If the forum-goers don't wish to read this because of it's length then I understand, but I'd really like some help and advice in these matters ahead. Now I could easily tell you that my friend is almost 20 years old and has never had so much as a sexual experience in his life, but I'm not going to lie, I'm the one that needs "help" here. I'm going to be turning 20 in a couple of months and I've had 0 experience in the field of sexual activity, some of you might find it pathetic and believe me, I'm not to happy about it either but that's why I'm here, to try and get some help. Now to start off I'll have to give you a mental picture of myself and a few details about my body: Age: 19 Height: 6' 0" Weight: 280 lbs Sexual Ori: Straight Eyes: Greenish Blue Hair: Dirty Blonde Penis: 5.5 in - 6 in Now that you hopefully have this slight mental image of what I look like I'll go on to more pressing matters. Most of my life I was always under the impression that if you are yourself and confidant that girls will get into you, recently..or maybe not as recently I've realized this isant true for most of the world, even though many might want to think so. I myself am quite the intellectual, I love reading and would rather discuss current events with a female then have sex and call it a night, that also may be the problem I'm still a virgin. I tend to use a high end vocabulary all the time because I'm use to it, and this may also be another reason. Recently I've been getting quite depressed over the fact of my virginity and saught out my friends for advice. They all seemed to say the same thing about getting laid: 1. First time should be with someone not so special to you. 2. Being intelluctual with the woman of today is not best for you. 3. Being yourself, in my case "smart" is not going to get you laid soon. Well I took these in stride and a couple days ago put them into affect. I attended a small part where it was a couple of my friends and my friends girlfriends lady friend. Now the only "available" guys at this get together were myself and my other friend. We drank and played Waterfalls and had a good time, at the end of the night while she was leaving I probably made the biggest mistake of my life, "I'm sorry if this is to forward but could I have your number?" Yep you heard correctly I said that, as you can see, the experience meter just dropped 10 fold. She said she had a boyfriend and left it at that, I understood and thought it was cool until the next day. The next day we had the same people at another get together and this time the girl that I asked for her number was drinking. Now I just started drinking recently and have never been drunk before, I never plan on it, I like to get the point of feeling good and that's it. Most of the time it takes me a while to get to that point because I'm bigger and can hold my alchohol better then most. Well during the party I was being my usual "smart" self and my friend was being his usual cocky I could get you by the end of the night self, needless to say at the end of the night I was sleeping on the floor listening to my friend and this girl doing whatever they were doing on the couch, I could of played it off as cuddling but when she got up and said, "I've got cum in my mouth." I knew what happened and what will happen in about 5 minutes. See now that my friend got what he wanted he wanted to push it further, into the regions of sex, so he pressed the matter, the girl refused and was makeing fun of his penis size and whatnot and then got annoyed and went into a different room. He followed her and being the sneaky person I am followed suit and listened at the door. Needless to say if my name ever comes out of my friends mouth while try to get laid by a girl again, we're going to have issues. Aside from that he got what he wanted that night/morning. I'm guessing the only reason she didn't fuck him in the living room was because I was there and for some god given reason she cared what I thought. Now I'm not an idiot, this girl was going into her 3rd year of college in the pursuit of a Bachelors in Social Work, not to shabby. So it pains me to think that she just fucked a dude that probably won't care about her 2 days from now, once again this may be another reason I'm a virgin. Since those nights I've told myself that I'm not resting until I get down to 180-185 lbs. I know this is possible within a year but I don't have that kind of time, I'm talking about a few months, by the end of summer no less, preferebly before. I need to change my lifestyle accordingly. Pretty much what I'm trying to get out of this Site is advice on how to go about loseing my virginity. I really have no problems being a virgin but having no experience with a female is quite depressing to most. As much as I hate to say it all I really want is to pick up a girl at a party, have sex, and then be done with it, if she feels the need to call me or wants to start something then I'm all for it, but right now is a crucial time in my life were I need to assert myself into a type of masculine role, because being the nice sensative guy that really does listen to a woman hasen't gotten me anywhere. So basically this is a plea for help, a shout-out saying, "I'm sick of laying down and taking the ridicule, I want to be the one with the girl at the end of the night, not the one listening to it."