19 years old and cant stay hard, wtf?

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  1. Sirhc

    Sirhc New Member

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    I made a post earlier about this, and got two replies, both which had advice which I followed. Pretty much been trying to think less about it and just relaxing during sex, and I think that's worked a little bit, but still sometimes I get soft during sex, and its driving me and my girlfriend crazy. I'm 19 years old, what should I do? What are some things that might make me have stronger and longer erections? This is really bothering me, and yeah, next time I'm at the doctors I will ask. :(
     
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    I would see to it that "next time" came real soon, like as soon as I could get an appointment!:eyes
     
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    I agree with Buffalo. None of us are doctors here, and that would be your best bet. Viagra would probably work, and you might try that for awhile to rebuild your confidence, but at 19 I think I'd want to know WHY you're having problems with erections. For us old codgers circulation problems aren't that rare, but at your age? See a doctor either way.
     
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    Yupp go see the Doc, could be medical, could be mental.... they will be able to help you.
     
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    I reckon it's a self perpetuating cycle. It might happen the first time just randomly because you're tired or something, and then the next time you're nervous/anxious that it'll happen again. Which it promptly does due to the fact that you ARE nervous. Joe's idea sounds good. Get on some meds for a while to rebuild your confidence and you should be fine.
     
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    This may or may not be a contribution factor in your case, but just thought I'd mention it... for a lot of people when they're around 19 y/o, not long out of home or away at college, dietry habits can be really really crap. For people where that is the case, diet will have an effect of sexual function. You'll know as soon as you read my post whether that applies to you or not. But if rather than a balance of fruit, vegies, meat, grains and dairy... your on a balance of Coco Pops, pop tarts, and anything from a drive though window... that could be part of the problem.

    I have friends of all ages, and am still a student myself... and just about every time I visit friends in a household of all young male college students I end up saying "I'm hungry... and all you have in the fridge is Coke, beer, milk that's past the used by date, and a very suspicious looking block of cheese".

    All the best with your medical appointments as well. May you could ask the doctor if there is a specialist that he/she can refer you to.
     
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    I have mental problems like this but its not during the act of sex. Its the whole thing of getting hard really at all. Like i can get extremely turned on but no get hard really.

    And whether im in a position to use it in anyway or not...if im very turned on and making out or sumthing at that time i feel i SHOULD b and wrong that im not.

    One time i was hard and all was good...i got a lil bj action and stuff and then as soon as we were going to take it further i go to put a condom on and went limp like as soon as i opened the condom...that was like 2 or 3 years ago and im STILL a virgin.
     
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    Well, my diet sure isn't good, and I actually thought about that, too. I'm gonna try to eat better, gonna completly stop masturbating AT ALL, and now that my girlfriend is on the pill (Day 7 is tomorrow, woohoo!), we'll see if not using a condom helps at all. I doubt thats the ONLY reason, but hey, every little bit might help! but yeah, i'll definatly ask the doc next time I have an appointment

    Oh, also, I should add, I have no problem at all getting an erection and staying hard for ANY amount of time if its just me, which is weird..... which kinda leads me to believe it might be psychological somehow? I dunno, figured I'd throw it out there though
     
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    I reckon it's probably mostly psychological. I mean I've experienced the same thing occasionally. Like I mightn't perform as well as I wanted to one night and then that would make me feel nervous the next time. Then simply having nerves about performing generally made it almost impossible to get 100% up. Pretty sure it's all in the head.
     
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    Relax!!

    If you can get and stay hard by yourself, of course it is psychological! Stopping masturbating will help, most likely. You can't ejaculate and then expect to become hard just because she arrives 10 minutes later.

    Condoms are good for preventing pregnancy and disease, but they sure do a number on sensitivity too, and if it makes you feel self conscientious, then that may have a serious effect too.

    But be sure to get rid of any performance anxieties and just relax, and let yourself just go free. Laugh at it and just wait awhile until it gets hard on its own, but stop trying, like you were on some schedule. Enjoy her, enjoy the evening with her come what may -- but don't force things to happen. All the worry in the world will not get you hard, but it will keep you from becoming hard.
     
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    This post is funny but not haha funny , its because it rings so so true in places with a load of young males lmao...

    all the above advice seems very sounds...plus do you exercise at all ( that can help get rid of built up stress and worries which can also add to erection problems

    Healthy eating = healthy body + mind
    Exercise = Healthy body & mind
    Healthy mind & body = ( Usually ) healthy erections

    For males obviously hehe
     
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    Eh, with my busy work schedule, I barely have enough time for hanging out with my friends or my girlfriend , I almost never have time for my other hobbies either, but I will try to exercise more often, as well as eating better. I wouldn't say that my diet is REALLY unhealthy, but I only eat like.... 1 real meal a day, and I guess realistically it isn't even anything THAT good.
    Starting today I will make an effort to eat better, to exercise a little more, and to have as much fun with my girlfriend as possible, without worrying or thinking about what has happened in the past. Thanks for all the great suggestions and thoughts, any more are VERY welcome and appreciated too, I'd like to hear as much about how I might solve this problem as possible! Thanks!
     
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    "I'm hungry... and all you have in the fridge is Coke, beer, milk that's past the used by date, and a very suspicious looking block of cheese".

    Do I know you? This sounds uncomfortably suspicious, like you've been looking in my refrigerator, and I'm 61 and married! ;)