she would get if you finish too early.

    Forget the hair, it isn't a problem being normal and as others have said, you're average size, so be comfortable with what you've got!

    Now get out there and start looking!
     
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    Hello there Rocky123!

    (Before i go on, this is my first post aswell on SF.. So please excuse any grammar mistakes i make due to the fact im much more use to the Msn Messenger/Yahoo Environment and not the Forum-Posting Format :))

    I am myself a 20 year old virgin but in a way.. i kinda think different or do not have the same fears/worries as yourself. Im for one.. Quite proud of myself for still being a virgin at 20 years old in this day and age, where society looks down on virgins. hehe, im just not going to conform simple as that.

    I do not have a religious background reasoning to it but i guess kind of a egotistical thinking that im not just not going to give it up to anyone. I want it to mean something and be an awesome moment when i give it up.

    Though ive had many opportunities and have recieved/performed sexual-acts such as blow-jobs and Eating a woman out.. i just dont go any further. Actually in all honesty.. i havent recieved a blow-job now for quite some months as i do not want to think that ive used a woman to fulfill my "sexual need or desire" that is just for pure physical-gratification.

    I believe sex should be both emotional and physical as it could be as close as we get to nirvana in this life. So in saying that.. Im waiting for that right-woman in my life.

    So please dont feel embarrased or ashamed that you are a virgin. The questions are not silly at all but very legitimate and some will answer themselves with experience.
     
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    A girl will not laugh at your penis.
     
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    thanks for all your replies... youve been very helpful.


    Just a few more questions

    I know that people say a girl wont laugh at penis size, but ive always thought that girls always talk about the size of their mans penis and how good sex they can have so im worried that i mite be the object of laughter in their friends circles sometimes (esp if I come too quickly and not able to give her an orgasm)

    My penis when rock hard is actually quite hard to move around or up and down because its so solid... are you sure that my girl would be able to move it around

    Also the girl that I want to lose it to has had sex with many guys before all who are quite big, so Im afraid that id fade in comparison to them and we might not be able to stay together, because other girls ive spoke to have said that sex is still very important in a relationship.

    thanks for all your help again people, much appreciated
     
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    oh yea just a couple more points

    regarding the pre-cum, fair enough its normal, but is it normal to have pre-cum at the slightest things. for example I was just laying down massaging a girl who i like and out of nowhere i could feel the pre-cum. it seems that it comes at the slightest thoughts. how do i stop it.

    Also this really isnt sexual advice but when theres a girl you like... do you let them know that your really missing them when your not with them. Because I have just done that and the girl hasnt text me back or anything. And i wanna text her to see what shes up to but ive already text her alot today and shes replied a couple times but not as much as ive texted her. i think im not gonna text her again for a couple days, but have i already done any damage and is there anything i can do to go over it.
     
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    Rocky:
    Listen to what these People are saying,
    All men have some doubts about something or the other
    and penis size is one of them, When I first started having sex
    at age 13 I thought mine was small, At about 7", And when I was 17
    to the day I went in the Army (didn't have a home) and started showering
    with the other Guys and was surprised that I was quiet large.
    And of course other things bother different Guys like acne, weight height
    and a host of other things.
    And just think of the problems Women have, Brest to small, to skinny
    hair not right and so on.
    Sex is not about how big it is or how good you are at it or any
    of those cosmetic things, Sex is about love and enjoyment either or both
    So lighten up on yourself, No Girl worth having will ever laugh at
    you, Its all in your head.

    Hiker
    :sf
     
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