1st time anal

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  1. mellie

    mellie New Member

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    Me and my boyfriend want to try anal sex , but im a bit nervous about it .
    Anybody got any tips to help me , like what best positions , does it hurt , is it worth it etc
    Thanks :D
     
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    Hey mellie, are you sure you want to do it. Just know that if you feel nervous or scared and don't really want to do it, you can simply say no. A good partner will understand that.

    If you want to do it, the best trick is to relax. Go both really slowly and use plenty of lube. Lube is a must when talking about anal sex. You can do it doggy-style or in another position I guess. I'd say experiment. Maybe also you're boyfriend can give you some tips if he's more familiar with it.

    I have personnally never done it (okay once maybe but I don't want to talk about it, that is really not a reference) so I can't tell you how it want for me.

    But obviously, this wouldn't really help since it differs from one women to another. Preferences differ. Some might like anal sex some might not. Some might experience pain while other didn't. But what I can say, is normally there shouldn't be pain considering you both go really slowly and use lube and you are relaxed...
     
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    Thank you jess :D , i want to try it , i just dont want to get it totaly wrong! boyfriend is as unexperienced as me so hes not much help but he wont force me into anything he is really considerate ;)
    Thanks for the advice.
     
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    I'm a big guy and have had anal a few times, actually more than a few times. One position that is recommended is the girl on her back, her left leg near her left shoulder, guy on top. It is strange, but it works! Another was the girl on her stomach, me above.

    Preparation for anal sex includes relaxation and lube. The best relaxation is your partner going down on you for an orgasm or three, some vaginal intercourse is also good to relax your mind and body. After some regular intercourse for a few minutes, you can switch to anal.
     
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    I haven't done it yet either, but it seems that the girl be hot first is pretty important.
     
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    Take it really slow and use lots of lube. Don't try and get his whole cock in on the first go. It took the wife and I almost two weeks of daily play to get my cock all the way in her ass. If you guys are in the right frame of mind, I'm sure you'll enjoy it anyway.

    I can remember the first time we did it. I was only able to get the head of my cock in. It felt like the circumcised head popped in, and we both had mind shattering orgasms. Each day we were able to work it in just a little bit more, until I was balls deep. It still took months before my wife gained really good control of her muscles back there. Now she bounces on top like there's no tomorrow and always has a great orgasm. As a matter of fact, we have sex about five times a week. Of that, we probably only have anal sex once a month.
     
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    As stated in every post above, lube is extremely important. My wife loves anal, but she has to be completely worked up first. If she isn't craving it, it ain't happening. For us, we found out that anal was something that 'just happens'. Usually in the heat of the moment during a great love making session she'll look at me and say 'Let's do it!'. I'll grab the lube and she'll get into the doggy position. It's a slow thing, but eventually she has worked up to taking all of me in!
     
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    I have an article on my web site about how to prepare for your first anal that you might find of use. I can't post the direct link yet, but go to the Sex Education section (the site link is in my signature), then Sex Techniques, and look for "Anal Sex."

    The key to making sure it doesn't hurt, and therefore is not a negative experience for you, is to make sure that you do prepare for it correctly. The article explains how I prepared for my first, and it was definitely a pleasurable experience for me. ;-)
     
  9. Tommyhot

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    Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned..

    The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all.
    Anal play for beginners

    Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY.

    First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure.
    Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP!

    Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in.

    Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug.
    Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK!
    After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco!
    GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE!

    The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
     
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    Anal is not for everybody and it does take a bit of practice to get it right. The main things to keep in mind is make sure your anus is streched out with some finger play, that you are relaxed, and allot of lubrication is used. Once your SO begins to enter make sure they enter slow and they stop if it starts to get too uncomfortable for you. Allow the feeling of uncomfortableness to pass and then let them continue entering. If they enter fast and hard it can be a very painful experience for you. Oh yeah one more thing, you SO should wear a condom to minimize the risk of UTIs (Urinary Track Infections).
     
  11. LogicMan

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    Ok... Tommyhot's tutorial is GOOD! I got one also:

    1) The FIRST MOST important thing is NOT the lubricant as everyone has been saying for YEARS! The FIRST MOST important thing is THE WOMAN’S ANUS MUST BE EXTREMELY EXCITED & FULLY STIMULATED CONTRACTING OPEN & CLOSE FIRST BEFORE anything is attempted. You can use all the lubricant you want in the world, however if her anus is NOT fully stimulated, the walls of her anus and the inner and outer sphincters of her anus muscles will NOT contract & OPEN to you, and forcing them open always cause pain. You’re NOT getting in with all the lubricant in the world! They are WRONG! Therefore, you must FIRST spend 15 minutes or more (depending on her response rate) massaging & tickling her anus with light & soft tapping like you’re playing a flute going up & down her butt-crack and running soft circles around her anus-rim opening (at the SAME TIME you MUST be sucking on her breast & playing with her vagina & anus for further distraction & extreme stimulation). You MUST have allot of patience & not penetrate her anus to soon before it is fully stimulated and twitching. You MUST keep tickling & teasing her anus softly (you can also use your tongue-only if you prefer, if concern about bacteria then use a dental dam) UNTIL: a) she’s fully relaxed & is really enjoying this anal-stimulation pleasure and b) she’s responding to you by breathing heavily (panting), squirming & shaking around, she’ll have short gasps with little low groans, her legs may start to spread wider open as she arches her back and sticks out her buttock to allow you better access to tickle her anus (she may also even have a big smile on her face) c) however, her anus is fully stimulated when her anus muscles are NOW gyrating & contracting & twitching open & close. Now the walls of her anus and the inner and outer sphincters of her anus muscles are relaxed, FULLY stimulated and excitedly automatically contracting open & close for you. ONLY NOW is it time to follow #2 important rule below
     
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    i've never tried it b4 either but i'm sure these other replies helped u out they sure helped me out
     
  13. LogicMan

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    2) The SECOND MOST important thing is USING THE CORRECT TYPE OF LUBRICANT FOR EASY PENETRATION! Once again everyone has been saying for YEARS that you should use a “Water Base Lubricant”. That is NOT necessarily true. That is only partly correct (but it is MORE of a protection to use a “Water Base Lubricant”). However, here’s the problem, a “Water Base Lubricant” is NOT good for EASY PENETRATION since it dries out to quickly and could NEVER last as long as a “Petroleum greasy Base Lubricate” (I don’t care what anyone say arguing about this point, it’s true)! However, here is the reason why everyone recommends a “Water Base Lubricant”. A “Water Base Lubricant” is the best to protect silicon or rubber toys & items as condoms (NOT best to protect your butt for easy penetration!) A “Petroleum Base Lubricant” is MORE thicker and will stay GREASY about 4 times as long than anything else. However, the problem is that it will break-down and damage the silicon, rubber or condom you use and you could catch a disease. Therefore, if you’re using a condom to protect you from diseases, you better use a “Water Base Lubricant” to protect the condom (but this will lead to a quicker dry?out time and it being more difficult to penetrate her anus and it will not last long as you’re sliding in & out of her anus causing her discomfort. However, my personal view is, if you’re in a committed relationship and neither one of you are cheating on each other and neither one of you have any diseases and you don’t mind risking a bladder infection (on rare occasions) then using a “Petroleum Base Lubricate” MAY be the way to go because simply put, it will last 4 times as long as any “Water Base Lubricate” could and you will slide into her anus with much much more EASE (before she ever notices it if you have followed #1 above) and it will also last longer as you slide in & out of her anus pleasuring her longer before the lubricate dries out and began to cause discomfort to her. It’s your RISK & up to you. Do you want EASIER penetration & longer lasting lubricant which will lead to longer lasting anal?sex (Petroleum Base) or do you want added more protection against rubber condoms & diseases with a more difficult penetration (Water Base) and a shorter lubricant dry?out time which will lead to shorter anal-sex because of discomfort (Water Base). Now, it’s up to you & your risk level.
     
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    3) The THIRD MOST important thing IS THE ANGLE IN WHICH YOU SLIDE YOUR PENIS INTO HER ANUS. Not to many people is aware of the fact that the rectum is not a straight tube. It has a couple of curves in it, and the specifics of the curves vary from person to person. It is mostly shaped in an upward angle (not straight back to front). Therefore, anything inserted into the rectum must negotiate these curves. However, I find it is best if she’s lying on her stomach, not doing it doggie-style which can lead to him accidentally hitting the side of the anus walls causing pain & discomfort (of course that depends only if the guy has self-control and won’t penetrate until she’s ready & won’t go deeper until she is ready & asks). What he should do is penetrate her with his very greasy (Petroleum Base) penis sliding FLAT up against her butt?crack into her anus (don’t ever lift up the penis in the air & stick it head first straight down inside her anus). Lifting your penis & sticking it directly straight down into her anus can cause pain hitting up against the anal wall. Your greasy penis should always lay FLAT up against her butt?crack & just slide ONLY an INCH UPWARD inside her anus. When only the TIP of your penis?head is inside her anus, you should still continue to lay the rest of your penis FLAT against her butt?crack (don’t lift up) & then slide UPWARD, (that is the angle in which the anus is shaped) sliding UPWARD (only about an inch) toward her spine (only back & forth an INCH, back & forth only an INCH). Just enjoy pleasuring HER & just enjoy doing her inside her butt even though you have ONLY the TIP of your penis-head in her anus (enjoy that)! When she’s ready, her anus will start contracting again & automatically open up even more telling you that she is enjoying this and she wants you to now go just a little deeper. It’s the SAME as I already stated in #1 above, you can tell if she wants you to penetrate deeper into her anus, if she starts breathing heavily (panting), squirming & shaking around, she’ll have short gasps with little low groans, her legs may start to spread wider open as she arches her back and sticks out her buttock to allow you better access to her anus (she may also even have a big smile on her face). As her anus contracts and open up even more, you can ONLY NOW go another INCH deeper (penetrating a total of 2 inches or now just the HEAD of your penis) sliding back & forth, back & forth, sliding in & out, in & out (without lifting your penis but keeping it FLAT up against her butt-crack). Before she realizes it, you will have 25% (under half) of your penis inside her anus & doing her up the butt.
     
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    use a butt plug and lots of lube and relax
     
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    Relax, relax, nice and SLOW, lots of lube abd relax.
     
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    I pretty much agree with everyone.. Also, lots of foreplay will help you get into it much easier (for me anyway). It also helps me relax and feel comfortable. :)
     
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