2+2 doesn't = 4

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by paintedblue, Jul 31, 2012.

  1. paintedblue

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    My SO and I have recently been propositioned by another couple for a foursome. Although we are receptive to the idea, and my SO is very attracted to the other woman ( they have fooled around a little bit together before), it is the other guy that is the dealbreaker for us. My SO is not attracted to him at all, and to be honest the thought of him anywhere near us while naked really creeps me out.
    We are afraid of just saying no, because we don't want to hurt anyones feelings. Although she would have more fun with just the three of us, she doesn't want to exclude her husband for obvious reasons.
    So how do you go about letting them down easy, without hurting thier feelings? They are very good freinds, and are just starting to dip thier toes in the Swinger pool, so we dont want to be the ones that turn them off of the idea.
    Has anyone had a problem like this? Did it end badly? Should we just go for it anyways and see what happens, or is the this a good time to just tell the truth?
     
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    Maybe just explain to them that you value their friendship more as it is and do not want to take it to another level. I salute you for not going thru with a swap when not being attracted to one partner. Everyone needs to be confortable for full enjoyment, In the end you will feel better about it, just my .02!
     
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    That's kind of the direction I was thinking of going, but I'm afraid with everything the two girls have done already that he may not buy it. It's a shame too, because the other woman is very hot and I know it would be a great time if it was just the three of us.
     
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    I was wondering if the thread title was a reference to the book 1984.
     
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    Tell them yall have herpes!!!
     
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    Let the two girls get it together alone again then and leave the guys out of it.
     
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    Hell no! I wanna watch!:hyper
     
  8. 12barblues

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    Let the two ladies put on a show while the guys watch....then pair off for some same room sex with your respective partners.....it's a good compromise I think...
     
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    I agree, this is what my hubs and I have done when we didn't want anything to do with the guy.
     
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    And be sure to post the video here in the video section....thanks